What are people in DC’s honest views of southern women

[Anonymous]

No view. Don't care. Like ranch waters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares. I really mean that: No.One.Cares. Meaning that if your idea of small talk is telling me about your sorority and your debutant balls and teas, I really don’t care. You don’t need to hide it. Many of also also belong to sororities and even made debuts. For the most part, we don’t bring that kind of personal stuff to work with us though. I won’t be scouring your social media. Just be a decent, competent coworker — that’s all I care about.

Also, you should know that DC — not “Washington” — used to be very much a Southern city. See the famous quote by JFK. So if you’re talking to DC natives about your “Southern” identity, wondering why some of us might seem “judgmental” to you, it might be because you’ve said something that makes one of us think that you’re repping for the KKK or the Daughters of the Confederacy — as opposed to, say, being upset that it’s hard to find White Lily flour at local grocery stores.

Examples would be nice, if you’d care to share a few, just so we all have a clearer idea of what exactly it is that you think might be prompting judgmental responses from your coworkers.

Do you honestly think she's saying something that suggests she's "repping for the KKK?" Get over your arrogant self.

If you're an "actual" southerner from the south and your family had money when they were growing up... well, you're only 2 generations displaced from Jim Crow, i.e., your grandparents. And 4-5 (i.e., their grandparents) from cohabitating certain public spaces with former slaves that you despised so much that you passed laws so you didn't have to cohabitate with them. Its shameful that people that proudly say they're from the south actually mean the white part of it.

It's shitty to blame someone for their heritage and for whatever her ancestors did or didn't do. Should we assume that all Cambodians are descendants of Pol Pot and hold that over their heads? Maybe OP should pay reparations, hell, not even draw a salary, just give it away because she doesn't deserve a good life because she comes from a family of rich Southerners. GTFOOOH

The other day I had someone accuse me of "glorifying slavery" because I said I had a Union Army ancestor who fought the Confederates throughout Grant's Vicksburg campaign. I had to just shrug it off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares. I really mean that: No.One.Cares. Meaning that if your idea of small talk is telling me about your sorority and your debutant balls and teas, I really don’t care. You don’t need to hide it. Many of also also belong to sororities and even made debuts. For the most part, we don’t bring that kind of personal stuff to work with us though. I won’t be scouring your social media. Just be a decent, competent coworker — that’s all I care about.

Also, you should know that DC — not “Washington” — used to be very much a Southern city. See the famous quote by JFK. So if you’re talking to DC natives about your “Southern” identity, wondering why some of us might seem “judgmental” to you, it might be because you’ve said something that makes one of us think that you’re repping for the KKK or the Daughters of the Confederacy — as opposed to, say, being upset that it’s hard to find White Lily flour at local grocery stores.

Examples would be nice, if you’d care to share a few, just so we all have a clearer idea of what exactly it is that you think might be prompting judgmental responses from your coworkers.

Do you honestly think she's saying something that suggests she's "repping for the KKK?" Get over your arrogant self.

If you're an "actual" southerner from the south and your family had money when they were growing up... well, you're only 2 generations displaced from Jim Crow, i.e., your grandparents. And 4-5 (i.e., their grandparents) from cohabitating certain public spaces with former slaves that you despised so much that you passed laws so you didn't have to cohabitate with them. Its shameful that people that proudly say they're from the south actually mean the white part of it.

It's shitty to blame someone for their heritage and for whatever her ancestors did or didn't do. Should we assume that all Cambodians are descendants of Pol Pot and hold that over their heads? Maybe OP should pay reparations, hell, not even draw a salary, just give it away because she doesn't deserve a good life because she comes from a family of rich Southerners. GTFOOOH

The other day I had someone accuse me of "glorifying slavery" because I said I had a Union Army ancestor who fought the Confederates throughout Grant's Vicksburg campaign. I had to just shrug it off.

Ugh.
Those big words and concepts dovetail nicely into the Critical Thinking thread today.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some folks in DC are intellectual snobs who look down on any state that is not on either coast and on all religion. I’m a liberal church goer who grew up in “fly-over” country. I do sometime take offense at generalizations that come out of folks mouths. Honestly, I think you need to be yourself, and understand that the intellectual elite often lack perspective and real world experience with ppl different from themselves. But that’s not everyone by a long shot! There is an us vs them mentality that some liberals adopt that leads them to put all conservatives or southerners in a box that assumes there is no variation in their point of view. And the Elitism is insane (“they’re voting against their own interests” without any sense that maybe a white lady in Bethesda doesn’t know what the interests of a Latino man in Texas are)

Have you found a church community here? My one piece of advice would be to try to be more direct then southerners often are. Folks here lack patience for the indirect signals and pleasantries and want you to say what you mean and get to the point. You might also want to practice a couple of one-liners that calls ppl out for any sort of anti-south bias.

This is wrong. It's not an us vs them. DC is snobbish to ANYONE they believe is not as educated or doesn't have credentials. Doesn't matter where they are from.

You guys are making this up. I know a lot of people in DC, I live here too, and they are not snobbish about anything at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am a liberal northerner but a sorority girl. There are definitely sorority types here. The issue may be your politics. What type of work are you involved in?

I am liberal but I get negative comments sometimes from friends (both liberal and conservatives) about moms that decided to pause their jobs to raise their children full time. So I get it people can be judgy. You will find your people.

Also, without giving out too much info - were you in a national large sorority? If so see if you can find some locally to connect with. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Define sorority girl.

Because a UPenn or Dartmouth sorority is 10000% different than a Bama sorority and we all know it.

So spill the beans, what sorority and what school chapter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some folks in DC are intellectual snobs who look down on any state that is not on either coast and on all religion. I’m a liberal church goer who grew up in “fly-over” country. I do sometime take offense at generalizations that come out of folks mouths. Honestly, I think you need to be yourself, and understand that the intellectual elite often lack perspective and real world experience with ppl different from themselves. But that’s not everyone by a long shot! There is an us vs them mentality that some liberals adopt that leads them to put all conservatives or southerners in a box that assumes there is no variation in their point of view. And the Elitism is insane (“they’re voting against their own interests” without any sense that maybe a white lady in Bethesda doesn’t know what the interests of a Latino man in Texas are)

Have you found a church community here? My one piece of advice would be to try to be more direct then southerners often are. Folks here lack patience for the indirect signals and pleasantries and want you to say what you mean and get to the point. You might also want to practice a couple of one-liners that calls ppl out for any sort of anti-south bias.

This is wrong. It's not an us vs them. DC is snobbish to ANYONE they believe is not as educated or doesn't have credentials. Doesn't matter where they are from.

You guys are making this up. I know a lot of people in DC, I live here too, and they are not snobbish about anything at all.

It’s too diverse and international in DC for any one insular stereotype to take hold.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am a liberal northerner but a sorority girl. There are definitely sorority types here. The issue may be your politics. What type of work are you involved in?

I am liberal but I get negative comments sometimes from friends (both liberal and conservatives) about moms that decided to pause their jobs to raise their children full time. So I get it people can be judgy. You will find your people.

Also, without giving out too much info - were you in a national large sorority? If so see if you can find some locally to connect with. Good luck.

Troll OP isn’t going to respond. A true southerner lady would not have any of her concerns or questions whatsoever. She knows her worth.

[Anonymous]

Define “south”….
Technically it’s

Maryland
Dc
Virginia
West Virginia
North Carolina
South Carolina
Georgia
Kentucky
Tenessee
Alabama
Mississippi

[Anonymous]

I know a few, and they are great friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

We like southern people just fine.

The woke fuktards will assume you are all sorts of negative things about you based on your accent. it's no different than when ice officers assume things based on a Mexican accent.

If someone judges you on your southern accent, they are just bad people and you don't need to concern yourself with them or their opinions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define “south”….
Technically it’s

Maryland
Dc
Virginia
West Virginia
North Carolina
South Carolina
Georgia
Kentucky
Tenessee
Alabama
Mississippi

Louisiana
Florida

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define sorority girl.

Because a UPenn or Dartmouth sorority is 10000% different than a Bama sorority and we all know it.

So spill the beans, what sorority and what school chapter?

Utter BS /\/\

[Anonymous]

How can anyone of worth hate women from 1/4 of the country?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define “south”….
Technically it’s

Maryland
Dc
Virginia
West Virginia
North Carolina
South Carolina
Georgia
Kentucky
Tenessee
Alabama
Mississippi

Louisiana
Florida

Florida is definitely not in the “south”. Just a different culture.