What are people in DC’s honest views of southern women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP:
You say you don’t like Trump…..but did you vote for him in any of the 3 Elections he ran in?

Excellent question.

OP, I find that people don’t judge you about sororities and balls as long as you leave that in the past. If it’s still part of your identity, they’re judging you as immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Thank you!

OMG and you wonder why people don't like you when you all generalize about people from other regions in this way. FFS. So oblivious to your own hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Thank you!

OMG and you wonder why people don't like you when you all generalize about people from other regions in this way. FFS. So oblivious to your own hypocrisy.

What's wrong with YOU? As if DCUM posters don't generalize about southerners and the south all the time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one cares. I really mean that: No.One.Cares. Meaning that if your idea of small talk is telling me about your sorority and your debutant balls and teas, I really don’t care. You don’t need to hide it. Many of also also belong to sororities and even made debuts. For the most part, we don’t bring that kind of personal stuff to work with us though. I won’t be scouring your social media. Just be a decent, competent coworker — that’s all I care about.

Also, you should know that DC — not “Washington” — used to be very much a Southern city. See the famous quote by JFK. So if you’re talking to DC natives about your “Southern” identity, wondering why some of us might seem “judgmental” to you, it might be because you’ve said something that makes one of us think that you’re repping for the KKK or the Daughters of the Confederacy — as opposed to, say, being upset that it’s hard to find White Lily flour at local grocery stores.

Examples would be nice, if you’d care to share a few, just so we all have a clearer idea of what exactly it is that you think might be prompting judgmental responses from your coworkers.

Do you honestly think she's saying something that suggests she's "repping for the KKK?" Get over your arrogant self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Interesting. So, when you say that you “LOVE people from south (sic)” are you saying that you only “LOVE” and possibly have only met people who have actually left the South? As in, left the South to come to the Northeast /Mid-Atlantic areas of the country? If so, you might want to ask them why they left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

This is the absolute wrong place to come for any honest feedback

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Interesting. So, when you say that you “LOVE people from south (sic)” are you saying that you only “LOVE” and possibly have only met people who have actually left the South? As in, left the South to come to the Northeast /Mid-Atlantic areas of the country? If so, you might want to ask them why they left.

Same for all the northerners who've moved to the south.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares. I really mean that: No.One.Cares. Meaning that if your idea of small talk is telling me about your sorority and your debutant balls and teas, I really don’t care. You don’t need to hide it. Many of also also belong to sororities and even made debuts. For the most part, we don’t bring that kind of personal stuff to work with us though. I won’t be scouring your social media. Just be a decent, competent coworker — that’s all I care about.

Also, you should know that DC — not “Washington” — used to be very much a Southern city. See the famous quote by JFK. So if you’re talking to DC natives about your “Southern” identity, wondering why some of us might seem “judgmental” to you, it might be because you’ve said something that makes one of us think that you’re repping for the KKK or the Daughters of the Confederacy — as opposed to, say, being upset that it’s hard to find White Lily flour at local grocery stores.

Examples would be nice, if you’d care to share a few, just so we all have a clearer idea of what exactly it is that you think might be prompting judgmental responses from your coworkers.

Do you honestly think she's saying something that suggests she's "repping for the KKK?" Get over your arrogant self.

I have no idea, that’s why I asked for examples.
Again, it’s very likely that no one cares where she’s from, so I’m very curious about what she’s saying to people such that she feels their reactions are “judgmental “.
I’m not sure why you view my question as arrogant — as opposed to, say, overly sensitive to certain types of concerns, but, since you’re an anonymous internet stranger: whatever. Bless your heart!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Interesting. So, when you say that you “LOVE people from south (sic)” are you saying that you only “LOVE” and possibly have only met people who have actually left the South? As in, left the South to come to the Northeast /Mid-Atlantic areas of the country? If so, you might want to ask them why they left.

NP-I’m an American from the mid-Atlantic. And I love the south, and love southerners. And southerners in the south.

OP, you aren’t wrong to notice this. I hate that you have to hide who you are to fit in. Can you find a tribe of similar people? Like hang at SEC football night in a bar? Sorority meet ups? Church? Junior league? Other charity endeavors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Interesting. So, when you say that you “LOVE people from south (sic)” are you saying that you only “LOVE” and possibly have only met people who have actually left the South? As in, left the South to come to the Northeast /Mid-Atlantic areas of the country? If so, you might want to ask them why they left.

Same for all the northerners who've moved to the south.

Possibly, but no one here, as of yet, anyway, has proclaimed that they “LOVE” them — or attached a list of stereotypes. lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Also a European transplant. And I agree 100 percent. Southern people tend to be kinder, more humane, more interesting, more down to Earth. Also more curious and straightforward. I always like people who are really southern.

Please don't change a thing to "adapt."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares. I really mean that: No.One.Cares. Meaning that if your idea of small talk is telling me about your sorority and your debutant balls and teas, I really don’t care. You don’t need to hide it. Many of also also belong to sororities and even made debuts. For the most part, we don’t bring that kind of personal stuff to work with us though. I won’t be scouring your social media. Just be a decent, competent coworker — that’s all I care about.

Also, you should know that DC — not “Washington” — used to be very much a Southern city. See the famous quote by JFK. So if you’re talking to DC natives about your “Southern” identity, wondering why some of us might seem “judgmental” to you, it might be because you’ve said something that makes one of us think that you’re repping for the KKK or the Daughters of the Confederacy — as opposed to, say, being upset that it’s hard to find White Lily flour at local grocery stores.

Examples would be nice, if you’d care to share a few, just so we all have a clearer idea of what exactly it is that you think might be prompting judgmental responses from your coworkers.

Do you honestly think she's saying something that suggests she's "repping for the KKK?" Get over your arrogant self.

If you're an "actual" southerner from the south and your family had money when they were growing up... well, you're only 2 generations displaced from Jim Crow, i.e., your grandparents. And 4-5 (i.e., their grandparents) from cohabitating certain public spaces with former slaves that you despised so much that you passed laws so you didn't have to cohabitate with them. Its shameful that people that proudly say they're from the south actually mean the white part of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares. I really mean that: No.One.Cares. Meaning that if your idea of small talk is telling me about your sorority and your debutant balls and teas, I really don’t care. You don’t need to hide it. Many of also also belong to sororities and even made debuts. For the most part, we don’t bring that kind of personal stuff to work with us though. I won’t be scouring your social media. Just be a decent, competent coworker — that’s all I care about.

Also, you should know that DC — not “Washington” — used to be very much a Southern city. See the famous quote by JFK. So if you’re talking to DC natives about your “Southern” identity, wondering why some of us might seem “judgmental” to you, it might be because you’ve said something that makes one of us think that you’re repping for the KKK or the Daughters of the Confederacy — as opposed to, say, being upset that it’s hard to find White Lily flour at local grocery stores.

Examples would be nice, if you’d care to share a few, just so we all have a clearer idea of what exactly it is that you think might be prompting judgmental responses from your coworkers.

Do you honestly think she's saying something that suggests she's "repping for the KKK?" Get over your arrogant self.

If you're an "actual" southerner from the south and your family had money when they were growing up... well, you're only 2 generations displaced from Jim Crow, i.e., your grandparents. And 4-5 (i.e., their grandparents) from cohabitating certain public spaces with former slaves that you despised so much that you passed laws so you didn't have to cohabitate with them. Its shameful that people that proudly say they're from the south actually mean the white part of it.

Wow. So much hatred for millions of people because of where they were born. Thanks for sharing.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think this is political. I swear everyone on DCUM complains about the people here, but I e made good friends. Just be yourself OP. The more you cover up, the more you come off as not genuine. Be vulnerable and ask people out. It takes awhile to make friends.

[Anonymous]

Are you weirdly perky?