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Anonymous wrote:I'm the "old lady" as PP called me (goodness, I just recently took an early retirement) who she thinks I hate s*x. Hahahahahahaha!
Anyway, I think I have an interesting back story. So I'm 15, turning 16 and have my first boyfriend, who is actually a year behind me in school. We are very much in love and progressing through the "bases". I'm sensible and realize things might get carried away.
I think it might be smart if we consider birth control, but this is pre-internet. He agrees. What to do?
I see a magazine ad in the back pages that lets you tick like 200 boxes for pamphlets that you are interested in and send the page to Pueblo Colorado. It is random consumer interests, like vacation spots, medical interests, historical, etc.
One of the pamphlets is "Birth Control". But I worry if I order it, what if my mom intercepts the mail? So I tick off every box that sounds remotely academic or historical, including "Birth Control". I plan to tell my mom the random 30 pamphlets are for a HS research paper.
A few weeks later, a manilla envelope arrives with my 30 pamphlets. Mom hands it to me with no clue. Success!
Boyfriend and I study the Birth Control info and conclude the Pill is the best option, with a 98% assurance, but we will use abortion as a backup if we get unlucky (despite him being Catholic).
Now, thanks to Judy Blume and "Forever", I knew about clinics. I looked in the yellow pages under Pregnancy, Women, Birth Control, etc. and called all the numbers. I think I kept getting the same Planned Parenthood location. I mainly want to know if I can be seen without parent permission. Yes I can. So I make an appointment.
One school night, I told my mom I need to go to the big library downtown to do "research" and set off for my appointment. It was kind of like a cattle call, but I eventually get called back for intake info.
The head nurse is asking me all these personal and medical questions. She then says "When did you first have intercourse". I say, never, I'm a virgin and that's why I'm here - my boyfriend and I don't want to get pregnant.
She looks up at me, stares, throws down her pencil and tells me I am the first patient in her career who has ever sought out birth control before having sex.
I'm confused, and say doesn't everyone do this so they won't get pregnant? Apparently not.
So I get my first internal exam and an Rx. My boyfriend & I wait *almost* the recommended 3-4 weeks, And we then had sex every day for the next 4 years.
Hahahahahaha, again to PP who thinks I hate sex.
I knew my mother would not approve and I felt if I was mature enough to have sex, I was mature enough to do it without needing her approval or putting her into the difficult position of knowing this info.
I respected what I knew would be her dilemma, and also as the oldest kid, I didn't want to have an effect on my younger siblings by doing anything in my parents house.
It was never an issue finding a location elsewhere.
I think I had an idyllic first love, we were together many years, but I just outgrew him. I went to college a year early, then got my AA in 1 year, so now I was 3 years ahead of him.
Then he decided college wasn't for him, meanwhile I was taking Differential Equations, Digital Circuits, Physics with Calculus, and he was working at a grocery store after HS.
We parted ways amicably with no hard feelings when I was 20 and he was 19.
Anyway, my takeaway as an adult, was it probably wasn't the healthiest thing to start having s*x so early, and most likely most young couples wouldn't have the loving experience we did, and feelings would get hurt, someone would take advantage.
So my house rule for my kids was no closed doors for the same reason I showed my own mother out of respect. If they wanted to do things elsewhere, be my guest, but I was a big proponent of birth control and eventually did take one to get birth control before college.
Anyway, I just want to thank Judy Blume for educating me as a young 15 yo about birth control and how to obtain it!
I cannot imagine this is worth reading.
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