80% of women swipe on just 20% of men on dating apps

[Anonymous]

I am in the 20% but not a the West Elm Caleb 5% type. What we have in common is that we'll sleep with women on a first date or carry on a FWB type relationship with women we will never commit to. They should avoid us and be with someone in the 79% on down but they never do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should instead ask yourself why men consistently swipe right on a much higher percentage of women. Are they honestly interested in relationships with all of those women?

No.

And that's the difference. Women are choosy because they are trying to select for a life partner. Men are not choosy because hey, if they meet a life partner cool, but in the meantime, they are just looking for a warm bed. And unlike women, men don't have as tight of a timeline so they can play this game.

And if you are a man who is interested in a life partner, you need to better understand what makes you a good partner and highlight that. Women learn to do this from a young age out of necessity. Men can learn it too. Women want men who have their $hit together.If you are struggling on the dating market, start there.

Women want men who are tall, even if their faces are average. No different than men who want thin women, even if their faces are average.

Not all women. My DH is 5'7" and I'm 5'4". It was more important to me that he was totally into me, had a cute face (subjective), intelligent and some ambition. We were equally broke college students with middle class parents.

You still wanted taller.

I love that this post is right under one that said “Women will literally tell men what they’re into and men will call them liars.”

DING DING DING

Right?! They just keep themselves single instead of listening to actual women. But we know they won’t listen to women because they just actually hate women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Women need to be smart and realistic. Superficial attributes like height, looks, income, housekeeping skills won't make men good husbands or fathers. You need to find average looking men with above average qualities like kind nature, no violence, no drinking, no drugging, no temper, no cheating history, good education, steady employment, no debt, etc.

[Anonymous]

*actually all of these sound very average but you get what I mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Women need to be smart and realistic. Superficial attributes like height, looks, income, housekeeping skills won't make men good husbands or fathers. You need to find average looking men with above average qualities like kind nature, no violence, no drinking, no drugging, no temper, no cheating history, good education, steady employment, no debt, etc.

Those things are all good, but I would also look for good income and housekeeping skills. They both hugely impact married life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in the 20% but not a the West Elm Caleb 5% type. What we have in common is that we'll sleep with women on a first date or carry on a FWB type relationship with women we will never commit to. They should avoid us and be with someone in the 79% on down but they never do.

If a woman is attractive, well-off and doesnt need to marry/have kids, she would rather sleep with several FWBs like you for pleasure. And keep dating to find a mono relationship. No need to settle anymore

[Anonymous]

If you look at the apps you can easily see that a huge number of guys are on them for hookups, not relationships, whereas women want to date. It’s not that this 80 percent of guys are these nice, eligible nerds who just need a chance. The 80 percent we are talking about are not looking for relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe men need to focus on self-improvement, health, their weight, appearance, good fashion, etc. just like women do.
In our society, females are largely trained from childhood that you have to look good to be noticed. Men gotta catch up if they want to be seen.

That's your solution? whole society needs to become more superficial?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe men need to focus on self-improvement, health, their weight, appearance, good fashion, etc. just like women do.
In our society, females are largely trained from childhood that you have to look good to be noticed. Men gotta catch up if they want to be seen.

If more men went gay route, straight men would become a desirable commodity. Well, unless proportionate percentage of women also went same gender route. Men who aren't straight tend to be more into maintaining looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you look at the apps you can easily see that a huge number of guys are on them for hookups, not relationships, whereas women want to date. It’s not that this 80 percent of guys are these nice, eligible nerds who just need a chance. The 80 percent we are talking about are not looking for relationships.

Yea, they just want free f..k instead of using escort sites like seeking.com etc. Guys, you want p...y go to different sites and pay to hookers! Then all these men who are looking for relationships will have better chances with women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

No worries as 80% women going after 20% men doesn't work so 60% of them will come hack to reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe men need to focus on self-improvement, health, their weight, appearance, good fashion, etc. just like women do.
In our society, females are largely trained from childhood that you have to look good to be noticed. Men gotta catch up if they want to be seen.

That's your solution? whole society needs to become more superficial?

6/6/6 yo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need to get back to the "set up". At least then you know the bare minimum: the guy is actually single, the guy has friends who like him enough to recommend him, and the guy can't ghost you without affecting those friendships.
I online dated a string of artsy losers who had multiple dumb girls like me on standby until a coworker set me up with my husband.

I'm from Asia and matchmaking market certainly gives men an upper hand there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

No worries as 80% women going after 20% men doesn't work so 60% of them will come hack to reality.

....or stay single. That's the thing. Women have choices. If they don't find a man who meets their standards, even if you (or I) think those standards are too high, they can stay single, and increasingly are deciding to do so.

Being in a relationship is nice, but many women have come to the realization that men are far less necessary if they are willing to provide for their own financial and social needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.