80% of women swipe on just 20% of men on dating apps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember the story about "West Elm Caleb"?
Tall, handsome, straight furniture designer who was "dating" every young woman in NYC and they were all crying about him on social media because they all thought they were his one true love.
Men will do whatever they can get away with. It's because we carry the babies that we need to be picky. Part of that means not sleeping with a guy the day you meet him and figuring out that, oh, this guy will never commit and isn't worth my time.

As West End Caleb showed, women don't want to make that choice. Instead, they get mad and blame Caleb for their choices.

Young women, just emerged from their parents' loving home, think that they are so special that the handsome prince will surely fall in love with them. I wish my mother would have given it to me straight about what dogs men can be, and what to actually look for in a man. I was too idealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

This. Maybe a matriarchal society is not a bad thing. We have never really tried it.

This is suicidal

[Anonymous]

I think you should instead ask yourself why men consistently swipe right on a much higher percentage of women. Are they honestly interested in relationships with all of those women?

No.

And that's the difference. Women are choosy because they are trying to select for a life partner. Men are not choosy because hey, if they meet a life partner cool, but in the meantime, they are just looking for a warm bed. And unlike women, men don't have as tight of a timeline so they can play this game.

And if you are a man who is interested in a life partner, you need to better understand what makes you a good partner and highlight that. Women learn to do this from a young age out of necessity. Men can learn it too. Women want men who have their $hit together. If you are struggling on the dating market, start there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember the story about "West Elm Caleb"?
Tall, handsome, straight furniture designer who was "dating" every young woman in NYC and they were all crying about him on social media because they all thought they were his one true love.
Men will do whatever they can get away with. It's because we carry the babies that we need to be picky. Part of that means not sleeping with a guy the day you meet him and figuring out that, oh, this guy will never commit and isn't worth my time.

As West End Caleb showed, women don't want to make that choice. Instead, they get mad and blame Caleb for their choices.

Young women, just emerged from their parents' loving home, think that they are so special that the handsome prince will surely fall in love with them. I wish my mother would have given it to me straight about what dogs men can be, and what to actually look for in a man. I was too idealistic.

Huh. I did not come from a loving home and actually had extremely low self esteem when I entered the dating market because I had never been treated particularly well by anyone in my life.

This did not help me better identify "what dogs men can be." It just made me highly suspicious of anyone who was really nice to me or seemed very interested in me because I assumed they had ulterior motives (since obviously I was not worthy of that kind of affection). This led me to date a lot of men who withheld affection or put me down, not because I like "bad boys" (most of these men were good on paper in a respectable way, not like criminals or rock starts, but like lawyers and accountants who also were not very nice to me).

In raising my own daughter, I have emphasized providing her with a loving home and demonstrating a mutually respectful and kind relationship with her dad so that she knows to look for that as an adult. Sure, maybe I need to let her know that there are men who will say anything to get into your pants. But I think it's more important to model loving, respectful relationships so that when she meets men who have no interest in that, she will recognize it and think "this is not it."

[Anonymous]

Are 80% of women swiping on the same 20% of all men on OLD sites or are 80% of women only interested in 1 out of every 5 profiles they look at, but Sally’s preferred profiles aren’t the same as Janes’s? There’s absolutely nothing concerning about that statistic unless only 20% of men elicit more than a couple swipes. Even then, men can meet women in person and get set up on blind dates by friends. Not everyone can sell themselves with photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

This. Maybe a matriarchal society is not a bad thing. We have never really tried it.

Yes - and then women will realize having babies just sucks the life right out of you, so, as a species we should not have any more babies and we humans go extinct within one generation.

[Anonymous]

I honestly can’t believe this is really true. You’re telling me that 80% of men who use dating apps never get a date that way?
Then why is everyone still using these apps years later?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

This. Maybe a matriarchal society is not a bad thing. We have never really tried it.

Yes - and then women will realize having babies just sucks the life right out of you, so, as a species we should not have any more babies and we humans go extinct within one generation.

The number of single mothers by choice rising tells a different story. Raising children can be lovely if you're only responsible for yourself and your kids and not another grownup who is difficult and wants their own needs met over the family unit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember the story about "West Elm Caleb"?
Tall, handsome, straight furniture designer who was "dating" every young woman in NYC and they were all crying about him on social media because they all thought they were his one true love.
Men will do whatever they can get away with. It's because we carry the babies that we need to be picky. Part of that means not sleeping with a guy the day you meet him and figuring out that, oh, this guy will never commit and isn't worth my time.

As West End Caleb showed, women don't want to make that choice. Instead, they get mad and blame Caleb for their choices.

Young women, just emerged from their parents' loving home, think that they are so special that the handsome prince will surely fall in love with them. I wish my mother would have given it to me straight about what dogs men can be, and what to actually look for in a man. I was too idealistic.

Well, maybe the social construct becomes more like the animal kingdom. Those 20% of males impregnate the 80% of females that want to have children to pass on their good genes. Of course, no monogamy here, unless you’re the last lucky female to snag him at the end of his productive breeding years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m bisexual and out of pure interest like to scroll through female profiles sometimes. Many, many attractive women with well-thought profiles looking for relationships. When I scroll through male profiles- lazy fat faces and bodies, no thoughts in the profile to talk about, their interests are swatch sports with beer on weekends, dirty T-shirts etc. No thank you - I would rather be alone and travel with friends and relatives.

A man has to invest in himself : online dating is all about how you represent yourself.

I don’t think men realize how bad some of their profiles are. You have to remember that it is an Advertisement for yourself. Interesting and eye catching. But you get guys who have 5 dirty bathroom mirror selfies after the other, I seen pics with crumbs in there beard, close ups of very yellow teeth. Attention to detail and effort won’t take you to top but it will get you out of the weirdo pack at the bottom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m bisexual and out of pure interest like to scroll through female profiles sometimes. Many, many attractive women with well-thought profiles looking for relationships. When I scroll through male profiles- lazy fat faces and bodies, no thoughts in the profile to talk about, their interests are swatch sports with beer on weekends, dirty T-shirts etc. No thank you - I would rather be alone and travel with friends and relatives.

A man has to invest in himself : online dating is all about how you represent yourself.

I don’t think men realize how bad some of their profiles are. You have to remember that it is an Advertisement for yourself. Interesting and eye catching. But you get guys who have 5 dirty bathroom mirror selfies after the other, I seen pics with crumbs in there beard, close ups of very yellow teeth. Attention to detail and effort won’t take you to top but it will get you out of the weirdo pack at the bottom.

A deviation from discussion but I saw a dude advertising his c..k on a kinky site. The thing was clearly infectious. With massive rash on the tip of it. Disgusting .

[Anonymous]

I'm a divorced guy, mid 50s, with a solid career and decent looks. I get a decent number of likes when I'm on the apps, but I still get turned down most of the time. Most women are not into some combination of my age, looks, race, hobbies, politics, etc.

Rejection is part of the process. If you're successful, so are perseverance and resilience. You don't get to meet most women you like, and most women you meet don't end up wanting to spend time with you. That's ok. Just try again.

I definitely became more selective as the years passed. Even though I get turned down often, I discovered that some of the women I liked would like me, and we would enjoy spending time with each other.

By the way, the same advice goes for women who have trouble finding men. You may not be able to entice the handsome brain surgeon to take you to dinner (or to sleep with you more than once or twice, if he's willing (* but there are plenty of decent guys out there.

Perseverance and resilience go a long way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember the story about "West Elm Caleb"?
Tall, handsome, straight furniture designer who was "dating" every young woman in NYC and they were all crying about him on social media because they all thought they were his one true love.
Men will do whatever they can get away with. It's because we carry the babies that we need to be picky. Part of that means not sleeping with a guy the day you meet him and figuring out that, oh, this guy will never commit and isn't worth my time.

As West End Caleb showed, women don't want to make that choice. Instead, they get mad and blame Caleb for their choices.

Young women, just emerged from their parents' loving home, think that they are so special that the handsome prince will surely fall in love with them. I wish my mother would have given it to me straight about what dogs men can be, and what to actually look for in a man. I was too idealistic.

Well, maybe the social construct becomes more like the animal kingdom. Those 20% of males impregnate the 80% of females that want to have children to pass on their good genes. Of course, no monogamy here, unless you’re the last lucky female to snag him at the end of his productive breeding years.

I honestly wonder if the average height in the US is going to get taller when most of the short men lose out on women.

[Anonymous]

This needs to stop.

Somebody DO something!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m bisexual and out of pure interest like to scroll through female profiles sometimes. Many, many attractive women with well-thought profiles looking for relationships. When I scroll through male profiles- lazy fat faces and bodies, no thoughts in the profile to talk about, their interests are swatch sports with beer on weekends, dirty T-shirts etc. No thank you - I would rather be alone and travel with friends and relatives.

A man has to invest in himself : online dating is all about how you represent yourself.

I don’t think men realize how bad some of their profiles are. You have to remember that it is an Advertisement for yourself. Interesting and eye catching. But you get guys who have 5 dirty bathroom mirror selfies after the other, I seen pics with crumbs in there beard, close ups of very yellow teeth. Attention to detail and effort won’t take you to top but it will get you out of the weirdo pack at the bottom.

You have to think this is on purpose. Maybe it’s subconscious? Like, “if I put all of my worst qualities out front, and she likes me despite my beard dirt, then she will never leave me.”