80% of women swipe on just 20% of men on dating apps

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

No worries as 80% women going after 20% men doesn't work so 60% of them will come hack to reality.

....or stay single. That's the thing. Women have choices. If they don't find a man who meets their standards, even if you (or I) think those standards are too high, they can stay single, and increasingly are deciding to do so.

Being in a relationship is nice, but many women have come to the realization that men are far less necessary if they are willing to provide for their own financial and social needs.

Yet the most desirable, the ones with the absolute most options, almost always married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

This. Maybe a matriarchal society is not a bad thing. We have never really tried it.

Yes - and then women will realize having babies just sucks the life right out of you, so, as a species we should not have any more babies and we humans go extinct within one generation.

If both genders aren't willing to be good spouses and good parents then may be that's the end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.

I was in a poly relationship with extremely attractive and well-off man. It was great sharing him, honestly. I couldn't stay because he wanted sexual extremes, but I still think of him fondly. It was a very satisfying relationship. I'm single for over a year now, as I just don't find anyone who makes me happy the way he did

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

This. Maybe a matriarchal society is not a bad thing. We have never really tried it.

Yes - and then women will realize having babies just sucks the life right out of you, so, as a species we should not have any more babies and we humans go extinct within one generation.

If both genders aren't willing to be good spouses and good parents then may be that's the end?

The problem is that it's the top 20% that figure out that having babies sucks life out of you, but the bottom 80% keep reproducing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.

I was in a poly relationship with extremely attractive and well-off man. It was great sharing him, honestly. I couldn't stay because he wanted sexual extremes, but I still think of him fondly. It was a very satisfying relationship. I'm single for over a year now, as I just don't find anyone who makes me happy the way he did

What are the ways that he made you so happy and satisfied that you were willing to share, out of curiosity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

No worries as 80% women going after 20% men doesn't work so 60% of them will come hack to reality.

....or stay single. That's the thing. Women have choices. If they don't find a man who meets their standards, even if you (or I) think those standards are too high, they can stay single, and increasingly are deciding to do so.

Being in a relationship is nice, but many women have come to the realization that men are far less necessary if they are willing to provide for their own financial and social needs.

Yet the most desirable, the ones with the absolute most options, almost always married.

Okay. The point stands, though. Women are increasingly happy being single (and even those high status women often stay single much longer than men). You seem to be implying those women aren't actually happy, that they just don't have enough options, but that's just more telling women they are wrong about their own lives. Which is exactly what happens when women are forced to talk to men.

Women say they don't care about cars, height, money, or penis size. But you cannot convince many men to take women at their word, because men don't see us as worthy of speaking about our own life's, preferences, and experiences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.

I was in a poly relationship with extremely attractive and well-off man. It was great sharing him, honestly. I couldn't stay because he wanted sexual extremes, but I still think of him fondly. It was a very satisfying relationship. I'm single for over a year now, as I just don't find anyone who makes me happy the way he did

I don't think this is uncommon for women. They always remember the alpha that got away. I think in the future women will become more willing to share top men. It happens when women are young (especially in college). Why shouldn't women just do it throughout their lives? Especially if they don't need financial support, and, as DCUM always urges, are happy to have kids on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you look at the apps you can easily see that a huge number of guys are on them for hookups, not relationships, whereas women want to date. It’s not that this 80 percent of guys are these nice, eligible nerds who just need a chance. The 80 percent we are talking about are not looking for relationships.

This is such a good point. I am on the apps, but I filter for guys looking for a relationship, so I'm already only seeing fewer than half the men on the app. Then I look through the profiles, and one thing I've noticed is that dudes are highlighting the things they THINK women want, but they are actually things men want. So, a guy's profile will be a photo of him doing bicep curls, a photo of him in front of a fancy car, and maybe one taken in bed.

That's not what women want (in general)! I literally do not care what car you drive, but if you use one of your 4 photos to show me, we've already determined you have no idea what women want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

No worries as 80% women going after 20% men doesn't work so 60% of them will come hack to reality.

....or stay single. That's the thing. Women have choices. If they don't find a man who meets their standards, even if you (or I) think those standards are too high, they can stay single, and increasingly are deciding to do so.

Being in a relationship is nice, but many women have come to the realization that men are far less necessary if they are willing to provide for their own financial and social needs.

Yet the most desirable, the ones with the absolute most options, almost always married.

Okay. The point stands, though. Women are increasingly happy being single (and even those high status women often stay single much longer than men). You seem to be implying those women aren't actually happy, that they just don't have enough options, but that's just more telling women they are wrong about their own lives. Which is exactly what happens when women are forced to talk to men.

Women say they don't care about cars, height, money, or penis size. But you cannot convince many men to take women at their word, because men don't see us as worthy of speaking about our own life's, preferences, and experiences.

I'm just observing the way the world works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.

I was in a poly relationship with extremely attractive and well-off man. It was great sharing him, honestly. I couldn't stay because he wanted sexual extremes, but I still think of him fondly. It was a very satisfying relationship. I'm single for over a year now, as I just don't find anyone who makes me happy the way he did

What are the ways that he made you so happy and satisfied that you were willing to share, out of curiosity?

He was great in bed, various toys, techniques that I was never offered with anyone before, could go several times etc. Amazingly smart, successful in everything he touched in life. Great communicator: every text message was artful, sharp making me want him. Always cared and stayed in touch even when he was with other women. Worldly person, traveler, art collector, food and wine connoisseur, known entrepreneur, donor to charities and guest at top rated charitable galas. I can continue but he was truly one of a kind. Of course, there will be nobody like him. He didn't really got away: I broke it off because he started asking for really extreme things in bed (involving other women he dated)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.

I was in a poly relationship with extremely attractive and well-off man. It was great sharing him, honestly. I couldn't stay because he wanted sexual extremes, but I still think of him fondly. It was a very satisfying relationship. I'm single for over a year now, as I just don't find anyone who makes me happy the way he did

I don't think this is uncommon for women. They always remember the alpha that got away. I think in the future women will become more willing to share top men. It happens when women are young (especially in college). Why shouldn't women just do it throughout their lives? Especially if they don't need financial support, and, as DCUM always urges, are happy to have kids on their own.

Well, look at the custody hell that Elon Musk puts his baby mammas through. If women are going to have kids on their own, they are much better off using a sperm bank than sharing an Alpha male who has a lot more money and power than they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

No worries as 80% women going after 20% men doesn't work so 60% of them will come hack to reality.

....or stay single. That's the thing. Women have choices. If they don't find a man who meets their standards, even if you (or I) think those standards are too high, they can stay single, and increasingly are deciding to do so.

Being in a relationship is nice, but many women have come to the realization that men are far less necessary if they are willing to provide for their own financial and social needs.

Yet the most desirable, the ones with the absolute most options, almost always married.

Okay. The point stands, though. Women are increasingly happy being single (and even those high status women often stay single much longer than men). You seem to be implying those women aren't actually happy, that they just don't have enough options, but that's just more telling women they are wrong about their own lives. Which is exactly what happens when women are forced to talk to men.

Women say they don't care about cars, height, money, or penis size. But you cannot convince many men to take women at their word, because men don't see us as worthy of speaking about our own life's, preferences, and experiences.

I'm just observing the way the world works.

What you observe is just the surface. These women may be seeing men in different non-standard forms and arrangements, and just not telling you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.

I was in a poly relationship with extremely attractive and well-off man. It was great sharing him, honestly. I couldn't stay because he wanted sexual extremes, but I still think of him fondly. It was a very satisfying relationship. I'm single for over a year now, as I just don't find anyone who makes me happy the way he did

What are the ways that he made you so happy and satisfied that you were willing to share, out of curiosity?

He was great in bed, various toys, techniques that I was never offered with anyone before, could go several times etc. Amazingly smart, successful in everything he touched in life. Great communicator: every text message was artful, sharp making me want him. Always cared and stayed in touch even when he was with other women. Worldly person, traveler, art collector, food and wine connoisseur, known entrepreneur, donor to charities and guest at top rated charitable galas. I can continue but he was truly one of a kind. Of course, there will be nobody like him. He didn't really got away: I broke it off because he started asking for really extreme things in bed (involving other women he dated)

Did it bother you when he brought other women to charity galas or on his travels? Asking because I would hate sharing someone I liked as much as you seemed to like him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

Unless women are willing to share one man with multiple women, this is not a problem. 20% of the men are going to marry or end up with 20% women. The other 60% end up selecting from the rest.

I was in a poly relationship with extremely attractive and well-off man. It was great sharing him, honestly. I couldn't stay because he wanted sexual extremes, but I still think of him fondly. It was a very satisfying relationship. I'm single for over a year now, as I just don't find anyone who makes me happy the way he did

What are the ways that he made you so happy and satisfied that you were willing to share, out of curiosity?

He was great in bed, various toys, techniques that I was never offered with anyone before, could go several times etc. Amazingly smart, successful in everything he touched in life. Great communicator: every text message was artful, sharp making me want him. Always cared and stayed in touch even when he was with other women. Worldly person, traveler, art collector, food and wine connoisseur, known entrepreneur, donor to charities and guest at top rated charitable galas. I can continue but he was truly one of a kind. Of course, there will be nobody like him. He didn't really got away: I broke it off because he started asking for really extreme things in bed (involving other women he dated)

Did it bother you when he brought other women to charity galas or on his travels? Asking because I would hate sharing someone I liked as much as you seemed to like him!

He didn’t bring them together with me. He had residencies in different countries. Yes, he wanted all his women travel and reside with him as he pleases. Kind of what Musk wanted with Grimes. I didn’t want to meet any other women so we parted ways.

[Anonymous]

The problem is that it's the top 20% that figure out that having babies sucks life out of you, but the bottom 80% keep reproducing.

We attempted to address this problem in Berlin beginning in the mid-1930s, but our solution never gained traction. The problem was that the people we (the top 20%) perceived as being in the bottom 80% disagreed with us regarding their status.

Maybe we can start again with people like you, Mein Liebchen.