Wife and reality

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. If you make $600k you can afford for her to SAHM if that's what she wants to do. Happy wife, happy life.

Why does she get something just because she wants it? Especially if she’s not earning the money to pay for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wife just scolded me on the phone for 30 minutes because she is at work and not at home with our DC (early teen) while DC is not in school for the summer. She acts as though it is a foreign concept for both parents to work. Like we are an oddity. Have no idea where the sense of entitlement comes from.

Whenever I need to travel for work which is rare and only for one or tow days she acts as though no one else ever travels for work. I am lucky to have a job where I have flexibility in my schedule and whenever she takes time off vacation, I can work around that and go on vacation at the same time even on short notice. She thinks everyone has that luxury even though she doesn't even have the luxury.

I don't even know how to respond to this. She doesn't even leave room in form conversation, just condescending demeaning tone. She has made up her mind that this is wrong and not acceptable.

She regrets marrying a loser. A real man would provide for his family so she could focus on raising your child.

Yes I am a loser who makes $600k.

Then why is she working? You can afford for her to stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. If you make $600k you can afford for her to SAHM if that's what she wants to do. Happy wife, happy life.

Why does she get something just because she wants it? Especially if she’s not earning the money to pay for it.

Exactly.

She should stop supporting her workaholic spouse who can’t even check on his kid who’s sitting around all day in the same house as him, and go take a volatile demanding job that pays more.

Then they can split 50/50 all the family and household demands and weekend fun. And stop this bean counter rhetoric OP has- whose money pays for what and if she quits her favorite stuff ceases to be purchased.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you agreed to do something/ a reasonable person thought you would, and you didn't do it, but left out that part. Stay home?

No the case I think she feels like 5 million dollar salaries are handed to everyone.

No idiot wants a $5m cash W-2 or 1099 salary.

Your taxes would suck.

You need esop and stocks, options, deferrals, other benefits.

[Anonymous]

How’d OP go from making $5,000,000 a year to $600,000?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she is mad that the kid is wasting time at home sitting around. How about camp?

Disagree. I think she is just mad she is not a SAHM and summer is the only time she can argue the value in that with a straight face.

If she makes less than 20% of their HHI and she wants to be a SAHM, then they should talk about it.

I have offered, we could afford it. But we can't afford it and the beach house, and the boat and the nice vacations etc.

Why not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. If you make $600k you can afford for her to SAHM if that's what she wants to do. Happy wife, happy life.

Why does she get something just because she wants it? Especially if she’s not earning the money to pay for it.

What an unattractive sentiment. I’m so glad I married somebody who is happy to leave it up to me whether to work or not work when he earns plenty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How’d OP go from making $5,000,000 a year to $600,000?

He doesn’t make 5 mil he just apparently thinks that’s what it takes to afford a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Or he magically guesses that that’s what his wife thinks. About someone, somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is worried that her young teen is alone at home unsupervised? At best, kid might be playing video games all day but could be getting into bad things. Young teens needs supervision or at least something constructive to do during the day. sleep away camp or volunteering or swim team? Something.

[Anonymous]

OP you are a loser and should be ashamed.

Your wife should be able to raise your kids and be a SAHM at your salary level. Something is very wrong here.

I hope she divorces you and you have to support her and your kids.

[Anonymous]

These comments are insane. OP, just sit down with your wife and has a calm conversation about your finances and what you both want. Talk it out.

[Anonymous]

Obviously she reads DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe i spent the last five minutes of precious life reading this trolling bullshit. I must be even more pathetic than OP.

[Anonymous]

Sit down and do an actual budget of what the needs and wants cost and figure out if she can stop working.