Wife and reality

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you agreed to do something/ a reasonable person thought you would, and you didn't do it, but left out that part. Stay home?

No the case I think she feels like 5 million dollar salaries are handed to everyone.

R u making the case that ur are Op here b1tching on DCUM, ignoring your kids watching porn online, and working oh so hard at home office?

How oxymoronic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife just scolded me on the phone for 30 minutes because she is at work and not at home with our DC (early teen) while DC is not in school for the summer. She acts as though it is a foreign concept for both parents to work. Like we are an oddity. Have no idea where the sense of entitlement comes from.

Whenever I need to travel for work which is rare and only for one or tow days she acts as though no one else ever travels for work. I am lucky to have a job where I have flexibility in my schedule and whenever she takes time off vacation, I can work around that and go on vacation at the same time even on short notice. She thinks everyone has that luxury even though she doesn't even have the luxury.

I don't even know how to respond to this. She doesn't even leave room in form conversation, just condescending demeaning tone. She has made up her mind that this is wrong and not acceptable.

Golly.

WTF did you do the last 13+ years each summer Op?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So did you leave your kid unsupervised or something?

He be busy. Workin’. At home. And DCUM’in. Busy busy boy.

[Anonymous]

What do you want for your teen child OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you work from home? Is she the primary breadwinner? Does she make more than you?

She clearly is resentful of something.

Definitely feels like we aren't getting the full story here.

I work from home.

I am primary breadwinner. I make 4-5x what she does.

Still don’t follow.

What do you do each day and week besides work at home and play on DCUM?

And when you WFH you ignore everyone? Jsut grab your lunch and retreat? Don’t checkin? Don’t take a break or exercise?

DP what do you do all day?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she is mad that the kid is wasting time at home sitting around. How about camp?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she is mad that the kid is wasting time at home sitting around. How about camp?

Also sounds like OP doesn’t give a damn what the kid or wife are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you work from home? Is she the primary breadwinner? Does she make more than you?

She clearly is resentful of something.

Definitely feels like we aren't getting the full story here.

I work from home.

I am primary breadwinner. I make 4-5x what she does.

Still don’t follow.

What do you do each day and week besides work at home and play on DCUM?

And when you WFH you ignore everyone? Jsut grab your lunch and retreat? Don’t checkin? Don’t take a break or exercise?

DP what do you do all day?

I like to deflect the clutch question w a lame question response. I be so clever that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she is mad that the kid is wasting time at home sitting around. How about camp?

Disagree. I think she is just mad she is not a SAHM and summer is the only time she can argue the value in that with a straight face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife just scolded me on the phone for 30 minutes because she is at work and not at home with our DC (early teen) while DC is not in school for the summer. She acts as though it is a foreign concept for both parents to work. Like we are an oddity. Have no idea where the sense of entitlement comes from.

Whenever I need to travel for work which is rare and only for one or tow days she acts as though no one else ever travels for work. I am lucky to have a job where I have flexibility in my schedule and whenever she takes time off vacation, I can work around that and go on vacation at the same time even on short notice. She thinks everyone has that luxury even though she doesn't even have the luxury.

I don't even know how to respond to this. She doesn't even leave room in form conversation, just condescending demeaning tone. She has made up her mind that this is wrong and not acceptable.

What is she “scolding” you about? Please specify OP, otherwise your post makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong and unacceptable? That she has to work in person at a hospital or an office or a courtroom? Surely since you have so much flexibility, income and work from home you can empathize with those of us who don’t? And be there for your kid more this summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you agreed to do something/ a reasonable person thought you would, and you didn't do it, but left out that part. Stay home?

No the case I think she feels like 5 million dollar salaries are handed to everyone.

They don’t hand that out to everyone, including you.

If you made that kind of money you wouldn’t have this problem. I know because I make less than this and can afford not to have this problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife just scolded me on the phone for 30 minutes because she is at work and not at home with our DC (early teen) while DC is not in school for the summer. She acts as though it is a foreign concept for both parents to work. Like we are an oddity. Have no idea where the sense of entitlement comes from.

Whenever I need to travel for work which is rare and only for one or tow days she acts as though no one else ever travels for work. I am lucky to have a job where I have flexibility in my schedule and whenever she takes time off vacation, I can work around that and go on vacation at the same time even on short notice. She thinks everyone has that luxury even though she doesn't even have the luxury.

I don't even know how to respond to this. She doesn't even leave room in form conversation, just condescending demeaning tone. She has made up her mind that this is wrong and not acceptable.

You are no longer the dominant one. You must re-establish dominance. There can only be one person in charge.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need a different community if most of the parents in your community are same that's likely causing pressure. I actually question what she plays to do as a sample of a teen?

Seems she's resentful. You can tell her to keep it up ans she will get to see how she would feel as a single parent who has to work full time

[Anonymous]

Same = sahm