Boyfriend told me to “shut the F up”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

She only abandoned him once...

LOL men comparing a man stabbing a woman to a woman leaving a man 😵‍💫 These men are genuinely deranged.

You say this on the thread where someone (probably a woman) compared dropping an F-bomb to physical violence...

[Anonymous]

The thing about marriage is that it’s long and sometimes bad stuff/mistakes happen. Some mistakes are inexcusable. This is something that if a one off and out of character you can forgive. The fact that he apologized right away and has otherwise been kind is a good sign. Let him know, he doesn’t get a second chance at this. Then see what happens. A second time and you should be out.

[Anonymous]

OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a raised voice?

That’s not how have an important discussion.

If his dog is out of control, neighbors are complaining about noise or attacks, and he is t doing anything or even talking about id be done. He has no conflict resolution or communication skills.

Unclear

And unclear if the dog has a problem and is going through a training period.

Op makes little sense frankly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

Nothing is wrong with the PP, but there's something unhinged about you. A swear word, however unpleasant you may find it, isn't anywhere near comparable to the examples you cite. Settle down, you sound hysterical.

Abuse starts small. You should know that, you sound like an abuser yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend of a year recently told me to “shut the f up”. He had been drinking when he said it. We were having a convo about his dog, who he loves deeply like family. Recently he’s been being more strict with her, making her wear a muzzle, keeping her leash tighter, etc. I suggested he lighten up and little and told him whenever I watch her she’s well behaved.

Then he told me to “shut the f up”. He said as someone who’s never owned a dog I’m not an expert on the matter, and that he would be devastated if she died or hurt someone, so he was doing what he saw fit.

I’m good with him doing what he wants. I didn’t feel super strongly about my views, just was offering them up. He’s never spoken to me like this before. He is very sweet with me, faithful, and we’ve been discussing getting married.

I had an abusive relationship in the past that started with my ex talking to me like that constantly, then escalated to hitting, so I’m super sensitive.

Afterwards I told him how I felt and that I never want either of us to speak like that. He apologized and said he didn’t mean to hurt me and it won’t happen again. How big a deal is this?

Is he training the dog or something?

Why would you tell him to not “have a tight leash” with a dog. Unclear what that even means, a choker collar is common with large dogs.

Your jab about how the dog is nice when home with you was irrelevant to training or walking a dog in public.

You told him you were hurt and he apologized.

Check yourself and keep your eyes open.

And no where did you say the dog had an incident or aggression so what’s the big deal with a muzzle or collar or leash?

Op seems anti-leash and anti-muzzle and doesn’t even comment on the breed.

Guess he really knows her relevant stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

NP. You are nuts.


And making a fool of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a raised voice?

That’s not how have an important discussion.

If his dog is out of control, neighbors are complaining about noise or attacks, and he is t doing anything or even talking about id be done. He has no conflict resolution or communication skills.

Offering a person unsolicited advice about something that isn't even your business while they're minding theirs and having a drink isn't how to have an important conversation either.

Nitpick and nag me while I'm enjoying my peace and I'll swear at you, too! Y'all need to take responsibility for the energy you bring to a space. You can't just jump into someone's space and business, mind it like it's your own, and then expect to be treated with civility and boundaries you yourself didn't respect.

"Would you like some feedback about that?" "Would outside advice be useful to you?" "Would you like my thoughts on the subject?"

A lot of y'all seem to think you have all the right answers, but NOBODY ASKED. All unsolicited advice is criticism. You started it, and now you want to be mad that he swore? Don't start with disrespect and then act surprised you're met with disrespect.

Men justifying abuse. Classic.

I bet he's a real treat to be around. It sounds like his woman better know her place and be careful how she speaks to him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

Stay away from people, period. I doubt women are the only people PP bullies. Anyone deemed less than probably hears about it on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

Nothing is wrong with the PP, but there's something unhinged about you. A swear word, however unpleasant you may find it, isn't anywhere near comparable to the examples you cite. Settle down, you sound hysterical.

Abuse starts small. You should know that, you sound like an abuser yourself.

Namecalling is also abuse. Check yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

I'm not a safe person to mouth off to if you're not ready to get it right back, you mean.

That's accurate. Don't start none, won't be none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

She only abandoned him once...

LOL men comparing a man stabbing a woman to a woman leaving a man 😵‍💫 These men are genuinely deranged.

You say this on the thread where someone (probably a woman) compared dropping an F-bomb to physical violence...

One day, he's cussing you out. Pretty soon, he'll be punching your face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

Stay away from people, period. I doubt women are the only people PP bullies. Anyone deemed less than probably hears about it on a regular basis.

A bunch of pile-on bullies calling names, and you think you have the high ground here? Cute.

People who disagree are "unsafe" to you? You're that fragile?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

She only abandoned him once...

LOL men comparing a man stabbing a woman to a woman leaving a man 😵‍💫 These men are genuinely deranged.

You say this on the thread where someone (probably a woman) compared dropping an F-bomb to physical violence...

One day, he's cussing you out. Pretty soon, he'll be punching your face.

Y'all need to stay away from men entirely if you believe this mess. And me, because I'm not a man, and I'll cuss you out if you interrupt my night to talk a bunch of ignorant mess.