Boyfriend told me to “shut the F up”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing about marriage is that it’s long and sometimes bad stuff/mistakes happen. Some mistakes are inexcusable. This is something that if a one off and out of character you can forgive. The fact that he apologized right away and has otherwise been kind is a good sign. Let him know, he doesn’t get a second chance at this. Then see what happens. A second time and you should be out.

That is giving him a second chance. No second chance means op breaks up with him the first time. If she sticks around, there will be a next time. If she doesn't want a bad relationship, she needs to find someone else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

I'm not a safe person to mouth off to if you're not ready to get it right back, you mean.

That's accurate. Don't start none, won't be none.

Ew

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Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

She only abandoned him once...

LOL men comparing a man stabbing a woman to a woman leaving a man 😵‍💫 These men are genuinely deranged.

You say this on the thread where someone (probably a woman) compared dropping an F-bomb to physical violence...

One day, he's cussing you out. Pretty soon, he'll be punching your face.

Y'all need to stay away from men entirely if you believe this mess. And me, because I'm not a man, and I'll cuss you out if you interrupt my night to talk a bunch of ignorant mess.

You...you keep coming back. You are unrelenting in your pot stirring. I bet you believe you give as good as you get and your violence with men is among equals. Violence in any relationship is unacceptable. Cussing, yelling, insulting are precursors to violence. I think you've taken too many blows to your head.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The thing about marriage is that it’s long and sometimes bad stuff/mistakes happen. Some mistakes are inexcusable. This is something that if a one off and out of character you can forgive. The fact that he apologized right away and has otherwise been kind is a good sign. Let him know, he doesn’t get a second chance at this. Then see what happens. A second time and you should be out.

That is giving him a second chance. No second chance means op breaks up with him the first time. If she sticks around, there will be a next time. If she doesn't want a bad relationship, she needs to find someone else.

Why shouldn't he get a second chance? He said one swear, once, and when confronted, apologized?

Who are all the perfect people posting on this thread like they've never done something stupid? Y'all are liars.

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Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

She only abandoned him once...

LOL men comparing a man stabbing a woman to a woman leaving a man 😵‍💫 These men are genuinely deranged.

You say this on the thread where someone (probably a woman) compared dropping an F-bomb to physical violence...

One day, he's cussing you out. Pretty soon, he'll be punching your face.

Y'all need to stay away from men entirely if you believe this mess. And me, because I'm not a man, and I'll cuss you out if you interrupt my night to talk a bunch of ignorant mess.

You...you keep coming back. You are unrelenting in your pot stirring. I bet you believe you give as good as you get and your violence with men is among equals. Violence in any relationship is unacceptable. Cussing, yelling, insulting are precursors to violence. I think you've taken too many blows to your head.

"Cussing, yelling, insulting, are precursors to violence." says the pp who then proceeds to insult an anonymous rando on the internet.

DO go on. You're quite the show!

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

Stay away from people, period. I doubt women are the only people PP bullies. Anyone deemed less than probably hears about it on a regular basis.

Excellent point. This person is an equal opportunity abuser. Men, women, children, animals prob. Terrifying to know they could be our neighbors or coworkers.

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

I'm not a safe person to mouth off to if you're not ready to get it right back, you mean.

That's accurate. Don't start none, won't be none.

Ew

"Ew" to all the people on this thread who apparently think they should be able to say whatever without consequence, but believe that everyone else should consider their feelings and treat them with respect. Y'all are messy af.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

I'm not a safe person to mouth off to if you're not ready to get it right back, you mean.

That's accurate. Don't start none, won't be none.

Disgusting. You sound like a predator. I sincerely hope you don’t have a family, lest they be in danger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

Stay away from people, period. I doubt women are the only people PP bullies. Anyone deemed less than probably hears about it on a regular basis.

Excellent point. This person is an equal opportunity abuser. Men, women, children, animals prob. Terrifying to know they could be our neighbors or coworkers.

This judgmental harpy could be your neighbor.

You don't even know pp by name, but feel comfortable labeling them an abuser? Because... they disagree?

You need to step back and analyze your own nastiness, creepo. Calm your life down, and recognize that people who disagree with you are allowed to exist. Your need to control everyone, label those who disagree, and ostracize anyone who doesn't lockstep with your nonsense makes you the problem.

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Anonymous wrote:That was not okay. You should consider if you want a man to treat you that way. I would not.

Counterpoint: everyone makes mistakes. I’ve heard worse from my wife.

No one should be spoken to like that by a loved one. It is abusive.

Glad you’re perfect. But with mere mortals, they make mistakes. The whole picture matters and context matters.

"He only hit me once"
"He only raped me once"
"He only stabbed me once"
wtf is wrong with you

She only abandoned him once...

LOL men comparing a man stabbing a woman to a woman leaving a man 😵‍💫 These men are genuinely deranged.

You say this on the thread where someone (probably a woman) compared dropping an F-bomb to physical violence...

One day, he's cussing you out. Pretty soon, he'll be punching your face.

It’s so. So. So. Common. Please take this as a wake up call op.

The only people defending this are other abusers who speak like this to their partners on a regular basis. Please don’t take that gut feeling for granted, before it’s too late.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The thing about marriage is that it’s long and sometimes bad stuff/mistakes happen. Some mistakes are inexcusable. This is something that if a one off and out of character you can forgive. The fact that he apologized right away and has otherwise been kind is a good sign. Let him know, he doesn’t get a second chance at this. Then see what happens. A second time and you should be out.

That is giving him a second chance. No second chance means op breaks up with him the first time. If she sticks around, there will be a next time. If she doesn't want a bad relationship, she needs to find someone else.

Why shouldn't he get a second chance? He said one swear, once, and when confronted, apologized?

Who are all the perfect people posting on this thread like they've never done something stupid? Y'all are liars.

It is not hard to find people who don’t behave this way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

I'm not a safe person to mouth off to if you're not ready to get it right back, you mean.

That's accurate. Don't start none, won't be none.

Disgusting. You sound like a predator. I sincerely hope you don’t have a family, lest they be in danger.

Just a troll trying to normalize abuse.

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Anonymous wrote:OP came in hot with the know-it-all posturing, got clapped back, and had to come to DCUM where all the misandrists would join her pile-on instead of helping her correct the core of the problem: her stupid choice to tell her boyfriend what to do about things she doesn't even fully comprehend and wasn't asked to provide advice about.

Just drink your own beer and mind your own business, OP. In short: STFU.

Stay away from women. You aren’t a safe person.

I'm not a safe person to mouth off to if you're not ready to get it right back, you mean.

That's accurate. Don't start none, won't be none.

Disgusting. You sound like a predator. I sincerely hope you don’t have a family, lest they be in danger.

And you sound like the sort of idiot who'd abuse a rando online, but piss yourself if you had to say half that to my face. Do you see that you're the aggressive one in this exchange? Do you know that you're the bully?

Y'all project. Hard. Take it to a damned therapist! FFS...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The thing about marriage is that it’s long and sometimes bad stuff/mistakes happen. Some mistakes are inexcusable. This is something that if a one off and out of character you can forgive. The fact that he apologized right away and has otherwise been kind is a good sign. Let him know, he doesn’t get a second chance at this. Then see what happens. A second time and you should be out.

That is giving him a second chance. No second chance means op breaks up with him the first time. If she sticks around, there will be a next time. If she doesn't want a bad relationship, she needs to find someone else.

Why shouldn't he get a second chance? He said one swear, once, and when confronted, apologized?

Who are all the perfect people posting on this thread like they've never done something stupid? Y'all are liars.

It is not hard to find people who don’t behave this way.

For values of "this way" equalling "did something someone didn't like. once."

That's literally everyone, but go off...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The thing about marriage is that it’s long and sometimes bad stuff/mistakes happen. Some mistakes are inexcusable. This is something that if a one off and out of character you can forgive. The fact that he apologized right away and has otherwise been kind is a good sign. Let him know, he doesn’t get a second chance at this. Then see what happens. A second time and you should be out.

That is giving him a second chance. No second chance means op breaks up with him the first time. If she sticks around, there will be a next time. If she doesn't want a bad relationship, she needs to find someone else.

It’s so obvious to people in healthy relationships. I don’t allow men to treat me this way. I’ve been with my husband for 20 years. He has never spoken to me like this. No one should put up with this. There are many many men who love and appreciate women. Do not spend a single minute more with men who show you that they hate you and do not respect you.