I thought men didn’t care how much women make..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A **high value** man doesn't care how much a woman makes. The rest do care.

How do you define "high value"? Some high-earning men don't care how much a woman makes because they want control. They'll let you stay home, manage their house and raise their kids for them, but they maintain control over the purse. That's how my parents' marriage worked, and my mom wasn't much more than an indentured servant.

Yea and then the wife gets upgraded to a newer model

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WEALTHY men don’t care what a woman makes. Most regular men do.

And already WEALTHY men will ask for a prenup if you get married, so what you make still matters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A **high value** man doesn't care how much a woman makes. The rest do care.

How do you define "high value"? Some high-earning men don't care how much a woman makes because they want control. They'll let you stay home, manage their house and raise their kids for them, but they maintain control over the purse. That's how my parents' marriage worked, and my mom wasn't much more than an indentured servant.

Yea and then the wife gets upgraded to a newer model

Not necessarily. I'm the PP. My parents are still married. My dad isn't going to risk half of his net worth and access to his kids and grandkids this late in life. To be clear, that's not to say it's a good marriage. My mom would be substantially better off if she got a divorce, took her half of their assets, and got to live a life that SHE wants. But it's never going to happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A **high value** man doesn't care how much a woman makes. The rest do care.

How do you define "high value"? Some high-earning men don't care how much a woman makes because they want control. They'll let you stay home, manage their house and raise their kids for them, but they maintain control over the purse. That's how my parents' marriage worked, and my mom wasn't much more than an indentured servant.

Yea and then the wife gets upgraded to a newer model

Not necessarily. I'm the PP. My parents are still married. My dad isn't going to risk half of his net worth and access to his kids and grandkids this late in life. To be clear, that's not to say it's a good marriage. My mom would be substantially better off if she got a divorce, took her half of their assets, and got to live a life that SHE wants. But it's never going to happen.

Wealthy people are good hiding money. All unreality men I know take a mistress a side chick after age 50 and remain officially married to first wife to avoid divorce

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and the husbands of most of my friends care very much that we contribute substantially to the household income.

They are not high value alpha men. They are beta men. Nothing wrong with it, but they are not considered alphas.

Go back to Reddit incel. No real man uses language like this. You must be a child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A **high value** man doesn't care how much a woman makes. The rest do care.

How do you define "high value"? Some high-earning men don't care how much a woman makes because they want control. They'll let you stay home, manage their house and raise their kids for them, but they maintain control over the purse. That's how my parents' marriage worked, and my mom wasn't much more than an indentured servant.

This is how a marriage is supposed to work. Your mom is the queen of the house, not an indentured servant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think only really poor or really rich guys don't care. The rest may say they don't care because they think it makes them sound really rich online, but they actually recognize that more money tends to mean a better life.

I’ve heard from many men that a woman’s job or income isn’t that important. The most important is looks, sex, and if she is good at cooking and would be a good mother.

💯 and i would add good wife

For a lot of women, the man you describe is a giant red flag. A man who only cares about looks, sex, cooking, being a good mom and good wife….. so basically a woman whose primary function is to make his life good. Red flag for women who have agency.

Nothing wrong in making each others life good, results in a happy intact family

[Anonymous]

Men start caring how much or little a woman makes as soon as the things that caused him to marry her stop. Whether it’s compensated or not every service has a real value.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and the husbands of most of my friends care very much that we contribute substantially to the household income.

They are not high value alpha men. They are beta men. Nothing wrong with it, but they are not considered alphas.

Go back to Reddit incel. No real man uses language like this. You must be a child.

Np. Men have stopped being men and women have stopped being women, hence breakdown of families.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A **high value** man doesn't care how much a woman makes. The rest do care.

How do you define "high value"? Some high-earning men don't care how much a woman makes because they want control. They'll let you stay home, manage their house and raise their kids for them, but they maintain control over the purse. That's how my parents' marriage worked, and my mom wasn't much more than an indentured servant.

This is how a marriage is supposed to work. Your mom is the queen of the house, not an indentured servant.

Queen of the house? The only access she gets to THEIR finances is cash in an envelope every month. She has one credit card with a very low limit, and any purchase over a few hundred dollars is scrutinized. She has no idea how much money they have, where it is, or how to access it. She has no input over any major decision. It's very sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On our second date, my husband asked me if I planned on having a big career. I said I wasn't sure, watching the women at work around me working long hours. I was having my doubts if that's what I wanted. He offered me an engagement ring six months later. We've been married for 30 years. I've never had to work unless I wanted to. I worked for some years, and then became a SAHM. Now retired. I manage my stock portfolio online, and do my own thing. I have no regrets. You ladies can work for the man, I'll take care of my man.

Careful not to trip over all of that condescension. Perhaps you're feeling a little insecure about the choices you made or you wouldn't feel the need to lash out.

+1

Really weird choice of words: “He offered me an engagement ring.” Sounds like a transactional pick-me situation.

[Anonymous]

I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[code]Not PP but men who look for 50/50 don’t understand the value of non-financial contributions and sacrifices of women in marriage . They are actually labor moochers
Hard pass

This PP is correct. Men who are sniffing around early for a woman's income potential do not recognize or actively disregard what every woman knows: that she will dedicate more time and domestic labor to the family than most men. So he will push her to earn money and "not see" the work that has to be done at home (and also will usually not do it).

Look I'm a female physician and the breadwinner so the point here isn't to argue women out of the workforce. But these guys are duds.

+ 1 million

The women I know who out earn their husbands are doing ALL the stuff at home. So the men get extra spending money + a domestic servant. It’s gross and they feel trapped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

That attitude was common in, I would say, mid range to older Millennials and older (Gen X, Boomer etc.) They want a well-educated woman from a good family/family money, similar upbringing, but wanted her to have one of those high pedigree but lower earning and more flexible careers that mostly people with money have. Careers in publishing, art, non-profits, ritzy private schools especially preschools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?