I thought men didn’t care how much women make..

[Anonymous]

I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

[Anonymous]

No, they totally do care. Unless they're already quite high earning. This area is expensive and life with kids really adds up. If I were a man, I would care!

[Anonymous]

A real man wouldn’t care. You were smart to leave.

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP? Why shouldn't they care?

Even if you're done raising kids and paid for college and all of that, perhaps he wants to travel and do things that cost money. He doesn't want to foot the entire bill or stay at home because you can't afford it. It makes sense to care.

[Anonymous]

DH here: obviously there are exceptions to every rule, but it is a good rule of thumb that for most men a woman’s income is a second-order kind of consideration, falling behind attractiveness, personality, etc. It’s obviously a nice to have, but it’s also a trade-off to some extent if the woman has a super intense job that will make it harder to have a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A real man wouldn’t care. You were smart to leave.

Why would a "real" man not care? I'm a woman BTW.

[Anonymous]

I think only really poor or really rich guys don't care. The rest may say they don't care because they think it makes them sound really rich online, but they actually recognize that more money tends to mean a better life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? Why shouldn't they care?

Even if you're done raising kids and paid for college and all of that, perhaps he wants to travel and do things that cost money. He doesn't want to foot the entire bill or stay at home because you can't afford it. It makes sense to care.

I’m 27.

[Anonymous]

With inflation, men need to be with women who are equal or higher earners to keep up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? Why shouldn't they care?

Even if you're done raising kids and paid for college and all of that, perhaps he wants to travel and do things that cost money. He doesn't want to foot the entire bill or stay at home because you can't afford it. It makes sense to care.

I’m 27.

Do you care how much your partner makes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? Why shouldn't they care?

Even if you're done raising kids and paid for college and all of that, perhaps he wants to travel and do things that cost money. He doesn't want to foot the entire bill or stay at home because you can't afford it. It makes sense to care.

I’m 27.

Do you care how much your partner makes?

Yes and no. I care that he makes enough to care for himself but I don’t care if he makes 100k versus 300k.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think only really poor or really rich guys don't care. The rest may say they don't care because they think it makes them sound really rich online, but they actually recognize that more money tends to mean a better life.

I’ve heard from many men that a woman’s job or income isn’t that important. The most important is looks, sex, and if she is good at cooking and would be a good mother.

[Anonymous]

Some men don't care and some men care. It's an expression of their views on gender roles. I would say that men who don't care are more alpha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Easy come, easy go. Just keep dumping until you find what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some men don't care and some men care. It's an expression of their views on gender roles. I would say that men who don't care are more alpha.

Please stop using this moronic term.