I thought men didn’t care how much women make..

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for a few months who, when dumping me, cited several reasons for doing so. One of them was that he had kids to put through college and that my job was not good/stable enough, or something to that effect. I am not sure if he meant, he wanted a woman who could contribute to college for his kids, or if he just thought I needed a man to support me, or what. I was confused and did not pursue questioning him all that, but when I thought about it, it seemed he was saying I did not make enough money.

What he did not know was that I have a trust fund in the eight million dollar range. I was choosing to live a lifestyle my job could support (lawyer position that required JD but did not pay much). But I am the trustee of my trust and free to spend from my trust if I want. I just don't make that obvious with my lifestyle.

I dated someone once who had teenage kids, and it became clear to me that he wanted help with their college and his other obligations to them. In talks about marriage, he suggested I could stop contributing to my 401k once we got married because he had plenty in his for both of us. I laughed my way out of that relationship. It was weird because if I'm being honest, I was kind of into him because he was an "established" older man and I find the idea intriguing, but once I dug in a little, he was living pay check to paycheck to pay child support, alimony, kid's expenses, college for the older one and upcoming college for the younger ones, and looked at me like I was another paycheck to support him and his kids. I'm glad we had those talks before getting married, as it saved a lot of pain, and it helped me realize how stupid it was to date an older divorced dude with kids. Man, was I naive.

Wow, yeah, lots of red flags there. Any chance his first initial was C?

No, but it seems like there are a few out there that meet this description, and divorced dads with kids are categorically to be avoided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for a few months who, when dumping me, cited several reasons for doing so. One of them was that he had kids to put through college and that my job was not good/stable enough, or something to that effect. I am not sure if he meant, he wanted a woman who could contribute to college for his kids, or if he just thought I needed a man to support me, or what. I was confused and did not pursue questioning him all that, but when I thought about it, it seemed he was saying I did not make enough money.

What he did not know was that I have a trust fund in the eight million dollar range. I was choosing to live a lifestyle my job could support (lawyer position that required JD but did not pay much). But I am the trustee of my trust and free to spend from my trust if I want. I just don't make that obvious with my lifestyle.

This is total BS as you cannot be trustee and sole beneficiary.

Clearly, you know nothing about trust and estate law. Yes, I am the trustee and during my lifetime I am the sole beneficiary. I am allowed to spend the money on my health, education, maintenance, and support. And I have the right to leave the trust to whoever I want as long as they are either a charity or descendants of my grandparents.

Lol. I love when school is out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Different people, different desires.

I’m glad my wife and I have a traditional gender role marriage. I can go all in on my career and I know the house and children are taken care of.

In return, she has my credit card.

Good gor you! This is how a marriage is supposed to be. Feminists have ruined marriage.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Different people, different desires.

I’m glad my wife and I have a traditional gender role marriage. I can go all in on my career and I know the house and children are taken care of.

In return, she has my credit card.

This marriage is probably happier than most marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Different people, different desires.

I’m glad my wife and I have a traditional gender role marriage. I can go all in on my career and I know the house and children are taken care of.

In return, she has my credit card.

This marriage is probably happier than most marriages.

For women who don’t want to work and feel comfortable being completely financially dependent on their spouse, I can see a happy life. Most women want to use their brains and hate the power imbalance that comes with having no way of providing for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Different people, different desires.

I’m glad my wife and I have a traditional gender role marriage. I can go all in on my career and I know the house and children are taken care of.

In return, she has my credit card.

This marriage is probably happier than most marriages.

For women who don’t want to work and feel comfortable being completely financially dependent on their spouse, I can see a happy life. Most women want to use their brains and hate the power imbalance that comes with having no way of providing for yourself.

Lord knows us SAHMs are brainless idiots who don’t think or do anything meaningful. As soon as I made the decision to stay home, my degree burst into flames, I for got everything I knew, I lost interest in all my hobbies, my intellectual curiosity dried up, and I became boring AF. Man, that PR gig sure was meaningful and so insanely fascinating that without it I am nothing.