Dating Scene in DC

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I’m not really one for meeting men at bars and I don’t want to date online if I can avoid it.

Where do the straight, successful, not already married, not crazy men hang out?

Church.

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Anonymous wrote:But he is 59. That sound about right for dc

I dated plenty of men within 5 years of my own age in dmv in my mid 40s. It’s when a woman doesn’t expect him to “spoil” but an equal partner. They took me on dates, but after exclusivity we shared expenses.

Don’t listen to sugar baby poster above not all women date 20+ older in DC

My ex-fiancee is early 40s, and gained a lot of weight and don't believe in shared expenses even after she moved-in. She has a lot of debt and barely makes enough to cover those payments. All I wanted was a kind and loving relationship and didn't care about finances. I am 43 and very successful.

Looks like she has a long road ahead and a lot of learning to do. There is a lot people can offer if they don't have money or looks but they chose to focus on being disappointed on what they don't have. Sad but it is also the truth.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would a single guy never married date a 40 year old woman. She needs to look at divorced men in their 40s and 50s.

Why would a single woman never married date a 40 year old man. Men 40+ need to look at divorced women in their 40s and 50s, that is if he still has hair left, if no, then look at divorced women in their 60s, or younger but obese ones

This experience has a point bear with me:
I went to a matchmaker. I was 44. Me:
I spend 15 hours plus working out every week. I have other bona fides. I know this sounds odd, but I photograph really well (not modified with an app). I get attention when I flirt. Divorced. Set financially but I kept that private

Matchmaker set me up with men who were 60-65+ in Washington DC. I went out with one 4o year old who was not my physical type. He was job searching. That is the market.

This is not the market, this is entirely your own problem. You choose to sell yourself short: at age 44, you can't be more physically attractive than chicks under 30, being divorced, you aren't as desirable as women with no baggage. Your forte here is financial stability, and (perhaps) a good career and education - yet you choose to hide them. Why? If it's the matchmakers suggestion, please fire that dunderhead.
I'm 40, divorced, average looking, but well educated. I only date men 25-35. Good salary and a higher degree brings men security more than youth and good looking.

PP here. I am definitely rejecting your advice! I did that a couple (ok three) and I am ashamed that I did! I did not go as low as 25 but I have a very attractive 27 year old friend who tries. I had to stop being friends with him. It was gross overall —and it was not fair to those young men. I assuming that you do not have kids. Once you have kids one envisions their son hooking up with an older divorcee. You immediately feel the heebee jeebees. They should be with people their own age . Not some divorcee with emotional baggage

You seem really dejected. Sorry but not sorry. Go date those 60+ men and make their dead mothers happy

Mothers who are … what? No longer … alive ?

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Pp, you went there sort of quickly.
Re : your target dating pool of 25 year olds
You are comfortable without being challenged.
Also, one dimensional relationships may be fine for you

Just stay away from my child when he graduates.

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

I think older women do it but the men do not go out in public (regularly) with them.

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Anonymous wrote:25-35 talk about their moms a lot too. It was weird and I felt like I had to “hide”
or downplay parts of my life to date them.

40 year old PP: NO WAY you are being your full self with those younger men. You are basically using them and are deciding for them that it’s harmless. It’s not illegal — just nothing to brag about

Maybe I'll date your son someday lol who knows. Will definitely update this post if that happens. Good luck!

So you are a predator then

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Op, i suggest ozempic. I dropped from 175 to 125. Men hit on me in parking lots.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

Zero

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Anonymous wrote:Op, i suggest ozempic. I dropped from 175 to 125. Men hit on me in parking lots.

OP - don’t do it! Your skin will sag and face will be drooping . Just go on healthy protein diet and workout a lot

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

I think older women do it but the men do not go out in public (regularly) with them.

That is so true and they go out in very very rare instances. In my life of 45 years, I have only seen one instance where younger guy and 10+ year difference women of older age worked.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

Zero

PP here. I only have two relationships in my life. My ex-husband of 25 years and recently a very sweet guy who proposed me and we are in relationship for 2+ years. He supports me, financially, caring but things have gone a little toxic lately. I have ADHD and PCOS and not sure if that contributes in my mood swings. I am depressed and want to break up with him but also worried about my prospects for the future. What should I do - try to improve situation with or move on?

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

I think older women do it but the men do not go out in public (regularly) with them.

You don't know people's ages. I am 47. I am going out with a 33-year old tonight. I have dated around this age for years. You would not know because we appear to be about the same age.

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

I think older women do it but the men do not go out in public (regularly) with them.

You don't know people's ages. I am 47. I am going out with a 33-year old tonight. I have dated around this age for years. You would not know because we appear to be about the same age.

Good for you, PP. As I said, that is not the norm. How do you look and other baggage matters a lot for younger guys? Are any of them willing to settle down with you?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

Zero

Chances are low for PP if there is so much weight gain and other issues. just focus on yourself and try to improve your well being first.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

Zero

PP here. I only have two relationships in my life. My ex-husband of 25 years and recently a very sweet guy who proposed me and we are in relationship for 2+ years. He supports me, financially, caring but things have gone a little toxic lately. I have ADHD and PCOS and not sure if that contributes in my mood swings. I am depressed and want to break up with him but also worried about my prospects for the future. What should I do - try to improve situation with or move on?

Ohh... I missed this response from PP. In common sense way, it would be better for you to go back to your current Bf but you also need to work out the toxic issues. It happens from both sides and sometimes ADHD could contribute the irritation.