Dating Scene in DC

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Anonymous wrote:Why would a single guy never married date a 40 year old woman. She needs to look at divorced men in their 40s and 50s.

Why would a single woman never married date a 40 year old man. Men 40+ need to look at divorced women in their 40s and 50s, that is if he still has hair left, if no, then look at divorced women in their 60s, or younger but obese ones

This experience has a point bear with me:
I went to a matchmaker. I was 44. Me:
I spend 15 hours plus working out every week. I have other bona fides. I know this sounds odd, but I photograph really well (not modified with an app). I get attention when I flirt. Divorced. Set financially but I kept that private

Matchmaker set me up with men who were 60-65+ in Washington DC. I went out with one 4o year old who was not my physical type. He was job searching. That is the market.

This is not the market, this is entirely your own problem. You choose to sell yourself short: at age 44, you can't be more physically attractive than chicks under 30, being divorced, you aren't as desirable as women with no baggage. Your forte here is financial stability, and (perhaps) a good career and education - yet you choose to hide them. Why? If it's the matchmakers suggestion, please fire that dunderhead.
I'm 40, divorced, average looking, but well educated. I only date men 25-35. Good salary and a higher degree brings men security more than youth and good looking.

PP here. I am definitely rejecting your advice! I did that a couple (ok three) and I am ashamed that I did! I did not go as low as 25 but I have a very attractive 27 year old friend who tries. I had to stop being friends with him. It was gross overall —and it was not fair to those young men. I assuming that you do not have kids. Once you have kids one envisions their son hooking up with an older divorcee. You immediately feel the heebee jeebees. They should be with people their own age . Not some divorcee with emotional baggage

You seem really dejected. Sorry but not sorry. Go date those 60+ men and make their dead mothers happy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:25-35 talk about their moms a lot too. It was weird and I felt like I had to “hide”
or downplay parts of my life to date them.

40 year old PP: NO WAY you are being your full self with those younger men. You are basically using them and are deciding for them that it’s harmless. It’s not illegal — just nothing to brag about

Maybe I'll date your son someday lol who knows. Will definitely update this post if that happens. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:But he is 59. That sound about right for dc

I dated plenty of men within 5 years of my own age in dmv in my mid 40s. It’s when a woman doesn’t expect him to “spoil” but an equal partner. They took me on dates, but after exclusivity we shared expenses.

Don’t listen to sugar baby poster above not all women date 20+ older in DC

My ex-fiancee is early 40s, and gained a lot of weight and don't believe in shared expenses even after she moved-in. She has a lot of debt and barely makes enough to cover those payments. All I wanted was a kind and loving relationship and didn't care about finances. I am 43 and very successful.

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

Mid-40s divorced women. Lots of interest from men in their 30s and even younger.

Probably to sleep around and not to get into a relationship that women want. F**king around is easy but those men won't settle.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

Depends what are your medical issues and how attractive you are, otherwise chances are low for you to get into a relationship in this area.

I am embarrassed to say this but I have PCOS, Type 2 Diabetes, and ADHD. This also caused me to gain weight and I am always tired and don't have enough energy to go to gym. This also affects my self-esteem and though I am attractive, I don't have much time to get into a relationship since work hours are long.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

You can’t be 190lbs and good looking at the same time. You may have a cute face but that doesn’t make you “good looking” if you weigh 190 lbs.

Why PP can't be good looking at that weight. There are plenty of women that are heavier built and look attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

Mid-40s divorced women. Lots of interest from men in their 30s and even younger.

Probably to sleep around and not to get into a relationship that women want. F**king around is easy but those men won't settle.

Women want sex, especially sex with younger men, not relationship or settle. Let me disabuse your pathetic delusion.

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

Mid-40s divorced women. Lots of interest from men in their 30s and even younger.

Probably to sleep around and not to get into a relationship that women want. F**king around is easy but those men won't settle.

Women want sex, especially sex with younger men, not relationship or settle. Let me disabuse your pathetic delusion.

Not sure I agree. I am a woman in mid 40s and I never feel connected in sex and never enjoying sex if there is no connection. The best sex I had in life was when I was in relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

Mid-40s divorced women. Lots of interest from men in their 30s and even younger.

Probably to sleep around and not to get into a relationship that women want. F**king around is easy but those men won't settle.

Women want sex, especially sex with younger men, not relationship or settle. Let me disabuse your pathetic delusion.

Not sure I agree. I am a woman in mid 40s and I never feel connected in sex and never enjoying sex if there is no connection. The best sex I had in life was when I was in relationships.

Another woman here, also mid 40s. I hate casual sex: tried it (including ONS with someone I knew was safe). I cannot relax, feel safe and orgasm if I think it’s just for sex, one-off etc

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

Depends what are your medical issues and how attractive you are, otherwise chances are low for you to get into a relationship in this area.

I am embarrassed to say this but I have PCOS, Type 2 Diabetes, and ADHD. This also caused me to gain weight and I am always tired and don't have enough energy to go to gym. This also affects my self-esteem and though I am attractive, I don't have much time to get into a relationship since work hours are long.

Sorry, PP but this could be hard. Continue working on diet and exercise.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

You can’t be 190lbs and good looking at the same time. You may have a cute face but that doesn’t make you “good looking” if you weigh 190 lbs.

Why PP can't be good looking at that weight. There are plenty of women that are heavier built and look attractive.

Lol, no they don’t

[Anonymous]

You would be perfect for the newly divorced crowd. Assuming you don’t want kids since you are 40 already.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

You can’t be 190lbs and good looking at the same time. You may have a cute face but that doesn’t make you “good looking” if you weigh 190 lbs.

Why PP can't be good looking at that weight. There are plenty of women that are heavier built and look attractive.

Lol, no they don’t

tell me how?

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

Mid-40s divorced women. Lots of interest from men in their 30s and even younger.

Probably to sleep around and not to get into a relationship that women want. F**king around is easy but those men won't settle.

Women want sex, especially sex with younger men, not relationship or settle. Let me disabuse your pathetic delusion.

Not sure I agree. I am a woman in mid 40s and I never feel connected in sex and never enjoying sex if there is no connection. The best sex I had in life was when I was in relationships.

Another woman here, also mid 40s. I hate casual sex: tried it (including ONS with someone I knew was safe). I cannot relax, feel safe and orgasm if I think it’s just for sex, one-off etc

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Woman in early 40s. I crave sex in a relationship or something that is leading on to a serious possibility. I have done casual sex in between my relationships but don't feel good about it later. It makes me feel hollow and have also affected my self-esteem. What is your experience or am I thinking too much?

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Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

Mid-40s divorced women. Lots of interest from men in their 30s and even younger.

Probably to sleep around and not to get into a relationship that women want. F**king around is easy but those men won't settle.

Women want sex, especially sex with younger men, not relationship or settle. Let me disabuse your pathetic delusion.

Not sure I agree. I am a woman in mid 40s and I never feel connected in sex and never enjoying sex if there is no connection. The best sex I had in life was when I was in relationships.

Another woman here, also mid 40s. I hate casual sex: tried it (including ONS with someone I knew was safe). I cannot relax, feel safe and orgasm if I think it’s just for sex, one-off etc

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Woman in early 40s. I crave sex in a relationship or something that is leading on to a serious possibility. I have done casual sex in between my relationships but don't feel good about it later. It makes me feel hollow and have also affected my self-esteem. What is your experience or am I thinking too much?

I have same experience. Statistically any woman gets orgasm only 3 times out of 10 with a permanent partner. The only ONS I had didn’t result in orgasm and in fact he said in the morning “he had to get going”, as it was on his business trip. I felt like I wanted to run away and quickly left the room. Never wanted to meet him again (he did reach out right away). But whichever chances we could have for a relationship were ruined by his only phrase and by my feeling of being used.