Dating Scene in DC

[Anonymous]

I lived in the Deep South and in the western part of the us. I literally could not believe how awful the dating scene was in DC. I was late 20s to mid 30s at the time. I’m female and straight. Both the men and the women were the most arrogant, career obsessed crowd I’d ever seen. I remember trying to make girlfriends and they were just way too important because they worked some job at the State Dept. The men were arrogant, east coast preppy looking types, or wanted you to believe that they were from an elite upbringing even though they were from like Cincinnati.

I lucked out in my mid 30s meeting my husband through friends. He’s smart and successful but also normal and humble. Not too many of them in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lived in the Deep South and in the western part of the us. I literally could not believe how awful the dating scene was in DC. I was late 20s to mid 30s at the time. I’m female and straight. Both the men and the women were the most arrogant, career obsessed crowd I’d ever seen. I remember trying to make girlfriends and they were just way too important because they worked some job at the State Dept. The men were arrogant, east coast preppy looking types, or wanted you to believe that they were from an elite upbringing even though they were from like Cincinnati.

I lucked out in my mid 30s meeting my husband through friends. He’s smart and successful but also normal and humble. Not too many of them in DC.

That’s so true! I (F) had same experience dating and with co-workers in DC in my 40s. Very unfriendly, mediocre income and looks for both men and women, and super elitist. I’m myself actually foreign born, and from extreme wealth/political family: a member of presidential family of a large European country. Have very high NW, professional job, grad degrees. I couldn’t believe when men were asking me at dates if I had a US visa, or when I would be going “back home”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m turning 39. Im getting serious with my new man. I met him online a few months ago He’s divorced and 59. Wealthy doctor. Spoils me rotten. Some of us do get lucky.

Oh wait till you want to get married or a baby. It’s temporary. My exH is also 59 wealthy - he already went through 4 GFs post divorce all 15-20 years younger. He offers them all a zero prenup and they fade

[Anonymous]

But he is 59. That sound about right for dc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m turning 39. Im getting serious with my new man. I met him online a few months ago He’s divorced and 59. Wealthy doctor. Spoils me rotten. Some of us do get lucky.

Oh wait till you want to get married or a baby. It’s temporary. My exH is also 59 wealthy - he already went through 4 GFs post divorce all 15-20 years younger. He offers them all a zero prenup and they fade

This my ex. He ran to get fixed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m excited about moving to DC this summer, but having visited several times I’ve found most people to be bit cliquish.. which feels weird to be saying at the age of 40, but the DC crowd feels much less open than the Manhattan life I’m coming from. Definitely a lot more conservative in terms of style and vibe.


I’m not really one for meeting men at bars and I don’t want to date online if I can avoid it.

Where do the straight, successful, not already married, not crazy men hang out?

I’m just a lady, but to quote former VP Kamala Harris “Do Not Come.”

[Anonymous]

Or just kiss your reproductive future buh byeeee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But he is 59. That sound about right for dc

I dated plenty of men within 5 years of my own age in dmv in my mid 40s. It’s when a woman doesn’t expect him to “spoil” but an equal partner. They took me on dates, but after exclusivity we shared expenses.

Don’t listen to sugar baby poster above not all women date 20+ older in DC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

You can’t be 190lbs and good looking at the same time. You may have a cute face but that doesn’t make you “good looking” if you weigh 190 lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single and no kids? You'll be a hot commodity.

You like kids?! He might have two toddlers and an angry ex! He’ll be a pissy lawyer (like you?) bc it’s DC, where peoples souls come to die. You’ll also be competing with the flirty girls are also late 20s, 30s and they take priority and just want a gift card and a meal. I met someone who said she dates for meals.

The men are onto this so “it’s all dutch’s in DC.” That’s super romantic and generous isn’t it?

[Anonymous]

Hold up
OP is a fake troll

[Anonymous]

Ewww I find dating I. The DMV area as a female who is 40. Good luck OP.

[Anonymous]

I do feel pity for anyone above 37 trying to date in DC.

[Anonymous]

Whenever a married DW here asks for advice, it's always "Divorce!" and there is a sea of willing men willing to date a divorced single mom. Now people are saying that's not the case?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever a married DW here asks for advice, it's always "Divorce!" and there is a sea of willing men willing to date a divorced single mom. Now people are saying that's not the case?

Because in many cases it’s still better to be single mom than continue being married to a jerk