Dating Scene in DC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lived in the Deep South and in the western part of the us. I literally could not believe how awful the dating scene was in DC. I was late 20s to mid 30s at the time. I’m female and straight. Both the men and the women were the most arrogant, career obsessed crowd I’d ever seen. I remember trying to make girlfriends and they were just way too important because they worked some job at the State Dept. The men were arrogant, east coast preppy looking types, or wanted you to believe that they were from an elite upbringing even though they were from like Cincinnati.

I lucked out in my mid 30s meeting my husband through friends. He’s smart and successful but also normal and humble. Not too many of them in DC.

That’s so true! I (F) had same experience dating and with co-workers in DC in my 40s. Very unfriendly, mediocre income and looks for both men and women, and super elitist. I’m myself actually foreign born, and from extreme wealth/political family: a member of presidential family of a large European country. Have very high NW, professional job, grad degrees. I couldn’t believe when men were asking me at dates if I had a US visa, or when I would be going “back home”.

The only 'large' European country is Russia, girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever a married DW here asks for advice, it's always "Divorce!" and there is a sea of willing men willing to date a divorced single mom. Now people are saying that's not the case?

Because in many cases it’s still better to be single mom than continue being married to a jerk

+100
Funny people think women still need to marry to get food on the table
Men are the only creatures that are desperate to marry because hey why not there's someone that can cook and I can fuk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would a single guy never married date a 40 year old woman. She needs to look at divorced men in their 40s and 50s.

Why would a single woman never married date a 40 year old man. Men 40+ need to look at divorced women in their 40s and 50s, that is if he still has hair left, if no, then look at divorced women in their 60s, or younger but obese ones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lived in the Deep South and in the western part of the us. I literally could not believe how awful the dating scene was in DC. I was late 20s to mid 30s at the time. I’m female and straight. Both the men and the women were the most arrogant, career obsessed crowd I’d ever seen. I remember trying to make girlfriends and they were just way too important because they worked some job at the State Dept. The men were arrogant, east coast preppy looking types, or wanted you to believe that they were from an elite upbringing even though they were from like Cincinnati.

I lucked out in my mid 30s meeting my husband through friends. He’s smart and successful but also normal and humble. Not too many of them in DC.

That’s so true! I (F) had same experience dating and with co-workers in DC in my 40s. Very unfriendly, mediocre income and looks for both men and women, and super elitist. I’m myself actually foreign born, and from extreme wealth/political family: a member of presidential family of a large European country. Have very high NW, professional job, grad degrees. I couldn’t believe when men were asking me at dates if I had a US visa, or when I would be going “back home”.

The only 'large' European country is Russia, girl.

Large in what sense ? Germany, Italy have larger economies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m excited about moving to DC this summer, but having visited several times I’ve found most people to be bit cliquish.. which feels weird to be saying at the age of 40, but the DC crowd feels much less open than the Manhattan life I’m coming from. Definitely a lot more conservative in terms of style and vibe.


I’m not really one for meeting men at bars and I don’t want to date online if I can avoid it.

Where do the straight, successful, not already married, not crazy men hang out?

Yes DC people are unfriendly, not good looking but make up for that with big egos. It is not a great dating area.

I think this describes Boston 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would a single guy never married date a 40 year old woman. She needs to look at divorced men in their 40s and 50s.

Why would a single woman never married date a 40 year old man. Men 40+ need to look at divorced women in their 40s and 50s, that is if he still has hair left, if no, then look at divorced women in their 60s, or younger but obese ones

This experience has a point bear with me:
I went to a matchmaker. I was 44. Me:
I spend 15 hours plus working out every week. I have other bona fides. I know this sounds odd, but I photograph really well (not modified with an app). I get attention when I flirt. Divorced. Set financially but I kept that private

Matchmaker set me up with men who were 60-65+ in Washington DC. I went out with one 4o year old who was not my physical type. He was job searching. That is the market.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lived in the Deep South and in the western part of the us. I literally could not believe how awful the dating scene was in DC. I was late 20s to mid 30s at the time. I’m female and straight. Both the men and the women were the most arrogant, career obsessed crowd I’d ever seen. I remember trying to make girlfriends and they were just way too important because they worked some job at the State Dept. The men were arrogant, east coast preppy looking types, or wanted you to believe that they were from an elite upbringing even though they were from like Cincinnati.

I lucked out in my mid 30s meeting my husband through friends. He’s smart and successful but also normal and humble. Not too many of them in DC.

That’s so true! I (F) had same experience dating and with co-workers in DC in my 40s. Very unfriendly, mediocre income and looks for both men and women, and super elitist. I’m myself actually foreign born, and from extreme wealth/political family: a member of presidential family of a large European country. Have very high NW, professional job, grad degrees. I couldn’t believe when men were asking me at dates if I had a US visa, or when I would be going “back home”.

The only 'large' European country is Russia, girl.

Large in what sense ? Germany, Italy have larger economies

In every sense. Larger is not large. Sorry but it just cracks me up hearing Europeans use the word 'large' for their home country when talking to Americans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would a single guy never married date a 40 year old woman. She needs to look at divorced men in their 40s and 50s.

Why would a single woman never married date a 40 year old man. Men 40+ need to look at divorced women in their 40s and 50s, that is if he still has hair left, if no, then look at divorced women in their 60s, or younger but obese ones

This experience has a point bear with me:
I went to a matchmaker. I was 44. Me:
I spend 15 hours plus working out every week. I have other bona fides. I know this sounds odd, but I photograph really well (not modified with an app). I get attention when I flirt. Divorced. Set financially but I kept that private

Matchmaker set me up with men who were 60-65+ in Washington DC. I went out with one 4o year old who was not my physical type. He was job searching. That is the market.

This is not the market, this is entirely your own problem. You choose to sell yourself short: at age 44, you can't be more physically attractive than chicks under 30, being divorced, you aren't as desirable as women with no baggage. Your forte here is financial stability, and (perhaps) a good career and education - yet you choose to hide them. Why? If it's the matchmakers suggestion, please fire that dunderhead.
I'm 40, divorced, average looking, but well educated. I only date men 25-35. Good salary and a higher degree brings men security more than youth and good looking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men older than you are likely either married or in a committed relationship. Target younger guys, 32-38, a lot of them are still yet to settle

Younger guys don't want or date women above 40.

Women don't want to date old men, regardless of older or younger themselves.
If a 57 yo mediocre man is hopeful to get women in 40s I don't see any problem with OP going for men under 35

It is fine if she is hot and got her s**t together but I rarely see a younger guy with an older women unless she is very successful or attractive. There are a few rare cases but not the norm.

Mid-40s divorced women. Lots of interest from men in their 30s and even younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m turning 39. Im getting serious with my new man. I met him online a few months ago He’s divorced and 59. Wealthy doctor. Spoils me rotten. Some of us do get lucky.

Haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m turning 39. Im getting serious with my new man. I met him online a few months ago He’s divorced and 59. Wealthy doctor. Spoils me rotten. Some of us do get lucky.

Haha

Why is this funny?
She hit the jackpot as long as she’s ok not having kids. He will retire soon and hopefully they travel and live great for the next twenty years. Then he will die and she gets everything and can start over with a hot younger guy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m turning 39. Im getting serious with my new man. I met him online a few months ago He’s divorced and 59. Wealthy doctor. Spoils me rotten. Some of us do get lucky.

Haha

Why is this funny?
She hit the jackpot as long as she’s ok not having kids. He will retire soon and hopefully they travel and live great for the next twenty years. Then he will die and she gets everything and can start over with a hot younger guy!

She gets everything is where it usually stumbles. My exH had all assets moved to trusts for son and charity . Already 4 GFs walked out. A lot of gold diggers spend years taking care of an old goose just to get zero in the end

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would a single guy never married date a 40 year old woman. She needs to look at divorced men in their 40s and 50s.

Why would a single woman never married date a 40 year old man. Men 40+ need to look at divorced women in their 40s and 50s, that is if he still has hair left, if no, then look at divorced women in their 60s, or younger but obese ones

This experience has a point bear with me:
I went to a matchmaker. I was 44. Me:
I spend 15 hours plus working out every week. I have other bona fides. I know this sounds odd, but I photograph really well (not modified with an app). I get attention when I flirt. Divorced. Set financially but I kept that private

Matchmaker set me up with men who were 60-65+ in Washington DC. I went out with one 4o year old who was not my physical type. He was job searching. That is the market.

This is not the market, this is entirely your own problem. You choose to sell yourself short: at age 44, you can't be more physically attractive than chicks under 30, being divorced, you aren't as desirable as women with no baggage. Your forte here is financial stability, and (perhaps) a good career and education - yet you choose to hide them. Why? If it's the matchmakers suggestion, please fire that dunderhead.
I'm 40, divorced, average looking, but well educated. I only date men 25-35. Good salary and a higher degree brings men security more than youth and good looking.

PP here. I am definitely rejecting your advice! I did that a couple (ok three) and I am ashamed that I did! I did not go as low as 25 but I have a very attractive 27 year old friend who tries. I had to stop being friends with him. It was gross overall —and it was not fair to those young men. I assuming that you do not have kids. Once you have kids one envisions their son hooking up with an older divorcee. You immediately feel the heebee jeebees. They should be with people their own age . Not some divorcee with emotional baggage

[Anonymous]

25-35 talk about their moms a lot too. It was weird and I felt like I had to “hide”
or downplay parts of my life to date them.

40 year old PP: NO WAY you are being your full self with those younger men. You are basically using them and are deciding for them that it’s harmless. It’s not illegal — just nothing to brag about

[Anonymous]

Unless you are trying to provoke responses by inserting:
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Good salary and a higher degree brings men security more than youth and good looking.
“

I am interpreting this as humor.