Dating Scene in DC

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

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PP here. I only have two relationships in my life. My ex-husband of 25 years and recently a very sweet guy who proposed me and we are in relationship for 2+ years. He supports me, financially, caring but things have gone a little toxic lately. I have ADHD and PCOS and not sure if that contributes in my mood swings. I am depressed and want to break up with him but also worried about my prospects for the future. What should I do - try to improve situation with or move on?

Ohh... I missed this response from PP. In common sense way, it would be better for you to go back to your current Bf but you also need to work out the toxic issues. It happens from both sides and sometimes ADHD could contribute the irritation.

PP, honestly, that is much better option than struggling on your own for years and being in worse situation than you are now. Sometime people make rash decisions with how they are feeling in last few weeks and months and if you could improve and he loves you, then try tp sort it out.

[Anonymous]

Realistically, any average looking single man below age of 40 with a grad degree and a professional job is a catch, in any part of the world.

If they are having any issue finding good options, they aren't looking in right places.

[Anonymous]

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Realistically, any average looking single man below age of 40 with a grad degree and a professional job is a catch, in any part of the world.

If they are having any issue finding good options, they aren't looking in right places.

I think a lot of these men are either not emotionally available or don't trust someone with baggage. At this age, men can go younger but the problem becomes for women and they have to really focus on what they want. A lot of women in not so successful jobs look for financial security because noone wants to spend their 50s and 60s paying older debt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But he is 59. That sound about right for dc

I dated plenty of men within 5 years of my own age in dmv in my mid 40s. It’s when a woman doesn’t expect him to “spoil” but an equal partner. They took me on dates, but after exclusivity we shared expenses.

Don’t listen to sugar baby poster above not all women date 20+ older in DC

My ex-fiancee is early 40s, and gained a lot of weight and don't believe in shared expenses even after she moved-in. She has a lot of debt and barely makes enough to cover those payments. All I wanted was a kind and loving relationship and didn't care about finances. I am 43 and very successful.

why do you still want to be with her if she can't even take care of herself. if she don't value after you helping her out then either she is really dumb or a bad gold digger. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL, just keep going with your whole “I’m from Manhattan and DC is just SO conservative” vibe and you’ll do great.

This - I mean, I actually fully agree with you as someone who moved to DC from New York years ago, but you can’t actually say that out loud or give off that vibe at all. Unlike New York, people aren’t loudly trying to proclaim their identities or assess one another within 5 min of meeting, so just tone down a bit. Also be open to the fact that the community you ultimately find here might not be anything like your current crowd in New York.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of broke women in their 40s that have difficulty finding men of any age if they are slightly overweight or have other issues. Sooner or later, facade comes down and they can't get a successful or financially secure men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of broke women in their 40s that have difficulty finding men of any age if they are slightly overweight or have other issues. Sooner or later, facade comes down and they can't get a successful or financially secure men.

As a financially secure woman in my 40s I can tell exactly the same about men in 40-50s age group. What was the point of the post?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of broke women in their 40s that have difficulty finding men of any age if they are slightly overweight or have other issues. Sooner or later, facade comes down and they can't get a successful or financially secure men.

As a financially secure woman in my 40s I can tell exactly the same about men in 40-50s age group. What was the point of the post?

That's true but women usually crave more financial security than men. For men, it would be peace, respect and appreciation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and have gained some weight recently (above 190 +lbs) and have two older kids, 25 and 21 from a previous relationship that are out of home. I am good looking but have some medical issues as well. I am nurse and don't make much. Trying to get into the online dating soon and not sure how I see my prospects for a serious relationships. What are my chances?

Zero

PP, you might get some partners to mess around and date but going to be difficult to find true love with all the issues. Any partner also like to see all the other factors before the jump into loving someone because noone wants to get hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single and no kids? You'll be a hot commodity.

Yeah, it's not like there's a glut of unmarried 40 y/o women with no kids in DC or anything...

[Anonymous]

OP, I am older than you (early 50s, grown kids, divorced) but have had no trouble meeting plausible men through OLD. It's not perfect, but not horrible, and there are absolutely plenty of single men out there looking. And no, not all of them want 25 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am older than you (early 50s, grown kids, divorced) but have had no trouble meeting plausible men through OLD. It's not perfect, but not horrible, and there are absolutely plenty of single men out there looking. And no, not all of them want 25 year olds.

How do you look, job etc and are you finding someone to settle down?