Disagree fundamentally with friend in sticky situation

[Anonymous]

For me, I kind of agree that she’s not responsible for his relationship. I understand there are lots of reasons that people cheat, and what goes on in grown up relationships is sometimes unpleasant.

But the drop dead line for me is that there is a child and a soon to be child involved.

My ex cheated on me for over a year. While I was heartbroken for myself, what really broke me was all the receipts I found when he was with his AP but could have been with our child. I had the extra burden of caring for her all the time while he was out playing and telling me he was working, but my kid had to somehow swallow the fact that daddy was always gone. He’d then swoop in like a good Disney dad for a day, then more or disappear for weeks. His AP got really expensive things that took away from kid.

I get that your friend is being wooed and whatever by this guy. It’s hard not to fall
When it’s the two of them against the world, and he’s giving her his absolute best. But that best should be going to the kids, even if he’s not happy with his wife

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder about your own character, OP. Associating with people like these.

Because all your friends are perfect, just like you, and nobody ever made a dumb decision, not even the once.

Cheater got triggered.

Never cheated, never would. Just tired of the sanctimommy posts that add nothing to the discussion. You wonder about OP's character because her friend is cheating? What about your character? Because at least one of your friends has cheated, or is cheating right now. They've also lied, probably stolen, broken their word...

Attacking the OP because her friend is making a mistake is a pretty high horse to ride in on.

You do protest too much.

And you are unbelievably naive.

Nah. It’s not hard to associate with quality people. You should try it sometime.

It’s that difficult for you?

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder about your own character, OP. Associating with people like these.

Because all your friends are perfect, just like you, and nobody ever made a dumb decision, not even the once.

Cheater got triggered.

Never cheated, never would. Just tired of the sanctimommy posts that add nothing to the discussion. You wonder about OP's character because her friend is cheating? What about your character? Because at least one of your friends has cheated, or is cheating right now. They've also lied, probably stolen, broken their word...

Attacking the OP because her friend is making a mistake is a pretty high horse to ride in on.

You do protest too much.

And you are unbelievably naive.

Nah. It’s not hard to associate with quality people. You should try it sometime.

It’s that difficult for you?

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder about your own character, OP. Associating with people like these.

Because all your friends are perfect, just like you, and nobody ever made a dumb decision, not even the once.

Cheater got triggered.

Never cheated, never would. Just tired of the sanctimommy posts that add nothing to the discussion. You wonder about OP's character because her friend is cheating? What about your character? Because at least one of your friends has cheated, or is cheating right now. They've also lied, probably stolen, broken their word...

Attacking the OP because her friend is making a mistake is a pretty high horse to ride in on.

You do protest too much.

And you are unbelievably naive.

Nah. It’s not hard to associate with quality people. You should try it sometime.

It’s that difficult for you?

Okay, cheater. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's right. She's not the one who's doing the cheating. His is the home wrecker in his marriage, not her.

However, I would tell her I don't want to hear about it at all. Because I don't. And I sure wouldn't let her around anyone I'm romantically involved in.

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I wouldn’t totally end a friendship simply because I didn’t agree w/decisions my friend made……after all I do not expect my own friends to agree w/all of my own decisions.

Compromise is key to friendship longevity imo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She's right. She's not the one who's doing the cheating. His is the home wrecker in his marriage, not her.

However, I would tell her I don't want to hear about it at all. Because I don't. And I sure wouldn't let her around anyone I'm romantically involved in.

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I wouldn’t totally end a friendship simply because I didn’t agree w/decisions my friend made……after all I do not expect my own friends to agree w/all of my own decisions.

Compromise is key to friendship longevity imo.

Read that again. Is she really a friend of you won’t let her around your boyfriend or husband ? Good god.

I think it speaks to core values/character. Of course you don’t always have the same opinion on things- but someone who is okay with robbing or abusing or adultery—that’s not someone I would hold as a friend. I could tolerate different views on many things- but adultery is not one of them. And, yes, she’s in an adulterous relationship even if she isn’t married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is a trash human. Billions of men in the world in this is who she picks. She has low self esteem or she likes stealing other ladies men. Ether way it will come back to haunt her. See karma will get her.

Agree^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a very loyal person and I would 100% drop a friend like this. You do not want a person like this in your life or in your home. She has no morals. It might be your husband next!

I have seen that happen. It’s like a disease- women who continually go after/target men already in relationships.

[Anonymous]

Both of them are selfish losers. Why would you consider someone with such low standards for themselves a friend?