Visiting non-drinkers
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Anonymous
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Punchline: I wound up not bringing alcohol (or pre/drinking), despite respondents concern that I am a candidate for skid row.
Ironically, they served champagne at midnight (which I do not particularly like). The cardinal sin to me is that this morning they neither served but offered coffee (which they proudly proclaimed they do not drink). I will admit an addiction to morning coffee. Don’t you think it should be offered to overnight adult guests????? |
Anonymous
Sorry, it should have read “neither served nor offered coffee.” You see, I cannot function! 😂 |
Anonymous
Thank you for the update! |
Anonymous
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Yes, thank you for the update. You did the right thing. I like wine AND coffee ... hope you had some when you got out of there!
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Anonymous
| You spent the night at the home of your son's girlfriend's parents whom you had never met before? Why? |
Anonymous
The judgy teetotalers here didn't get that the PP was being facetious. "Hmmm..." |
Anonymous
| Between no coffee and saying they don't drink then drinking champagne, these people sound like weirdos. |
Anonymous
Should have brought a flask and aeropress. Next time, come prepared! |
Anonymous
| Are they Mormon? I don't drink but offer wine and beer to guests at parties. If your takeaway from their hospitality is that they don't like the same beverages as you, then you are the assh*le. |
Anonymous
I get both sides of the coffee question. As somebody who is now coffee dependent, I know exactly how you feel. It might be a good idea in the future to pack instant coffee/espresso if you don’t know for a fact that the people you’re visiting are coffee drinkers. As someone who didn’t drink coffee until a few years ago, I can understand that it’s probably just not on their radar, especially if they don’t host often or if their other guests aren’t coffee drinkers, either. I learned long ago to ask if a guest had any special preferences before they came. In my experience, most people have strong breakfast beverage preferences, that can vary wildly. While many crave coffee, others are just as reliant on tea, instead. Some people are juice drinkers (and may care about which fruit), while others need a specific milk (whole, skim, almond, oat, etc.). Then there can be any number of random choices. My dad, for example, always started his day with a Dr. Pepper, but then he switched to Diet Coke. |
Anonymous
Wanting wine with NYE dinner? Please. |
Anonymous
No, it's very common. A surprising number of judgy posters on DCUM proclaim that they "don't drink," and then when pressed a bit more, admit they have wine at weddings, champagne toasts, a beer while tailgating. But no sirree, they're not drinkers! It's ludicrous. If a drop of alcohol passes your lips, guess what? You're a drinker. |
Anonymous
Believe me, I thought it was odd too. But the invitation was issued and the kids seemed to want it to happen (perhaps so they could be together, without choosing between parents??). One night was at a hotel, but NYE was there. They tried, in their own way, to be hospitable…but I am glad to be back home, TBH. (Parenting adult children is interesting…) |
Anonymous
When you go to a Jewish or Muslim house, do you expect pork to be available for guests? |
Anonymous
| It's sad that you can't go one night without wine. |