Visiting non-drinkers
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Anonymous
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I will be spending New Year’s Eve with my son’s girlfriend’s parents for the first time . They apparently do not drink (though are okay if their adult kids do). I enjoy wine with dinner, and to be honest would ideally have some wine on New Year’s Eve—especially in a socially charged situation—nothing excessive at all.
But, perhaps it is rude of me to bring wine, if they don’t drink? (No one under 21 will be present.) Thanks. |
Anonymous
| This is what flasks are for. Don't bring wine for dinner |
Anonymous
| I don't drink, but it wouldn't bother me at all for you to bring your own. I reccommend you also bring something the hosts enjoy. |
Anonymous
| Do you know the reason why they don’t drink? I think it’s fraught to bring alcohol in to someone’s home if they are recovering alcoholic or abstain for personal reasons. |
Anonymous
| Offer to take them to dinner, somewhere with alcohol. If that’s not enough to get you through the night then self-reflection might be in order. |
Anonymous
| Extremely rude. |
Anonymous
| You can survive one meal without alcohol. Respect your hosts. |
Anonymous
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Assuming your son and his girlfriend will be there? Do they drink? Will they be drinking? I would follow their lead.
Also understand the reason they don’t drink. Definitely agree that bringing alcohol to a recovering alcoholic’s house is incredibly rude and you should be able to survive for one night. |
Anonymous
| That this is even a concern for you suggests that alcohol is playing too large a role in your life. |
Anonymous
| It says right in the OP that they are OK if their adult kids drink. This is not hard. |
Anonymous
| I would play dumb and bring a bottle of champagne. I am not a big drinker but I need a glass or two on New Year’s Eve! |
Anonymous
| Why are you all spending NYE together? Is he planning to propose soon? My parents didn't meet my husbands parents until after we were engaged. |
Anonymous
+1 Alcohol is not a necessity like food and water. |
Anonymous
| If you were having dinner at a vegetarian’s house, would you take meat to have with dinner? |
Anonymous
| Yes and its strange to me you can't go one night without it...hhhmmm |