Visiting non-drinkers

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes and its strange to me you can't go one night without it...hhhmmm

It's New Year's Eve though. It's traditional to have a drink that night. I'm the PP who doesn't drink but it wouldn't bother me if someone brought it to my home. Much better than expecting me to provide it because I wouldn't know what to get. I'm not abstaining due to health reasons or sobriety. I just don't care for it. Since these people don't care if their adult child drinks, I assume they are the same way, but since it is so fraught, maybe OP should check with their DC. I feel like with everyone I know it would be absolutely fine.

I do not drink much...just don't care for it. When we entertain on NYE or most other times, I still have wine/beer/champagne..and OPs host may too. People bring wine as a hostess gift all the time too. Its fine. Now if they are abstaining as recovering alcoholics etc, that is a different situation. Then I would either decline the invite or find a way to get through the evening without alcohol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:That this is even a concern for you suggests that alcohol is playing too large a role in your life.

It's NYE

And?

Look teetotaler, it's not really for you to say who can and can't drink. A gracious host may offer something to their guests that they don't prefer because it's polite and it's also NYE. The hosts own kids drink so it's not like they are super up tight about it, just seems like a personal choice.

I drink. I find it weird that you need alcohol so much for this one night. No one functional does, but continue to deny that it’s you.

[Anonymous]

I would not go to a NYE reception that doesnot offer alcohol. BTDT. Boooring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not go to a NYE reception that doesnot offer alcohol. BTDT. Boooring.

You're boring, which is why you have to drink. People who can't be around other people sober bring nothing to the equation, and honestly? You drunk isn't really a value-add either.

[Anonymous]

"It's tradition"

Not where you're going, it's not. If you have this near-religious compulsion to drink "for the tradition" you probably have a substance use issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes and its strange to me you can't go one night without it...hhhmmm

It's New Year's Eve though. It's traditional to have a drink that night. I'm the PP who doesn't drink but it wouldn't bother me if someone brought it to my home. Much better than expecting me to provide it because I wouldn't know what to get. I'm not abstaining due to health reasons or sobriety. I just don't care for it. Since these people don't care if their adult child drinks, I assume they are the same way, but since it is so fraught, maybe OP should check with their DC. I feel like with everyone I know it would be absolutely fine.

Not for everyone! Consider that.

Obviously, since the post you're quoting is from a non-drinker. Wanting a drink on NYE doesn't make the OPs alcoholic. That's a night where people who only drink once or twice a year will have one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That this is even a concern for you suggests that alcohol is playing too large a role in your life.

Oh stop it’s New Year’s Eve. Having a glass of champagne or similar is standard. Regular night in February, sure id completely agree this wouldn’t even be a question. But a holiday that typically features a specific alcoholic beverage?

[Anonymous]

Could you make do with a sparkling cider or non-alcoholic champagne? You could still toast to the New Year and your hosts might even join you in the tradition (but don’t get upset if they choose not to).

[Anonymous]

Are you staying until midnight? I might just have dinner with them, and then go home for the night. I don't like to be on the road on NYE. You can have champagne at home.

[Anonymous]

Why are posters asking OP why she “needs” alcohol or informing her she can “survive” one night without it? Her original post contained no such hyperbole.

Some people are not even aware that they are standing on a soapbox.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"It's tradition"

Not where you're going, it's not. If you have this near-religious compulsion to drink "for the tradition" you probably have a substance use issue.

+1

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't knowing they don't drink..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That this is even a concern for you suggests that alcohol is playing too large a role in your life.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not go to a NYE reception that doesnot offer alcohol. BTDT. Boooring.

You're boring, which is why you have to drink. People who can't be around other people sober bring nothing to the equation, and honestly? You drunk isn't really a value-add either.

+100000 people who have to drink to be "fun" are so boring and lame. And they do not add value after pounding a few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not go to a NYE reception that doesnot offer alcohol. BTDT. Boooring.

You're boring, which is why you have to drink. People who can't be around other people sober bring nothing to the equation, and honestly? You drunk isn't really a value-add either.

+100000 people who have to drink to be "fun" are so boring and lame. And they do not add value after pounding a few.

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