How hard is dating for late thirties childless women?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

Live it up now. Menopause is coming.

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I am aware. I did not realize my attractiveness level in my 20s. It is sad it took until 40 to notice. I am not ever remarrying but it is nice that men of all ages think I am attractive. I know it won’t last but I am glad I started noticing before I am really old. Always been a workaholic and my mom and grandma were stunningly beautiful so growing up it was always like “no one can be as beautiful as them.” I am not am quite movie-star beautiful (my grandma looked like Ava Gardner with lighter hair), but I am close to that level, it just took me until late in life to realize it. It is validating. I did not know when I was younger, so I will enjoy it for the short time it will continue to last.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I'd show you if my name was not there. My direct reports do not look like me. If a man had a choice, it would be me every time. People younger than 20 and older than 50 always mistake me for early 30s. I am not. But yes, I look it.

Younger than 20? I have older teenagers - they don’t have any meaningful understanding of the differences between 30, 40, and 50. Did you at that age?

I meant younger than 30. More like age 27-55 often mistake me for early 30s. Work setting. All the time. Both late 20s people to mid 50s people are shocked when I tell them my age. Most people assume I am not old enough for my job. They think I have less experience than I do.

Lol, and you really believe that?

"Young" people have no idea what 30, or 35, or 40 looks like. None. I'm a 44 year old high school teacher and last week a student said something like, "But you're in your late 20s, right? Or early 30s?" It isn't because I look like I'm in my late 20s or early 30s. It is because a 17 year old just sees "old, but grandma." They have no idea and probably believe that 44 year olds have white hair and wrinkles. Similarly, the early 20s student teachers look 17 to me: they don't look different from my juniors and seniors. To them, I could be anywhere from 30 to 45: they don't know what ageing looks like.

Also, sorry to tell you, but people lie. They are flattering you. In guessing age, NOBODY ever says the age they actually think you are. They say a much younger age and wait for you to correct. This is a kind of etiquette.

Finally, my son worked in a liquor store during grad school, and he said the middle aged women always used to act so flattered and pleased when he asked for ID, but...he HAD to ask for ID, no matter what the customer looked like. It was very obvious to him that these women were middle aged, but they believed that being asked for ID meant they looked 10 or 20 years younger.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I'd show you if my name was not there. My direct reports do not look like me. If a man had a choice, it would be me every time. People younger than 20 and older than 50 always mistake me for early 30s. I am not. But yes, I look it.

Younger than 20? I have older teenagers - they don’t have any meaningful understanding of the differences between 30, 40, and 50. Did you at that age?

I meant younger than 30. More like age 27-55 often mistake me for early 30s. Work setting. All the time. Both late 20s people to mid 50s people are shocked when I tell them my age. Most people assume I am not old enough for my job. They think I have less experience than I do.

I guess you must not speak with authority and knowledge. If it was clear that you had decades of experience when you communicated your ideas, they wouldn’t be shocked.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I'd show you if my name was not there. My direct reports do not look like me. If a man had a choice, it would be me every time. People younger than 20 and older than 50 always mistake me for early 30s. I am not. But yes, I look it.

Younger than 20? I have older teenagers - they don’t have any meaningful understanding of the differences between 30, 40, and 50. Did you at that age?

I meant younger than 30. More like age 27-55 often mistake me for early 30s. Work setting. All the time. Both late 20s people to mid 50s people are shocked when I tell them my age. Most people assume I am not old enough for my job. They think I have less experience than I do.

Lol, and you really believe that?

"Young" people have no idea what 30, or 35, or 40 looks like. None. I'm a 44 year old high school teacher and last week a student said something like, "But you're in your late 20s, right? Or early 30s?" It isn't because I look like I'm in my late 20s or early 30s. It is because a 17 year old just sees "old, but grandma." They have no idea and probably believe that 44 year olds have white hair and wrinkles. Similarly, the early 20s student teachers look 17 to me: they don't look different from my juniors and seniors. To them, I could be anywhere from 30 to 45: they don't know what ageing looks like.

Also, sorry to tell you, but people lie. They are flattering you. In guessing age, NOBODY ever says the age they actually think you are. They say a much younger age and wait for you to correct. This is a kind of etiquette.

Finally, my son worked in a liquor store during grad school, and he said the middle aged women always used to act so flattered and pleased when he asked for ID, but...he HAD to ask for ID, no matter what the customer looked like. It was very obvious to him that these women were middle aged, but they believed that being asked for ID meant they looked 10 or 20 years younger.

+1. I (51M) went to a funeral last weekend and met the daughter of the deceased next door neighbor's. We have a son who is a freshman in college and my wife asked the daughter what she wanted to study when she went to college. She just dead panned us and said:

"I'm 24 and just finished grad school last May. Epidemiology."

We all laughed hard about it, but we genuinely thought the woman was 16/17.

Point being- once you are out of range it is quite hard guessing ages.

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I don't think woman at any change childless or not will have issues attracting men. She can get dates why not. The issue of course remains whether those dates can lead into a relationship. That's just depends on what she has to offer. But I am a man and I don't know what women go through so although I just offered an opinion don't take it seriously.

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I'm finding a decent group of single women in the 35 to 45 age range, although I sometimes get distracted by those women in their late 20's.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I'd show you if my name was not there. My direct reports do not look like me. If a man had a choice, it would be me every time. People younger than 20 and older than 50 always mistake me for early 30s. I am not. But yes, I look it.

Younger than 20? I have older teenagers - they don’t have any meaningful understanding of the differences between 30, 40, and 50. Did you at that age?

I meant younger than 30. More like age 27-55 often mistake me for early 30s. Work setting. All the time. Both late 20s people to mid 50s people are shocked when I tell them my age. Most people assume I am not old enough for my job. They think I have less experience than I do.

Lol, and you really believe that?

"Young" people have no idea what 30, or 35, or 40 looks like. None. I'm a 44 year old high school teacher and last week a student said something like, "But you're in your late 20s, right? Or early 30s?" It isn't because I look like I'm in my late 20s or early 30s. It is because a 17 year old just sees "old, but grandma." They have no idea and probably believe that 44 year olds have white hair and wrinkles. Similarly, the early 20s student teachers look 17 to me: they don't look different from my juniors and seniors. To them, I could be anywhere from 30 to 45: they don't know what ageing looks like.

Also, sorry to tell you, but people lie. They are flattering you. In guessing age, NOBODY ever says the age they actually think you are. They say a much younger age and wait for you to correct. This is a kind of etiquette.

Finally, my son worked in a liquor store during grad school, and he said the middle aged women always used to act so flattered and pleased when he asked for ID, but...he HAD to ask for ID, no matter what the customer looked like. It was very obvious to him that these women were middle aged, but they believed that being asked for ID meant they looked 10 or 20 years younger.

I am not talking about getting carded. I am talking about 27-55 year olds at work (for years) assuming I am around 30 and shocked when I tell them my age. They treat me like I am young and I have to shut them up. This has happened 20 times in the last 5 years. These are not random one offs I see one time. These are people who I work with who know me and see me all the time and then when they find out how old I actually am, they are shocked and actually start treating me better because they were wrong assuming I was inexperienced.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I'd show you if my name was not there. My direct reports do not look like me. If a man had a choice, it would be me every time. People younger than 20 and older than 50 always mistake me for early 30s. I am not. But yes, I look it.

Younger than 20? I have older teenagers - they don’t have any meaningful understanding of the differences between 30, 40, and 50. Did you at that age?

I meant younger than 30. More like age 27-55 often mistake me for early 30s. Work setting. All the time. Both late 20s people to mid 50s people are shocked when I tell them my age. Most people assume I am not old enough for my job. They think I have less experience than I do.

I guess you must not speak with authority and knowledge. If it was clear that you had decades of experience when you communicated your ideas, they wouldn’t be shocked.

Managers know that— not coworkers in others departments that you see every day you barely work with (because they have nothing to do with your work so they wouldn’t know) or board members that you see at events. I literally had a board member who was probably 55 apologized to me because she told the CEO that she thought I was too young for my job and she told me to my face. She honestly didn’t think I was a day over 30. I was 45. I’ve also had direct reports age 27-33 me that they think that we’re about the same age—and then I tell them I’m 17 or 18 years older than then, and that shuts them up too when I first meet them.

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This PP might be looking younger than her age but it’s such a pointless brag without showing her photo! She’s a nut job

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Anonymous wrote:This PP might be looking younger than her age but it’s such a pointless brag without showing her photo! She’s a nut job

I had assume PP was the one who posts bathing suit pictures?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I'd show you if my name was not there. My direct reports do not look like me. If a man had a choice, it would be me every time. People younger than 20 and older than 50 always mistake me for early 30s. I am not. But yes, I look it.

Younger than 20? I have older teenagers - they don’t have any meaningful understanding of the differences between 30, 40, and 50. Did you at that age?

I meant younger than 30. More like age 27-55 often mistake me for early 30s. Work setting. All the time. Both late 20s people to mid 50s people are shocked when I tell them my age. Most people assume I am not old enough for my job. They think I have less experience than I do.

I guess you must not speak with authority and knowledge. If it was clear that you had decades of experience when you communicated your ideas, they wouldn’t be shocked.

Managers know that— not coworkers in others departments that you see every day you barely work with (because they have nothing to do with your work so they wouldn’t know) or board members that you see at events. I literally had a board member who was probably 55 apologized to me because she told the CEO that she thought I was too young for my job and she told me to my face. She honestly didn’t think I was a day over 30. I was 45. I’ve also had direct reports age 27-33 me that they think that we’re about the same age—and then I tell them I’m 17 or 18 years older than then, and that shuts them up too when I first meet them.

You keep this is a compliment about your looks. It’s a critique on how you carry yourself in the workplace.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I'd show you if my name was not there. My direct reports do not look like me. If a man had a choice, it would be me every time. People younger than 20 and older than 50 always mistake me for early 30s. I am not. But yes, I look it.

Younger than 20? I have older teenagers - they don’t have any meaningful understanding of the differences between 30, 40, and 50. Did you at that age?

I meant younger than 30. More like age 27-55 often mistake me for early 30s. Work setting. All the time. Both late 20s people to mid 50s people are shocked when I tell them my age. Most people assume I am not old enough for my job. They think I have less experience than I do.

Lol, and you really believe that?

"Young" people have no idea what 30, or 35, or 40 looks like. None. I'm a 44 year old high school teacher and last week a student said something like, "But you're in your late 20s, right? Or early 30s?" It isn't because I look like I'm in my late 20s or early 30s. It is because a 17 year old just sees "old, but grandma." They have no idea and probably believe that 44 year olds have white hair and wrinkles. Similarly, the early 20s student teachers look 17 to me: they don't look different from my juniors and seniors. To them, I could be anywhere from 30 to 45: they don't know what ageing looks like.

Also, sorry to tell you, but people lie. They are flattering you. In guessing age, NOBODY ever says the age they actually think you are. They say a much younger age and wait for you to correct. This is a kind of etiquette.

Finally, my son worked in a liquor store during grad school, and he said the middle aged women always used to act so flattered and pleased when he asked for ID, but...he HAD to ask for ID, no matter what the customer looked like. It was very obvious to him that these women were middle aged, but they believed that being asked for ID meant they looked 10 or 20 years younger.

I am not talking about getting carded. I am talking about 27-55 year olds at work (for years) assuming I am around 30 and shocked when I tell them my age. They treat me like I am young and I have to shut them up. This has happened 20 times in the last 5 years. These are not random one offs I see one time. These are people who I work with who know me and see me all the time and then when they find out how old I actually am, they are shocked and actually start treating me better because they were wrong assuming I was inexperienced.

People you work with and see all the time think you have 15 years less experience than you do. You seem to be focusing on the wrong part of the message.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I think I may know the pp in real life. She has two teen boys and actually is physically very attractive. I’m sure she was a 10, as pretty as one can get when she was younger. She is still definitely hot and I am sure men definitely desire her. She is well put together and has a sexy classy look. If she is the woman I am thinking of, her personality is the problem. She comes off too strong and aggressive. She comes from a good family. Her ex husband is lovely and his new wife is kind and a great stepmother.

This gives absolutely no idea about her looks. If you could find a twin celebrity, that would help to imagine

I can’t think of a twin celebrity, maybe Jessica Simpson but very smart and classy. She is always very put together. She has a nice figure, definitely has breast implants and perfectly blown out blonde hair and always dressed. Even on a sun morning, she is all dressed up with full make up. She looks like a total cougar MILF type.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

Live it up now. Menopause is coming.

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I am aware. I did not realize my attractiveness level in my 20s. It is sad it took until 40 to notice. I am not ever remarrying but it is nice that men of all ages think I am attractive. I know it won’t last but I am glad I started noticing before I am really old. Always been a workaholic and my mom and grandma were stunningly beautiful so growing up it was always like “no one can be as beautiful as them.” I am not am quite movie-star beautiful (my grandma looked like Ava Gardner with lighter hair), but I am close to that level, it just took me until late in life to realize it. It is validating. I did not know when I was younger, so I will enjoy it for the short time it will continue to last.

Eeek. Or work on valuing the things about you that have nothing to do with your physical beauty?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

I think I may know the pp in real life. She has two teen boys and actually is physically very attractive. I’m sure she was a 10, as pretty as one can get when she was younger. She is still definitely hot and I am sure men definitely desire her. She is well put together and has a sexy classy look. If she is the woman I am thinking of, her personality is the problem. She comes off too strong and aggressive. She comes from a good family. Her ex husband is lovely and his new wife is kind and a great stepmother.

This gives absolutely no idea about her looks. If you could find a twin celebrity, that would help to imagine

I can’t think of a twin celebrity, maybe Jessica Simpson but very smart and classy. She is always very put together. She has a nice figure, definitely has breast implants and perfectly blown out blonde hair and always dressed. Even on a sun morning, she is all dressed up with full make up. She looks like a total cougar MILF type.

She does look terrible now at 44. So you look like that ?

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