How hard is dating for late thirties childless women?

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Anonymous wrote:This is such a bizarre (yet typical) DCUM thread. Women cannot tolerate other women recognizing their own good looks or believing they appear younger than they are. Just bitter nasty women cutting down another woman. When I was in my 20’s I worked as an attorney with a divorced woman who was 47 with 2 teenagers. She was drop dead gorgeous and habitually got hit on by 20-something hot men. She was simply a gorgeous woman who genuinely aged incredibly well. And she was a successful attorney. Why is that so hard to accept?

Because this PP is extremely self-centered and insecure at the same time. Truly beautiful people don’t brag about dating much younger, how hot they are etc. And it’s pointless where nobody can even see her.

They will comment when they feel like everyone is always saying how "old" and "undesirable" 40s women are.

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A lot of 30 something women in DC do not want to get married at all. I was one of these women and only married @ 40, because my SO insisted on it, as we were expecting our first child. Do whatever floats your boat and do not bend to societal expectations. If you want a husband and a kid, say so right away (add it to your dating profile) and please don’t waste your time on guys that will string you along. You could also have a baby without a man. Just sayin!

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of 30 something women in DC do not want to get married at all. I was one of these women and only married @ 40, because my SO insisted on it, as we were expecting our first child. Do whatever floats your boat and do not bend to societal expectations. If you want a husband and a kid, say so right away (add it to your dating profile) and please don’t waste your time on guys that will string you along. You could also have a baby without a man. Just sayin!

Don't you think a child deserve 2 parents (mom and dad, mom and mom, or dad and dad)?

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I think a childless woman in her 30s should have zero issues because there are also more and more childless men in their 30s as well. She should easily find a similar man to match with.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

Live it up now. Menopause is coming.

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I am aware. I did not realize my attractiveness level in my 20s. It is sad it took until 40 to notice. I am not ever remarrying but it is nice that men of all ages think I am attractive. I know it won’t last but I am glad I started noticing before I am really old. Always been a workaholic and my mom and grandma were stunningly beautiful so growing up it was always like “no one can be as beautiful as them.” I am not am quite movie-star beautiful (my grandma looked like Ava Gardner with lighter hair), but I am close to that level, it just took me until late in life to realize it. It is validating. I did not know when I was younger, so I will enjoy it for the short time it will continue to last.

Eeek. Or work on valuing the things about you that have nothing to do with your physical beauty?

I had two books published by an actual publisher before the time I was 30–when you actually had to have talent to get a book deal. It’s pretty sad that I didn’t realize I was beautiful until I was 40. I’m allowed to have that realization. I never doubted that I was smart and accomplished, and assuming that someone’s focusing on beauty when they are older, does not mean that they don’t have anything else going for them.

Men care less about women's achievements. You could have had an illustrious career by 30 that won't impress most men. They will rank your beauty and physical attributes before your career/money.

Good men will be very interested in who a woman is, including her interests and careers. Beauty opens doors but it never seals the deal.

Some men absolutely care about your education and career. They won’t choose an ugly woman who has a good job but I have seen many hot woman who don’t get the ring. They are good enough to date but not good enough to marry.

I think personality and libido are bigger obstacles to marriage than what a woman does for a living. I certainly didn’t consider my wife’s resume before we married.