How hard is dating for late thirties childless women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was 34 and a lawyer in DC when I got divorced, no kids, and I was amazed by the attention I got but from the wrong people including many married guys. I got fed up with DC and moved back to the mid-west to be closer to family and friends. My sister introduced me to a wonderful guy and at 38 I'm married with a baby. som it can happen!

What to do now do in Midwest? You SAH?

No, still working full time.

Did DC job allow you to work remotely, or you were able to find something? I'm moving, too, in that direction

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine just snagged a divorced man who owns his own company and has hundreds of million in net worth. One kid who is out of college and not very present in his life (she’s happy about this). He is in his early 50s, very fit and active, and is engaging and fun. The “catch” is he is Indian, short, and bald. My friend doesn’t mind - he is spoiling her to the moon and she’s desperate to have kids, and with him she is set financially for life. But I think a lot of American women in this demographic on DCUM may rule him out due to his ethnicity and/or looks. So depends on how picky you are I suppose!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just snagged a divorced man who owns his own company and has hundreds of million in net worth. One kid who is out of college and not very present in his life (she’s happy about this). He is in his early 50s, very fit and active, and is engaging and fun. The “catch” is he is Indian, short, and bald. My friend doesn’t mind - he is spoiling her to the moon and she’s desperate to have kids, and with him she is set financially for life. But I think a lot of American women in this demographic on DCUM may rule him out due to his ethnicity and/or looks. So depends on how picky you are I suppose!

Did he propose or they are just dating ? I dated couple Indian men of this type: they were extremely conservative and relied on their moms’ and friends’ opinions about who they should marry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 34 and a lawyer in DC when I got divorced, no kids, and I was amazed by the attention I got but from the wrong people including many married guys. I got fed up with DC and moved back to the mid-west to be closer to family and friends. My sister introduced me to a wonderful guy and at 38 I'm married with a baby. som it can happen!

What to do now do in Midwest? You SAH?

No, still working full time.

Did DC job allow you to work remotely, or you were able to find something? I'm moving, too, in that direction

I wanted to exit big law so I joined a smaller firm. It's been great and they have been very accommodating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

You're probably hot. That's all that matters.

If you are a hot woman, you can do whatever you want. If you are not hot, you are up sh*t's creek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

You're probably hot. That's all that matters.

If you are a hot woman, you can do whatever you want. If you are not hot, you are up sh*t's creek.

I think the old wisdom of being childless etc etc etc being a turnoff is outdated now that there is just a absolute glut of average (not wealthy) divorced men moreso than hot women. They no longer care about reproducing and having a family, they got that out of the way already. Now they’re ready to rut aimlessly until the day they drop dead like a lifelong bachelor would, except now they have the benefit of having a built-in love/support parachute of the warm bosom of an ex-wife and children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

link to the thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

You're probably hot. That's all that matters.

If you are a hot woman, you can do whatever you want. If you are not hot, you are up sh*t's creek.

I think the old wisdom of being childless etc etc etc being a turnoff is outdated now that there is just an absolute glut of average (not wealthy) divorced men moreso than hot women. They no longer care about reproducing and having a family, they got that out of the way already. Now they’re ready to rut aimlessly until the day they drop dead like a lifelong bachelor would, except now they have the benefit of having a built-in love/support parachute of the warm bosom of an ex-wife and children.

Except that these 30s women all want babies …..

[Anonymous]

Late 30s and wanting a kid? Not very desirable. Late 30s have kids/don't want them? Much more appealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

You're probably hot. That's all that matters.

If you are a hot woman, you can do whatever you want. If you are not hot, you are up sh*t's creek.

I think the old wisdom of being childless etc etc etc being a turnoff is outdated now that there is just an absolute glut of average (not wealthy) divorced men moreso than hot women. They no longer care about reproducing and having a family, they got that out of the way already. Now they’re ready to rut aimlessly until the day they drop dead like a lifelong bachelor would, except now they have the benefit of having a built-in love/support parachute of the warm bosom of an ex-wife and children.

Except that these 30s women all want babies …..

The lady with a divorce and two kids already will definitely have better odds than a late thirtysomething who wants kids of her own. There are definitely a nonzero number of old guys out there that missed the boat the first time around and wouldn’t mind going through IVF though. But not a ton of them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just snagged a divorced man who owns his own company and has hundreds of million in net worth. One kid who is out of college and not very present in his life (she’s happy about this). He is in his early 50s, very fit and active, and is engaging and fun. The “catch” is he is Indian, short, and bald. My friend doesn’t mind - he is spoiling her to the moon and she’s desperate to have kids, and with him she is set financially for life. But I think a lot of American women in this demographic on DCUM may rule him out due to his ethnicity and/or looks. So depends on how picky you are I suppose!

No they will not rule him out. They will marry him and then divorce him a few years later. This man is better of being single. Most women he comes across will be after he offers them financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

Lol let me guess, you’re not dating other 47 (or even 40) yo women. There is an easy fix to your problem. Until then, enjoy being single.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There seem to be a lot of them in the DC area. They are beautiful, fit, well educated and have great careers. The only thing missing, if they would like, are husbands.

I imagine these women are catches and can date whomever they'd like? But there is definitely a lack of eligible bachelors at that age as most of them are snagged by women by mid twenties.

As a similar thirtysomething considering divorce in a terrible marriage...I am curious. I am still beautiful and am mistaken for late twenties/early thirties a lot.

I don't have any wrinkles or have gained significant weight. I also don't have kids...just wondering how dire my situation is if I still want a great marriage and at least a kid

Men you would like to marry, would probably prefer someone more youthful and not having to worry about infertility battles.

Not a poster yet in this thread, but a lot of men now don’t want children so this is not the same as it was 25 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spouses are boring. Birth or adopt a child on your own -- you will never be bored.

--SMC, 49, adopted my daughter at 37 and never missed a beat on the dating scene wanted I to date.

You adopted a 37 year-old?