How hard is dating for late thirties childless women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

[Anonymous]

If you already have kids, don’t want any more, and are ok with him also having kids, or if you don’t want kids at all - pretty good odds!

If you want to find someone to marry and have kids with quickly, especially if he doesn’t already have kids - not good odds!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

Go pick a really beautiful /best looking mid 40s women on the app. See if they want to match and date you just for LTR. If nobody is interested - well, now you now know why those 30s women want you.

[Anonymous]

Your decision to divorce should be independent from your consideration of what else is out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your decision to divorce should be independent from your consideration of what else is out there.

100% (I’m divorced and I never considered the possibility of someone else it’s that I wanted to get out of our marriage and I’m the one who only dates much younger men—that was a pleasant surprise that that was even possible. I knew when I got divorced that I would never ever remarry, and my decision was to be single forever rather than stay in a horrible marriage.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I am.the PP and we are in agreement. Everything you said make sense to me. As I stated I am staying single because my kids have suffered enough with the divorce and don't want to add more. Early on when I thought I wanted to be a in relationship again single and divorced women alike with kids did not make it an issue that I had kids and/or was divorced.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

You are 47 and still haven't figured out men haha. I don't think you ever will. Of course they want to sleep with you. They also want to.sleep.woth the 300 lbs women out there. They will do anything, take you on dates whatever it takes to have your p**y. You are not special so stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

Go pick a really beautiful /best looking mid 40s women on the app. See if they want to match and date you just for LTR. If nobody is interested - well, now you now know why those 30s women want you.

There are no good looking mid 40s women on OLD.

[Anonymous]

If you want both a spouse and a child it sounds like the Midwest is the place to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

You are 47 and still haven't figured out men haha. I don't think you ever will. Of course they want to sleep with you. They also want to.sleep.woth the 300 lbs women out there. They will do anything, take you on dates whatever it takes to have your p**y. You are not special so stop it.

There are beautiful women into their 50s. I honestly don’t think any of my friends could pull this off. Someone asked why someone would be interested in somebody my age and I responded— The reason is that I still look good enough to attract that much attention. Most people my age don’t look like me.

[Anonymous]

I'm 38, divorced, childless and I have no interest in remarrying (maybe someday) or having children. I think most men find me very attractive and I have no problem getting dates though not all are winners by any means. I do avoid men with young children as that gets very complex so the guys are either older late 40's+ or single guys in their 30's. I'm very honest and upfront about where I'm at which has been very helpful in terms of expectations. For the last six months I've been dating a guy who is 57 (way too old for a LTR) but he is a lot of fun, very sweet and generous, and his intimacy skills are excellent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

You are 47 and still haven't figured out men haha. I don't think you ever will. Of course they want to sleep with you. They also want to.sleep.woth the 300 lbs women out there. They will do anything, take you on dates whatever it takes to have your p**y. You are not special so stop it.

There are beautiful women into their 50s. I honestly don’t think any of my friends could pull this off. Someone asked why someone would be interested in somebody my age and I responded— The reason is that I still look good enough to attract that much attention. Most people my age don’t look like me.

And I’m the PP adding onto this to say that three of the men I’ve met in the last five years who were in their early 30s did not want kids and wanted a serious relationship with me which is why I cut it off because I am not ever having a blended family or introducing kids to a new partner. These are not one off hook ups and I think it’s pretty rare for somebody who is mid to late 40s to be able to attract somebody 15 to 20 years younger multiple times for more than just let hit it and quit it because that’s not what I’m talking about

[Anonymous]

I would have a baby on my own in your shoes, OP. Otherwise, you are at risk of rushing into the wrong relationship because you are at the tail end of your childbearing years. If you listen to divorced people, the significant majority will tell you that they'd rather parent alone than with a hostile co-parent. Coparenting with a difficult ex is the most miserable experience and completely negates any good that you may otherwise experience as a parent.