Attractive husband shlubby wife

[Anonymous]

So much disgusting misogyny on this thread. Is it one troll or multiple?

[Anonymous]

I know men who are better looking than their wives.

I know a few who were even when they married and he aged better than she. And yes, in several of those cases he cheated.

But I also know women who are pretty or average married to very handsome men. In the cases I know of, the women were very, very attentive to them. These men have little love notes tucked in places for them to find and their favorite meals cooked for them, etc. I don’t think the women do this to keep them - I just think they are very attentive women and the men preferred a nice woman who is totally in love with them than a gorgeous one who is going to save that favorite meal for his birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know men who are better looking than their wives.

I know a few who were even when they married and he aged better than she. And yes, in several of those cases he cheated.

But I also know women who are pretty or average married to very handsome men. In the cases I know of, the women were very, very attentive to them. These men have little love notes tucked in places for them to find and their favorite meals cooked for them, etc. I don’t think the women do this to keep them - I just think they are very attentive women and the men preferred a nice woman who is totally in love with them than a gorgeous one who is going to save that favorite meal for his birthday.

Interesting. I've always started relationships with very attractive guys but I have low self-esteem despite being told I'm pretty or beautiful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the frumpy wife married to a hot DH. He loves working out. I walk a couple times a week. He’s always dieting. I’m ordering dessert. He’s fit. I’m overweight 5’4” 170lbs. And I generally choose comfortable clothes over style.

Most men on DCUM state that men don’t care about a woman’s salary, but that has not been my experience. I’ve always dated more attractive men that make low average salaries. Like $100K - $150K. I make $300K, which provides for a much better standard of living than living on their own. DH makes less than me. It works for us.

Your DH doesn't feel dependent and resent that the higher standard of living is based on your salary?

Not at all. DH has a job he loves and he gets to take the kids to all their sports.

All of our salary is “our money.” We don’t look at it as mine or his. He is not dependent, as he could support himself if I wasn’t here.

i never wanted to be a SAHM, so it’s the perfect situation for us. I think you’ll see this more in the future as women out earn men at a great rate.

[Anonymous]

Husband here.

Women are so delusional. Just because a husband tells his fat wife he finds her beautiful, doesn’t mean he does. He says it to keep the marriage going and many women cannot handle the truth.

Unless you have a serious health issue, make losing weight a top priority.

Btw my wife is fat too and I told her to lose weight. I was nice and tactful about it but I made my point clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom isn’t bad looking but my dad has always been the better looking one. And everyone adores him. But he’s besotted with my mom and always has been. They celebrated their 57th anniversary last week!

She’s always joked that if she dies first, we’ll need a bouncer at her funeral to keep women off my dad lol.

Well your mom clearly has a great personality so there’s the explanation! Usually there’s some obvious explanation list this where it’s clear the woman is really smart with a great personality and the guy values that. If the woman doesn’t seem to have any great redeeming qualities personality-wise, always wonder if the guy is gay and figures she won’t ask too many questions.

I love my mom, but no, she's actually very difficult and not that smart. People love who they love, and my dad loves her. She loves him too, of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband here.

Women are so delusional. Just because a husband tells his fat wife he finds her beautiful, doesn’t mean he does. He says it to keep the marriage going and many women cannot handle the truth.

Unless you have a serious health issue, make losing weight a top priority.

Btw my wife is fat too and I told her to lose weight. I was nice and tactful about it but I made my point clear.

Did you just tell her to lose weight, or are you doing anything to actually enable that, like cooking healthy meals, hiring her a personal trainer, taking care of the kids while she works out? Because if all you do is criticize, she could just hop on a hot guy who likes big women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband here.

Women are so delusional. Just because a husband tells his fat wife he finds her beautiful, doesn’t mean he does. He says it to keep the marriage going and many women cannot handle the truth.

Unless you have a serious health issue, make losing weight a top priority.

Btw my wife is fat too and I told her to lose weight. I was nice and tactful about it but I made my point clear.

I have found plenty of fat women beautiful so I'm pretty sure when others say that, they mean it too. Just because it's not ever to your taste doesn't mean this applies to all others. I would never be as trashy a person as you so please understand there are all types in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband here.

Women are so delusional. Just because a husband tells his fat wife he finds her beautiful, doesn’t mean he does. He says it to keep the marriage going and many women cannot handle the truth.

Unless you have a serious health issue, make losing weight a top priority.

Btw my wife is fat too and I told her to lose weight. I was nice and tactful about it but I made my point clear.

You are an AH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Husband here.

Women are so delusional. Just because a husband tells his fat wife he finds her beautiful, doesn’t mean he does. He says it to keep the marriage going and many women cannot handle the truth.

Unless you have a serious health issue, make losing weight a top priority.

Btw my wife is fat too and I told her to lose weight. I was nice and tactful about it but I made my point clear.

Did you just tell her to lose weight, or are you doing anything to actually enable that, like cooking healthy meals, hiring her a personal trainer, taking care of the kids while she works out? Because if all you do is criticize, she could just hop on a hot guy who likes big women.

Sh**t I'll hope on her. I love big women. They are often super wet.

[Anonymous]

We take turns being shlubby

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen this.
1. DH sleeping with his students and drives DW into depression
2. DH former drug user and not 100% there, early dementia
3. DH gay but not open about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband here.

Women are so delusional. Just because a husband tells his fat wife he finds her beautiful, doesn’t mean he does. He says it to keep the marriage going and many women cannot handle the truth.

Unless you have a serious health issue, make losing weight a top priority.

Btw my wife is fat too and I told her to lose weight. I was nice and tactful about it but I made my point clear.

On her behalf, let me tell you what an a$$ clown you are. Appreciate the wife you obviously don’t deserve. She’s probably overweight bc you are horrible and depressing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Husband here.

Women are so delusional. Just because a husband tells his fat wife he finds her beautiful, doesn’t mean he does. He says it to keep the marriage going and many women cannot handle the truth.

Unless you have a serious health issue, make losing weight a top priority.

Btw my wife is fat too and I told her to lose weight. I was nice and tactful about it but I made my point clear.

On her behalf, let me tell you what an a$$ clown you are. Appreciate the wife you obviously don’t deserve. She’s probably overweight bc you are horrible and depressing

I hope she's cheating on him with a hot man of color who appreciates her curves.

[Anonymous]

You all will age. Stop focusing only on the vessel. It is good to remain healthy, etc., but what matters the most is the inner being. Love your ones; time goes by fast.

Signs a husband.