Attractive husband shlubby wife

[Anonymous]

I find that often the claims of being super attractive aren't true.

Also true the claims of the unattractive wife aren't true seldom is she unattractive typically not done up by other women/society standards ie no blowout, pedicure/manicure lots of makeup etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love DCUM delusion

Which part?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember once meeting this couple who were made up of a 6’ tall, very muscular, full brown hair and perfect white teeth husband and an overweight, schlumpy wide. The DH modeled and acted for a while, the wife worked and took care of the children. One day I overheard her talking about how she had just gotten gastric bypass surgery for weight loss (they looked to be in their early 30s) and I thought it must be very difficult being married to a man who can literally earn money on his looks.

Haha "wide"

[Anonymous]

I'm a schlubby wife. I'm also awesome. I have no time for appearance BS; never have. I cut my own hair. I don't wear makeup. I'm overweight. I truly don't care. I don't have half the time in my day to do all the things I want to do, and I'm not going to blow hours on my appearance.

My husband loves me. I'm good for him. I'm good to him. I'm funny, I'm raising a great kid, I hold his extended family together, I do great things in the world, I make decent money and I'm better with money than he is, and all in all I have elevated his standard of living considerably since we met. He's more attractive than me but way more messed up psychologically. We balance each other in some ways.

I'll be more likely to leave him because he's too stuck in some trauma and not willing to admit it or work on it and he's very moody, which is not how I want to live.

But I've never ever had a problem keeping long term boyfriends. I'm great company, great in bed, and just all around a good partner. Not everyone is the kind of surface level shallow that you see on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Another schlubby wife here.
I'm a 5/6, fit but slightly overweight as we hit middle age. Sporty, not a lot of makeup, long hair in a pony tail.
My husband is objectively very very handsome, a 10+.
Turns out, he is also high maintenance. Depressed, cranky, irritable, particular, know-it-all type.
I am easy going, creative, nurturing, a great cook, funny (people tell me this).
All of these traits come through, people tell him how lucky he is to have me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another schlubby wife here.
I'm a 5/6, fit but slightly overweight as we hit middle age. Sporty, not a lot of makeup, long hair in a pony tail.
My husband is objectively very very handsome, a 10+.
Turns out, he is also high maintenance. Depressed, cranky, irritable, particular, know-it-all type.
I am easy going, creative, nurturing, a great cook, funny (people tell me this).
All of these traits come through, people tell him how lucky he is to have me.

Not likely

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a schlubby wife. I'm also awesome. I have no time for appearance BS; never have. I cut my own hair. I don't wear makeup. I'm overweight. I truly don't care. I don't have half the time in my day to do all the things I want to do, and I'm not going to blow hours on my appearance.

My husband loves me. I'm good for him. I'm good to him. I'm funny, I'm raising a great kid, I hold his extended family together, I do great things in the world, I make decent money and I'm better with money than he is, and all in all I have elevated his standard of living considerably since we met. He's more attractive than me but way more messed up psychologically. We balance each other in some ways.

I'll be more likely to leave him because he's too stuck in some trauma and not willing to admit it or work on it and he's very moody, which is not how I want to live.

But I've never ever had a problem keeping long term boyfriends. I'm great company, great in bed, and just all around a good partner. Not everyone is the kind of surface level shallow that you see on DCUM.

Your brand of shallow isn't better it's only different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a man is a 10 and you ask him he will tell you he is an 8. If you tell him he is a 9 he will be super happy

If a woman is a 5 and you tell her she is an 8 she will insult you. She thinks she is no less than a 10.

Women perhaps because they spend so much time on their appearance are more confident than men. A fat woman will think the attractive man should actually be lucky to have her. Haven't you heard women say they are the prize in the relationship?

In my experience, you've got this totally backwards.

[Anonymous]

I’m the frumpy wife married to a hot DH. He loves working out. I walk a couple times a week. He’s always dieting. I’m ordering dessert. He’s fit. I’m overweight 5’4” 170lbs. And I generally choose comfortable clothes over style.

Most men on DCUM state that men don’t care about a woman’s salary, but that has not been my experience. I’ve always dated more attractive men that make low average salaries. Like $100K - $150K. I make $300K, which provides for a much better standard of living than living on their own. DH makes less than me. It works for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the frumpy wife married to a hot DH. He loves working out. I walk a couple times a week. He’s always dieting. I’m ordering dessert. He’s fit. I’m overweight 5’4” 170lbs. And I generally choose comfortable clothes over style.

Most men on DCUM state that men don’t care about a woman’s salary, but that has not been my experience. I’ve always dated more attractive men that make low average salaries. Like $100K - $150K. I make $300K, which provides for a much better standard of living than living on their own. DH makes less than me. It works for us.

Your DH doesn't feel dependent and resent that the higher standard of living is based on your salary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually these men cheat. 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the frumpy wife married to a hot DH. He loves working out. I walk a couple times a week. He’s always dieting. I’m ordering dessert. He’s fit. I’m overweight 5’4” 170lbs. And I generally choose comfortable clothes over style.

Most men on DCUM state that men don’t care about a woman’s salary, but that has not been my experience. I’ve always dated more attractive men that make low average salaries. Like $100K - $150K. I make $300K, which provides for a much better standard of living than living on their own. DH makes less than me. It works for us.

Your DH doesn't feel dependent and resent that the higher standard of living is based on your salary?

You should be embarrassed at how dumb this makes you sound. Do you feel dependent on your husband and resentful that your standard of living is based entirely on his salary? Nope, didn't think so.

[Anonymous]

I have the feeling the lady posting nasty insults over and over again is no top model herself, LOL! In fact, I'm guessing she's not even married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom isn’t bad looking but my dad has always been the better looking one. And everyone adores him. But he’s besotted with my mom and always has been. They celebrated their 57th anniversary last week!

She’s always joked that if she dies first, we’ll need a bouncer at her funeral to keep women off my dad lol.

Well your mom clearly has a great personality so there’s the explanation! Usually there’s some obvious explanation list this where it’s clear the woman is really smart with a great personality and the guy values that. If the woman doesn’t seem to have any great redeeming qualities personality-wise, always wonder if the guy is gay and figures she won’t ask too many questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have the feeling the lady posting nasty insults over and over again is no top model herself, LOL! In fact, I'm guessing she's not even married.

So in your mind does one need to get married to be considered non ugly?