Anonymous wrote:I agree that it is possible that OP's DH sounds like he has a drinking problem. Esp b/c he has bottles in the car and apparently lies about when and how much he drinks. But reading through the posts here, I think one of two things is happening in this string. Either the responses are from tea-totters and only tea-totters or people are drastically under estimating or under representing how much they drink. The adults, including parents, in my NW Washington neighborhood drink a good deal more then described in these posts. Most have a drink or two every night.
Most probably keep any heavy drinking at home, no? Do most of your neighbors have empties in the glove box and trunk? Do they have bar receipts during work hours more than a very occasional drink at lunch? Why conflate responsible social drinking with the fact that OP's husband has a serious drinking problem? Are you really comfortable being on the same road he is on coming home drunk or drinking during commuting hours? I think OP was soliciting a benchmark to see if her fears that her husband has a serious problem are correct. She might just see the 6 pack at night, a lot in itself, but he is drinking during and after work and while in the car in addition. Is that really the same situation? Is it helpful to her to minimize the facts at hand? If you are comfortable with the level of drinking you and your friends do, that's great, enjoy. But OP doesn't have that luxury anymore, does she? If some people saying that they don't drink at all makes you uncomfortable, then see if it's easy for you to cut back, if it is, you are probably fine. If it's not, you might want to investigate further. All the people chiming in who have experience with alcoholics, many of whom are happy social drinkers, are telling OP that her husband's drinking is a big problem.
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