Forum Index
»
Off-Topic
How Much Do You & Your Spouse Drink Each Night
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
My dad drank this much and managed to function normally and not have other outward signs of alcoholism, but when he needed to quit for health reasons (cancer treatment), he could not. As others have pointed out, alcohol dependence is hard on the body, even if there aren't behavioral issues. (To answer your Q, DH and I used to regularly share a bottle of wine most nights, but now have cut back to one glass at home, maybe two if we are out with friends. We're in our mid and late 40s, and can't function the next day any more.) |
Anonymous
|
DH and I average about 5-6 bottles of wine a week. So, that's less than half a bottle a day. We rarely go a night without a drink and our max is one bottle a night. Some days we have only one glass, other days, we split the bottle.
We have wine only after DS goes to bed for the night. I quit for three weeks because of a diet and it wasn't hard, so I don't think there's a dependence issue. We just enjoy wine and spend time that way. |
Anonymous
Not normal. How does he seem after this much alcohol? My father was a functioning alcoholic for 40 years. He drank this much and sometimes more during the week and more on the weekends. This amount wouldn't even affect him. He developed cirrhosis of the liver and died a few yrs ago. It is too much to drink on a daily basis. I drink nothing myself b/c I am always worried about possibly having to drive. A few nights ago, my friend got in a car accident and I had to go pick her up. Not something I could do if I were drinking. You never know. |
Anonymous
| OP, if he drank this way before you married him and yet you still married him, it's not really fair to start nagging now because this is what you signed up for. |
Anonymous
We are similar to this, though we are more before and during dinner vs. waiting until kids are asleep. And lately, it's been more like 3 - 4 bottles a week because on the nights when we would, say, split a bottle - I realized that I did notice it the next day...would make me slightly more tired, sluggish, etc. and I got tired of feeling like that. Less wine does seem to equal more energy, even if I don't sleep well that night. I do love my wine, though! |
Anonymous
|
We don't drink.
|
Anonymous
| We don't drink either. |
Anonymous
| Several nights a week, but not every night, my husband has one beer and I have one glass of wine. On a weekend night if we go out we might have two, but that's not every weekend. |
aprilmayjune
Member Offline
Member Offline
Disagree.. It is NEVER too late to start showing concern for DH's health and the wellbeing for everyone in the family.. |
Anonymous
| You can show concern without nagging. But OP should know better than to try to change someone. This is what she got into and she needs to make sure her husband sees her concern as coming from a loving, not nagging, place. |
Anonymous
That wasn't my question. Before we were married we did not have children. You've never made a change for your kids? He may have smoked before I met him, that doesn't mean it's okay or I can't say something to him about it. And I am not nagging him, he just doesn't want to own up to his problem so he puts the focus on me. |
Anonymous
| OP, you might want to look into Al Anon for some resources for yourself. Sounds like DH may be or may be on his way to becoming a functional alchoholic. I disagree with folks bashing you, you may not have seen this as a problem when younger or before kids, and see it as one now. You need to get some support and ideas from folks in the same situation. Sadly, we can't control anyone else's behavior. As someone who grew up with a dad who drank a similar amount, make sure he isn't driving the kids if you have any. Also think about your liability if there are DUIs, etc. It's really not the case that since once you put up, now you have to shut up. If he caused an accident is it possible that you could lose your house? This is not a harmless habit that only impacts him. If he drinks and drives he could kill someone. |
Anonymous
| No drinks for us. |
Anonymous
|
DH averages a beer per day (0-2 per day). I average about 2 glasses of wine a week.
On another note, I'm starting to understand those posts where people say they make $300k and feel broke--a bottle of wine a night is an expensive habit...even with average wine that could easily add up to $500 a month...I feel better about drinking $100 of starbucks a month now. |
Anonymous
| I'm single and usually drink one gin and tonic a night when I get home from work. My ex-boyfriend, though, drank like your husband does... a six-pack a night, and he pretty much shotgunned it like a college boy would (he's 39). This, mostly, contributed to the demise of our relationship. |