Men having vasectomies in their 20s and 30s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Stupidity

Actually, pretty smart. Nobody can trap them into marriage and kids when they don't want. If they do get married their wife USUALLY will outlive them and take care of them in old age. They won't have the anxiety and cost of kids.

I love my kids, and wouldn't trade them in for anything ... but if I didn't have them? Well, as a woman I might be worried about old age but I'd be working hard to make sure I had enough money to care for myself.

Money can hire people to take care of you, but it won't provide a family who will love you and be at your bedside holding your hand when you breathe your last breath.

I'm not a kid person, but I have two kids. I'm grateful for them and love them very much.

Both my ILs have passed. Most of their friends had already passed, and they were not close to their nieces and nephews. It would've been incredibly sad for them to die without loved ones next to them.

OK. But that doesn't make people want to bring kids into the world necessarily. My kids want kids but are concerned about the environment, so might not. Some people have mental health issues or physical health issues in the family and don't want to pass on their propensity for it. Some people just don't want kids.

You can make a family and find people to love and be loved by who aren't your children. If you can't, then you have some personal work to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember I had a personal trainer years ago. I was 40 and done having kids and wanted to get back in shape. He was 23. And randomly without any prompting or been having a discussion that made any sense to bring it up told me he didn’t want kids and had a vasectomy. He apparently had a g/f and said they talked about it. All I could think about is ok-but like what if you don’t end up staying with this g/f and meeting someone you do in fact want to have kids with. Seems so so young to make such a permanent decision. I feel like the changes in your /wants needs that happen between young twenties and early thirties are pretty vast.

Or we could just trust people when they say they don't want children? Crazy concept, but not everyone wants kids, not everyone changes their mind, and some people know very early on that they don't want them. There isn't anything wrong with them, and making that decision for their own health and future is none of your business.

[Anonymous]

This is a little different but my ex got a vasectomy at 27. We have two kids though. He kept knocking up other women after we split- he hates condoms and pull out game is weak (thus how I ended up pregnant at only 21&23, combined with me being anti hormones/BC). He got tired of paying them off to get a abortions I suppose. Maybe these men have had accidentals and had the women get abortions, and figure it's best to just not have kids than risk having kids with the wrong women. In my ex's case, these women were crazy and he didn't realize until after he knocked them up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a little different but my ex got a vasectomy at 27. We have two kids though. He kept knocking up other women after we split- he hates condoms and pull out game is weak (thus how I ended up pregnant at only 21&23, combined with me being anti hormones/BC). He got tired of paying them off to get a abortions I suppose. Maybe these men have had accidentals and had the women get abortions, and figure it's best to just not have kids than risk having kids with the wrong women. In my ex's case, these women were crazy and he didn't realize until after he knocked them up.

You sound like a hottie. How old are you now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because marriage is a losing proposition for men. Add kids to mix and women can take you to the cleaners even harder in divorce court. Family courts are overwhelmingly stacked against men. Can't get reamed by a family court if you can't have kids, lol.

Women now make as much as men, so they are subject to the same laws that once benefited them. 50/50 is the norm. And you don't pay child support if she makes more than you.

This isn’t true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a little different but my ex got a vasectomy at 27. We have two kids though. He kept knocking up other women after we split- he hates condoms and pull out game is weak (thus how I ended up pregnant at only 21&23, combined with me being anti hormones/BC). He got tired of paying them off to get a abortions I suppose. Maybe these men have had accidentals and had the women get abortions, and figure it's best to just not have kids than risk having kids with the wrong women. In my ex's case, these women were crazy and he didn't realize until after he knocked them up.

You sound like a hottie. How old are you now?

Lol wtf? Age doesn't mean hotness dumb ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White guys are checking out. Having maxed out what we can do for Earth it’s gotten boring and annoying.

Yep time to have white Russian men exported over so we have hot white men procreating with us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s great. I am a teacher and know a lot of kids with single moms and deadbeat dads. Prevent unwanted pregnancies ahead of time, and then have the procedure reversed down the road if you really want to.

Agree.


However I don’t think there is a rise in vax by single unmarried heterosexual men. Op hasn’t supported the premise in any statistically significant way at all.

Most men are ignorant about vax and scared of it. Including my 43 yo spouse who’s scared to do it yet knows nothing about it, the little procedure, the quick recovery, the insurance coverage, etc. And he has no friends and lies to his doctors, so it won’t be coming up.
So stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a little different but my ex got a vasectomy at 27. We have two kids though. He kept knocking up other women after we split- he hates condoms and pull out game is weak (thus how I ended up pregnant at only 21&23, combined with me being anti hormones/BC). He got tired of paying them off to get a abortions I suppose. Maybe these men have had accidentals and had the women get abortions, and figure it's best to just not have kids than risk having kids with the wrong women. In my ex's case, these women were crazy and he didn't realize until after he knocked them up.

You sound like a hottie. How old are you now?

Yeah real hottie with the bad guy baby daddy. Such a cool post, living the life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On old saw more than a few guys who were in their early 30s and declared they had vasectomies. Some said they were OK with women having kids already but they would not. Wondering why no kids for sure at a young age?

Nope.

Vasectomies are dropping across the USA. Too many cultures never heard of it here and the gay population doesn’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a little different but my ex got a vasectomy at 27. We have two kids though. He kept knocking up other women after we split- he hates condoms and pull out game is weak (thus how I ended up pregnant at only 21&23, combined with me being anti hormones/BC). He got tired of paying them off to get a abortions I suppose. Maybe these men have had accidentals and had the women get abortions, and figure it's best to just not have kids than risk having kids with the wrong women. In my ex's case, these women were crazy and he didn't realize until after he knocked them up.

You sound like a hottie. How old are you now?

Lol wtf? Age doesn't mean hotness dumb ass

It kind of does the older you get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember I had a personal trainer years ago. I was 40 and done having kids and wanted to get back in shape. He was 23. And randomly without any prompting or been having a discussion that made any sense to bring it up told me he didn’t want kids and had a vasectomy. He apparently had a g/f and said they talked about it. All I could think about is ok-but like what if you don’t end up staying with this g/f and meeting someone you do in fact want to have kids with. Seems so so young to make such a permanent decision. I feel like the changes in your /wants needs that happen between young twenties and early thirties are pretty vast.

Or we could just trust people when they say they don't want children? Crazy concept, but not everyone wants kids, not everyone changes their mind, and some people know very early on that they don't want them. There isn't anything wrong with them, and making that decision for their own health and future is none of your business.

Most people have no idea what they want when they are young. Sure some probably never change their view on certain things but you can still not want something and wait on a permanent (obviously you can reverse but it’s not a small inexpensive thing to do so) surgery. Having a medicinal procedure at a young age seems…extreme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a little different but my ex got a vasectomy at 27. We have two kids though. He kept knocking up other women after we split- he hates condoms and pull out game is weak (thus how I ended up pregnant at only 21&23, combined with me being anti hormones/BC). He got tired of paying them off to get a abortions I suppose. Maybe these men have had accidentals and had the women get abortions, and figure it's best to just not have kids than risk having kids with the wrong women. In my ex's case, these women were crazy and he didn't realize until after he knocked them up.

You sound like a hottie. How old are you now?

Lol wtf? Age doesn't mean hotness dumb ass

It kind of does the older you get.

For white people who hit their prime at 21 yes for others no. My prime was 38. I'm 42 now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a little different but my ex got a vasectomy at 27. We have two kids though. He kept knocking up other women after we split- he hates condoms and pull out game is weak (thus how I ended up pregnant at only 21&23, combined with me being anti hormones/BC). He got tired of paying them off to get a abortions I suppose. Maybe these men have had accidentals and had the women get abortions, and figure it's best to just not have kids than risk having kids with the wrong women. In my ex's case, these women were crazy and he didn't realize until after he knocked them up.

These women are crazy? You're crazy. "His pullout game is weak." First time i ever heard of "pull out game."