Whose Responsibility?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.

This did not happen bc the college did not speak to the HS office nor did the HS send anything other than the end of year transcript.

Now that one is heading off, you should think about some counseling.

You are 100% wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.

This did not happen bc the college did not speak to the HS office nor did the HS send anything other than the end of year transcript.

Now that one is heading off, you should think about some counseling.

You are 100% wrong.

Liars keep on lying.

[Anonymous]

The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.

It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.

But they didn’t. End result is 100% ok.

Yes, it caused your DD a ton of stress for a fixed period of time. This is a great opportunity to model resilience. Show her what it looks like to be grateful when things work out, and to be appreciative of her ability to let it go and move forward.

Life will continually throw wrenches in her plans. Sometimes it will be her fault. Sometimes it will be someone else’s fault. Sometimes it will be no one’s fault at all. In all cases, her focus should be on addressing the problem and then moving forward - grateful and stronger as a result.

Holding grudges, fanning the flames of victimhood (it’s someone else’s fault … ), and seeking retribution (someone needs to answer for this … ) are all self-destructive behaviors - especially when the outcome has been so positive!

Be grateful and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.

Are you at a private school? We are and we had something similar happen, including not even the slightest hint of apology.

[Anonymous]

One of my favorite mentors gave me this excellent advice 25 years ago:

“Be a problem solver, not a blame assessor.”

This mindset has served me very well for a quarter century. Maybe it’ll do the same for you and your DD going forward?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

[Anonymous]

Are people really trying to convince others that high schools never send the wrong transcripts? They are infallible? That is the oddest thing about this thread. Are all these people admins in the guidance office?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

Listen to yourself. You’re talking about a girl’s appearance, weight, and intelligence. Unhinged and lying…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

Get your lie right. The counselor admitted they sent the wrong transcript? Psst: your story was they sent the right transcript to the wrong school. That’s true. Also true that it was because of what your kid did. Even you called what she did a simple mistake…now it’s your kid made no mistake. Lies can be tricky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

FYI: my kid turned down UNC Chapel Hill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

NP. Seems that your daughter made the mistake. Did this now show up on her portal at all? If this is a public school then the counselors are dealing with hundreds of kids so not sure how you can blame them here. Good lesson to your daughter to double check important things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The verification is the drop down menu. If your daughter accidentally chose the wrong school, it isn’t her high school’s fault.

The problem was fixed. Move on.

Again, the counselor has no responsibility to endure they are sending it to the correct school? My DD has no access to anything to verify and if an error this large is this easy to make you'd think the school would be looking precisely for this because it must happen all the time.

I'm incredulous that my DD was the only senior of several hundred in her class to make such a simple mistake.

We have moved on but I want to know what happened.

Good lord, no. Your kid is responsible. You are responsible. The counselor doesn't have time or resources to check this for every kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.

The college just knows the HS sent the transcript to a different college - the college has no idea whose fault that was. Why are you so determined to have the blame pointed at the school and not your DD? Even if there was a 50-50 chance it was their fault - nobody knows (including you) because there is no proof. But my guess it it was your daughter...and even if it was the school....move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

FYI: my kid turned down UNC Chapel Hill.

Cafeteria wasn't big enough, I presume?