Whose Responsibility?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The counselor shouldn’t have placed blame with your daughter. It’s very irritating and low class when employees do this. She should have said, “Oh no! I will get them the transcript right away. No worries! So sorry that happened.”

I think you are thinking about 30-40 years ago. Now, there are so many tiger parents who try to blame everything including the student's errors on the school and school staff. Because of this, school employees have to be very clear when there was an error by the student that cause the problem. So many people blame the school and school employees for student errors that school employees now have to be defensive and establish when it was a problem created by the student to protect themselves.

OP is one of those parents who will try to blame the school and employees for her child's problem and error. She was already told that her child picked the wrong school from the drop down menu, but she is adamant that she find a way to blame the school for this error. She claims that she has moved on, but even though the problem is resolved, she is still trying to find a way to blame the school for the problem created by her child. I can't wait to see what she does when her child graduates from school and tries to get a job and loses the job because she did not send information that the employers asked for and they rescind an offer. Is Mommy going to call the corporate HR department to tell them that they need to hire her snowflake even though she can't follow directions?

Exactly. Even when advised her DD selected the wrong school, OP BLAMED the school for not double-checking her work. Her DD can do no wrong. God help the UNC.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

You lost me on “fat, ugly, and going to CC…”. You lost all credibility with me. There is nuance to the conversation the school had with the college, and the school doesn’t have time to participate in the blame game when all the college wants is the transcript. Your DD put in the wrong school on the drop-down, resulting in the school sending the transcript to the wrong college — “technically” the school sent it to the wrong place, but they did it BECAUSE of your daughters error. Do you not understand that? If not, there is a CC around here that might be able to help you with critical thinking.

You have no proof the DD sent it to the wrong school. You have her HS blaming her for it. Because the guidance counselor is probably scared sh*tless that he will lose his job for jeopardizing a kid's future.

This is DC, sweetie. Lots of parents around here are litigious over tiny things. You can bet heads will roll over something you keep calling minor.

The fact that there is a drop-down menu suggests the process is electronic — therefore, her DD likely DID choose the wrong school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.

OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.

You lost me on “fat, ugly, and going to CC…”. You lost all credibility with me. There is nuance to the conversation the school had with the college, and the school doesn’t have time to participate in the blame game when all the college wants is the transcript. Your DD put in the wrong school on the drop-down, resulting in the school sending the transcript to the wrong college — “technically” the school sent it to the wrong place, but they did it BECAUSE of your daughters error. Do you not understand that? If not, there is a CC around here that might be able to help you with critical thinking.

You have no proof the DD sent it to the wrong school. You have her HS blaming her for it. Because the guidance counselor is probably scared sh*tless that he will lose his job for jeopardizing a kid's future.

This is DC, sweetie. Lots of parents around here are litigious over tiny things. You can bet heads will roll over something you keep calling minor.

This is telenova level drama and just funny. You think “heads will roll” because grades were sent to the wrong school and it took a couple days to clear up? There have been ZERO long-term consequences to the kid’s status at the college. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just let it go op. FWIW I believe the school. It’s not like they would need to make up a story vs just saying oops our mistake we will fix it- they fix it either way. Your daughter is filling out literally hundreds of forms right now and it’s a tedious and redundant process. It’s highly likely that she mis clicked one box. You should probably have her bring the counseling office some chocolates as a thank you for jumping in off schedule and fixing her mistake. Teach your kid some graciousness and humility.

Uhhhh, no she isn't.

Tell me you don't know anything about the status of incoming freshman right now without telling you you don't know anything about incoming freshman.

Huh? My kid is filling out all sorts of forms.

+1 If your kid isn't, she is dropping the ball again.

You're missing the point. PP claimed OP was lying because her child was filling out "hundreds" of forms. That is, of course, a complete lie.

OP was called a liar when she said the college said they spoke to the counselor who admitted he sent the wrong transcript (her words).

A. The HS did not talk to the college.
B. The wrong transcript wasn’t sent. The right transcript was sent to the wrong school.
C. No one is lying for fear of heads rolling bc OP’s kid’s transcript was slightly delayed in being sent to the right school.

[Anonymous]

TLDR; college didn’t have the kid’s hs transcript so they sent an attention-grabbing email for the kid to fix it, and it promptly, satisfactorily got fixed.

Moral of the story is kids should be checking their portals periodically to confirm requirements like transcripts, immunizations and other things that could put a hold on registration or admissions are showing as “completed” in the portal.

[Anonymous]

The HS is obviously protecting their own. Not surprising and also gross.

[Anonymous]

They don’t have time, and should not be responsible for, checking your daughter’s work.
It sounds like there will be no negative repercussions.

Everyone makes mistakes.

Congrats to your daughter!

[Anonymous]

FYI, Jeff suggests that OP is a likely troll, and says this thread is filled with sockpuppeting:

“…Regardless of who might be responsible, (posters) agreed that the problem was resolved and that the original poster should move on. But the original poster was far from ready to move on. Far from ready. She sock puppeted posts to fake the anger that she expected others to feel but that they, in fact, did not. When one poster suggested that the original poster's story might not be true, the original poster claimed that the poster has a daughter who is "fat, ugly and going to [community college]." While most of the posters in this thread consider the entire incident to be no big deal or, at best, a warning that college applicants should stay on top of their email and frequently check the admissions portal, the original poster considers this to have been a major event. She says that it caused her daughter considerable stress and endangered her daughter's future. All of this despite it apparently having been resolved within a few hours. In a later message she hinted that the high school counselor should be fired and that she might pursue legal action if she could prove that the high school was responsible for the error. I assume that the original poster is trolling, especially given the large number of sock puppeted posts, and the outrage that can't possibly be real.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.

It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.

Why are you involved? Isn’t this your daughter’s problem. I had no parents in my life since 18 and certainly would not have gone forward waiting for them to help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.

It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.

Why are you involved? Isn’t this your daughter’s problem. I had no parents in my life since 18 and certainly would not have gone forward waiting for them to help.

Sorry you come from a sh*tty family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FYI, Jeff suggests that OP is a likely troll, and says this thread is filled with sockpuppeting:

“…Regardless of who might be responsible, (posters) agreed that the problem was resolved and that the original poster should move on. But the original poster was far from ready to move on. Far from ready. She sock puppeted posts to fake the anger that she expected others to feel but that they, in fact, did not. When one poster suggested that the original poster's story might not be true, the original poster claimed that the poster has a daughter who is "fat, ugly and going to [community college]." While most of the posters in this thread consider the entire incident to be no big deal or, at best, a warning that college applicants should stay on top of their email and frequently check the admissions portal, the original poster considers this to have been a major event. She says that it caused her daughter considerable stress and endangered her daughter's future. All of this despite it apparently having been resolved within a few hours. In a later message she hinted that the high school counselor should be fired and that she might pursue legal action if she could prove that the high school was responsible for the error. I assume that the original poster is trolling, especially given the large number of sock puppeted posts, and the outrage that can't possibly be real.”

I’ve been so hoping this thread would make it to the daily blog 😂

[Anonymous]

And is this truly caused "so much stress," college will cause major breakdown. Silly troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And is this truly caused "so much stress," college will cause major breakdown. Silly troll.

And yet you took the bait. LOL.

[Anonymous]

The college have a portal where the checklist items are identified with status. DD should have checked and followed up. If so, she may have seen that the wrong school was selected. But it was fixed, all good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FYI, Jeff suggests that OP is a likely troll, and says this thread is filled with sockpuppeting:

“…Regardless of who might be responsible, (posters) agreed that the problem was resolved and that the original poster should move on. But the original poster was far from ready to move on. Far from ready. She sock puppeted posts to fake the anger that she expected others to feel but that they, in fact, did not. When one poster suggested that the original poster's story might not be true, the original poster claimed that the poster has a daughter who is "fat, ugly and going to [community college]." While most of the posters in this thread consider the entire incident to be no big deal or, at best, a warning that college applicants should stay on top of their email and frequently check the admissions portal, the original poster considers this to have been a major event. She says that it caused her daughter considerable stress and endangered her daughter's future. All of this despite it apparently having been resolved within a few hours. In a later message she hinted that the high school counselor should be fired and that she might pursue legal action if she could prove that the high school was responsible for the error. I assume that the original poster is trolling, especially given the large number of sock puppeted posts, and the outrage that can't possibly be real.”

Great. Another loser troll getting their rocks off here.