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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Maybe. But I doubt it. Who knows if they'll be friends forever (honestly, nobody is friends forever, so that's a weird standard to set), but I'm not kidding when the Korean kid walked into my house this weekend and said "what's up you fat redneck" to my son (bc he had a sunburn).

These kids are different than you. They see through it. And that's, in part, because we've done a great job as a community letting them grow up together.

I'm a little surprised by the response on this thread; these types of relationhips were the desired outcome. We want these kids being like this with each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Because they are being brainwashed to find offense in everything. And what you don't realize is that minority is no longer a minority. You're seeing this through your outdated lens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Because they are being brainwashed to find offense in everything. And what you don't realize is that minority is no longer a minority. You're seeing this through your outdated lens.

Exactly right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Because they are being brainwashed to find offense in everything. And what you don't realize is that minority is no longer a minority. You're seeing this through your outdated lens.

No hun, you find you actually have a voice. It's stuff you realize in your latter adult life, so we aren't talking brainwashing unless you are the sort to be gullible in your middle age.
But you really wouldn't get it. It would be too much trouble for you. You like low maintenance people, no trouble

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Maybe. But I doubt it. Who knows if they'll be friends forever (honestly, nobody is friends forever, so that's a weird standard to set), but I'm not kidding when the Korean kid walked into my house this weekend and said "what's up you fat redneck" to my son (bc he had a sunburn).

These kids are different than you. They see through it. And that's, in part, because we've done a great job as a community letting them grow up together.

I'm a little surprised by the response on this thread; these types of relationhips were the desired outcome. We want these kids being like this with each other.

You want kids to be like that with your kid. Others are saying differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

+1 my DH was the same. His "friends" were just racist bullies and he didn't want to say anything because that was his circle. He stayed quiet or laughed along, but was bothered and uncomfortable. He's someone who is very vocal about these things now, and would never want our child to go through the same.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that so many people are worried about statements being recorded or possible college admissions blow back. How about just raising a decent human being who conducts themselves with integrity and treats people with respect - like most of our parents taught us?

They don't care that they are racists, they only care that people knowing they are racist will negatively affect their lives. Hence these parents think it's fine to say all this stuff, just don't post it on twitter or your college might see and rescind your admission. Keep that racism on the DL!

Yes, once someone voices a thought outside of the bounds that you have determined, they should be cancelled. College admissions and job offers rescinded, publicly shamed and shunned,

What a world you want to live in...

Look, we aren't talking about Galileo here. Your talking about other races. Stay in you neighborhood where this sort of thing seems acceptable.

NP - you mean in my non lilly white racially diverse neighborhood where teens all get along and mess with each other and don’t care to have someone policing their every word? Ok, I will!

Having Asians and the random African American is not really diverse but you tell yourself what ever you want
- Asian

At Blair? The only Asians are in the magnet. The majority of kids in gen pop (with my kids) are Hispanic and black. So what were trying to say again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Maybe. But I doubt it. Who knows if they'll be friends forever (honestly, nobody is friends forever, so that's a weird standard to set), but I'm not kidding when the Korean kid walked into my house this weekend and said "what's up you fat redneck" to my son (bc he had a sunburn).

These kids are different than you. They see through it. And that's, in part, because we've done a great job as a community letting them grow up together.

I'm a little surprised by the response on this thread; these types of relationhips were the desired outcome. We want these kids being like this with each other.

You want kids to be like that with your kid. Others are saying differently.

DP
Right. So when kids get along and joke like this, quite yelling RACIST from the sidelines. If it’s not affecting you or your kid personally, can it. It’s getting old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Because they are being brainwashed to find offense in everything. And what you don't realize is that minority is no longer a minority. You're seeing this through your outdated lens.

Exactly right.

Agree. So nice that people are finally coming to this realization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Because they are being brainwashed to find offense in everything. And what you don't realize is that minority is no longer a minority. You're seeing this through your outdated lens.

No hun, you find you actually have a voice. It's stuff you realize in your latter adult life, so we aren't talking brainwashing unless you are the sort to be gullible in your middle age.
But you really wouldn't get it. It would be too much trouble for you. You like low maintenance people, no trouble

You do sound like a pain in the ass. But just keep screaming into the void since nobody really cares.

[Anonymous]

Have them read this book


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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Because they are being brainwashed to find offense in everything. And what you don't realize is that minority is no longer a minority. You're seeing this through your outdated lens.

No hun, you find you actually have a voice. It's stuff you realize in your latter adult life, so we aren't talking brainwashing unless you are the sort to be gullible in your middle age.
But you really wouldn't get it. It would be too much trouble for you. You like low maintenance people, no trouble

most people do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure your kid knows that it’s not ok to make dog-eating jokes to Asians other than his “best friend.” A lot of us don’t think that’s funny. And the fact that he has an Asian best friend doesn’t give him a pass.

Well sure, knowing that you can't joke with strangers the same way you joke with your best friends is a good lesson.

And the fact that his best friend doesnt mind absolutely does give him a pass to joke with that specific best friend. That's the whole point.

Give it time. He'll feel something about it when he's older. Odds are they won't be friends forever. I let stuff slide when I was younger that I realized I really didn't like, but what can you do when you are a kid and your friend starts talking like that because you have to prove you are the low maintenance minority.

Because they are being brainwashed to find offense in everything. And what you don't realize is that minority is no longer a minority. You're seeing this through your outdated lens.

No hun, you find you actually have a voice. It's stuff you realize in your latter adult life, so we aren't talking brainwashing unless you are the sort to be gullible in your middle age.
But you really wouldn't get it. It would be too much trouble for you. You like low maintenance people, no trouble

most people do.

DP. True, but drama people only know drama and don't understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that so many people are worried about statements being recorded or possible college admissions blow back. How about just raising a decent human being who conducts themselves with integrity and treats people with respect - like most of our parents taught us?

They don't care that they are racists, they only care that people knowing they are racist will negatively affect their lives. Hence these parents think it's fine to say all this stuff, just don't post it on twitter or your college might see and rescind your admission. Keep that racism on the DL!

This is so stupid.

Most regular people disagree with your premise. Joking about race, even in a “offensive” way, doesn’t constitute “racism.” Deal with it.

At the same time, we’re also pragmatic and care about the welfare of our kids, so we don’t want them subjected to this Scarlet Letter BS (typically at the hands of some middle-aged white lady or a “DEI professional”); so yes, they should learn to keep certain comments private.

+1000 we joked all the time about race growing up in the 90s. Dave Chapelle was hysterical. My Filipino friend always got called Chinese by ignorant people so we called him our Chinese friend as a joke. My Jewish friend was one of the cheapest people I’ve ever met and we would all rag on him for it and he would make fun of himself. Everyone once in awhile someone would cross a line and get corrected. Racism used to be actually hating or looking down on another race as inferior. Making jokes about cultural differences and stereotypes is not even close to the same thing.

And yeah I would 100 percent get cancelled these days. Probably could never run for office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]I think todays kids are fighting back about the policing of language and calling everyone a racist. [/b]
What did they specifically say? Was it actually something racist or just a generalization about a specific race? There is a difference.

+1

For as “progressive” as Gen Z and younger seem to be… it’s mainly just extremely politically active assigned-females-at-birth who are making the most noise.

Like don’t get me wrong—the interest in issues and willing to speak your mind for a more fair country is great!

But—the loudest voices are not the majority. And cis-boys either don’t care or are being pushed further and further to being non-politically-correct and having socially conservative views.