First date — how physical?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the ultimate prude right through and after college. Nothing on the first date and a long time before making out. I was good friends with my now DH for a few years before our first date and I'm not sure it was really a date. One day I told him my washer/dryer wasn't working so he said come on over, bring your laundry and have dinner. I remember seriously flirting with him on the couch and then it got very physical. I'm glad I had my laundry so I had something to wear the next day. We've been together over 30 years and we still joke about it. He keeps saying I was incredibly easy.

Uh, that wasn't a first date if you were good friend for years. Legalisms don't define a relationship. First date in the context of this post means a stranger you just met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are men allowed to comment? In my dating years before social media, on the first date I already knew what she looked like so check that box. The next boxes had to do with was she smart, did she have a sense of humor and was she a good conversationalist. If she checked all of those boxes my first date goal was to get to a second date and part of that wasn’t to try to cop a feel!

Ok. I’m confused bc we know each other from before, like many years before when we were in high school. He knows how I look and all the rest. We have had some flirtation in the past. However, this now feels like it could be the start of an actual relationship not the stuff from before. We talked about all of the relationship history and what we are looking for etc. so fairly serious conversation. I wonder if I’m expecting too much or overthinking it to think that if he really wanted a relationship he would have been more reserved physically and just waited.

Oh, don’t be confused. I wanted to take you to the prom but QB Joe got to you first. Today, he’s changing oil at Jiffy Lube while I’m a cardiac surgeon breaking hearts….literally. I don’t think you are expecting too much that I really wanted a relationship as I’m fully prepared to remove my scrubs. I’m tired of waiting, as are most patients in my waiting room.

See, he admits it!
Heart surgery dies more harm than good.

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/amp/health/big-study-casts-doubt-on-need-for-many-heart-procedures

[Anonymous]

My best, longest term relationships started with sex on first or second date.

[Anonymous]

Because he can!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late thirties guy here

Gen z early twenties girl wanted me to have sex with her when she was on her period - first date

Lotta nasty thotties in these streets (this one I thought was a good one…met her at a museum!)

Why you dating someone barely out of college, when you are just south of 40?

[Anonymous]

Idk. I thought I met the perfect guy for me but we were dumb and drunk after our first date and stupidly had sex. Very bad sex because we were drunk. We went to dinner a week later where it was obvious he was not interested and the next day he hit me with “I’m not over my ex.”

For weeks I agonized over the fact that it was my fault for shtupping him on the first date (that was my first time doing that and my last lol) but I’ve kind of made peace with the fact that if he had really been THE perfect guy for me he wouldn’t have cared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late thirties guy here

Gen z early twenties girl wanted me to have sex with her when she was on her period - first date

Lotta nasty thotties in these streets (this one I thought was a good one…met her at a museum!)

Why you dating someone barely out of college, when you are just south of 40?

Because as I’ve posted on here before, women in their 30s are nowhere to be found in the wild

I made a thread on this phenomenon earlier this summer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late thirties guy here

Gen z early twenties girl wanted me to have sex with her when she was on her period - first date

Lotta nasty thotties in these streets (this one I thought was a good one…met her at a museum!)

Just to understand….
Is it any sex on a period is gross always?
Or
Because it was a first date?

[Anonymous]

Period sex is not gross. I'm fine with performing cunnilingus during her period, too.

First date...I'd be surprised that someone's open to that. But if she's really hot I'd probably do it.

NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late thirties guy here

Gen z early twenties girl wanted me to have sex with her when she was on her period - first date

Lotta nasty thotties in these streets (this one I thought was a good one…met her at a museum!)

Just to understand….
Is it any sex on a period is gross always?
Or
Because it was a first date?

Pp here -

I have no issues with period sex with a partner

I don’t have issues with first date sex if I am confident I’ll see the person again (I had one ons in my life and never again - not for me)

But it was the combo of period sex with someone on a first date that was just too far for me