First date — how physical?

[Anonymous]

If a man was quite physical on the first date would you assume he’s not interested in a longterm relationship? Kissing, touching, hugging, not full on making out but towards.

[Anonymous]

No, you cannot assume either way.

[Anonymous]

Most nice guys who want a real relationship are willing to go slow esp on a first date. If you make the first move they’ll reciprocate but on the first date they’ll just ask you for another. Most are willing to give a quick hug and cheek peck if that’s the culture.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't assume anything. I would have slept with DH on the first date but for being on my period. We did, however, get sloshed and make out for an hour at the bar. In our case, the only thing it was evidence of was our fantastic chemistry and how much we liked each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't assume anything. I would have slept with DH on the first date but for being on my period. We did, however, get sloshed and make out for an hour at the bar. In our case, the only thing it was evidence of was our fantastic chemistry and how much we liked each other.

All that is so nice.

[Anonymous]

I believe that if a guy on a first date really likes someone he's going to be very careful about moving too far too fast so he doesn't blow it. If he doesn't really like someone he might make some pretty strong moves to see if they are reciprocated and then its off to the races. I've had some first date guys make pretty strong moves and its a real turn off.

[Anonymous]

What if the guy behaves on the 1st date but pushes hard for sex on the 2nd date? Does that mean he only wants the woman for sex?

[Anonymous]

I had sex on my first date with my now-husband of 23 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had sex on my first date with my now-husband of 23 years.

He knew you were easy….and awesome in bed. Well done!

[Anonymous]

Play that song to him and see if he perks up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, you cannot assume either way.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't assume anything. I would have slept with DH on the first date but for being on my period. We did, however, get sloshed and make out for an hour at the bar. In our case, the only thing it was evidence of was our fantastic chemistry and how much we liked each other.

Lovely!

[Anonymous]

Are men allowed to comment? In my dating years before social media, on the first date I already knew what she looked like so check that box. The next boxes had to do with was she smart, did she have a sense of humor and was she a good conversationalist. If she checked all of those boxes my first date goal was to get to a second date and part of that wasn’t to try to cop a feel!

[Anonymous]

It’s probably more accurate to, you know, talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't assume anything. I would have slept with DH on the first date but for being on my period. We did, however, get sloshed and make out for an hour at the bar. In our case, the only thing it was evidence of was our fantastic chemistry and how much we liked each other.

Sometimes I really miss dating!