I'm so sad for my kid

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

Nothing says coastal like assuming your preferences are the universal standard.

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

Nothing says coastal like assuming your preferences are the universal standard.

WI is for people who are from - Wisconsin. Most OOS don't want frigid weather. UM? Maybe worth it for a public.

TX? Meh.

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Anonymous wrote:Meant he was accepted to UMD which is amazing but he has no interest in it sadly.

Sorry he is disappointed, but he needs to realize he'll do well wherever he goes if he makes the best of it. It's not something to be sad about.

So funny.. some kids would be super thrilled to get into UMD. I'm looking at the stats on some of the rejections to UMD on this site, and omg, shocking how someone with pretty high stats are being rejected at UMD.

I guess ymmv

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sad for my kid too. She has some good options but was surprisingly deferred at Wisconsin. I fear that doesn’t bode well for the coming months. She’s not concerned, though (or so it seems), and I wonder whether I am placing too much emphasis on all this.

Thanks- was Wisconsin a top choice? what are her stats?

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with UMD? It's a good school. OP is feeling miserable for no reason.

He doesn't want to go there. Isn't remotely excited. Likes UGA so it will be fine. Just disappointed about wisco. Don't care about Michigan.

dp.. my super high stats kid got rejected to the T15 he applied to (CS major). And I mean super high stats from a magnet program. He wanted to go oos.

He got deferred at Mich, and got into UMD. He was very upset for a couple of months.

Then UM came back, but by then DC decided UMD was fine. He didn't want the cold LOL. He is at UMD now. He told me a few weeks ago during winter break when we had all that snow that he hates walking in the snow. I said then it's a good thing he didn't pick UM.

He also has a chance to transfer to GTech if he wants to, but he said no. He likes UMD. He especially likes the 4+1 program, but he had enough credits going into freshman year that he can double major and graduate in 3 years, +1 masters. And he got merit. So, he will end up with 3 degrees all for under $120K. I mean.. not bad. The remainder of the 529 funds will go to his sibling, and we will give him the cash instead, and a car. That also greatly pleases him. I think for DS, the rejection was an ego killer given his super high stats.

So, even if your DS goes to UMD or UGA or wherever, I think it will work out. It's a big school, and football is big, but there are so many other things going on.

When DS was disappointed, I told him the same thing that I told him when he was going to HS. It is what you make of it. You can either be miserable, or you can seek opportunities, make connections, and choose to be happy.

Wait, what kind of stats did your kid have?

1580 SAT (800 math)
4.0 uwgpa/4.92 wgpa at a magnet
58 credits going in
passed UMD MVC exam

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with UMD? It's a good school. OP is feeling miserable for no reason.

He doesn't want to go there. Isn't remotely excited. Likes UGA so it will be fine. Just disappointed about wisco. Don't care about Michigan.

dp.. my super high stats kid got rejected to the T15 he applied to (CS major). And I mean super high stats from a magnet program. He wanted to go oos.

He got deferred at Mich, and got into UMD. He was very upset for a couple of months.

Then UM came back, but by then DC decided UMD was fine. He didn't want the cold LOL. He is at UMD now. He told me a few weeks ago during winter break when we had all that snow that he hates walking in the snow. I said then it's a good thing he didn't pick UM.

He also has a chance to transfer to GTech if he wants to, but he said no. He likes UMD. He especially likes the 4+1 program, but he had enough credits going into freshman year that he can double major and graduate in 3 years, +1 masters. And he got merit. So, he will end up with 3 degrees all for under $120K. I mean.. not bad. The remainder of the 529 funds will go to his sibling, and we will give him the cash instead, and a car. That also greatly pleases him. I think for DS, the rejection was an ego killer given his super high stats.

So, even if your DS goes to UMD or UGA or wherever, I think it will work out. It's a big school, and football is big, but there are so many other things going on.

When DS was disappointed, I told him the same thing that I told him when he was going to HS. It is what you make of it. You can either be miserable, or you can seek opportunities, make connections, and choose to be happy.

I love Posts like this. Where the kid goes to the 2nd choice school and winds up loving it. My kid got into UMD but had some bizarre vision of not being able to escape high school. Unfortunately, turned it down. I was very disappointed. Went to one of the other choices that she was not excited about and loves it now. We said she could try to transfer to one of the schools she didn’t get into initially and she said “ no”. I like where I am! We just want our kids to settle in and be happy. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

So you need to get over it.

Send LOCI and do what you can to show WI it's still your top choice, but then realize it's not likely to happen and get excited about UGA (or his best acceptance )

Follow his lead and don't stress him over it---be the damn adult

I think people here are thinking this kid was added to a waitlist. Or don’t understand what regular decision even means. WI is very likely to happen if he has almost good-enough-for-MI stats.

Michigan defers nearly everyine , very few denials at EA stage.

we get it. but quote says unlike to get into WI and that's BS. Agree MI is a longer shot.

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She will get in.

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

Nothing says coastal like assuming your preferences are the universal standard.

WI is for people who are from - Wisconsin. Most OOS don't want frigid weather. UM? Maybe worth it for a public.

TX? Meh.

No one cares about your opinion. Stay on topic or skip the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

So you need to get over it.

Send LOCI and do what you can to show WI it's still your top choice, but then realize it's not likely to happen and get excited about UGA (or his best acceptance )

Follow his lead and don't stress him over it---be the damn adult

I think people here are thinking this kid was added to a waitlist. Or don’t understand what regular decision even means. WI is very likely to happen if he has almost good-enough-for-MI stats.

Michigan defers nearly everyine , very few denials at EA stage.

Not this year apparently and kids with great stats and classes. Maybe it was winning national football championship and it upped the applications. Most everyone we know threw in an EA there and also Wisco and saw similar results there as well.

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Anonymous wrote:He has good options don't get me wrong, but his #1 and 2 were wisconsin and tx. Got deferred to Wisconsin and am expecting a rejection from TX.
(Business major).

Currently his top choice is UGA of one's he's in is UGA. I know it's a bloodbath but the wisconsin one is killing me. Especially because his close friend got in. We visited and loved so much. He even loves the cold lol.

He does currently have straight A's but what else can we do or send? (Was also deferred at Michigan)

Got into UMD but not into. Just a vent. I can't believe we will have no idea where he's going until the spring. So torturous.

Have him send in a letter WI of continued interest

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

Nothing says coastal like assuming your preferences are the universal standard.

WI is for people who are from - Wisconsin. Most OOS don't want frigid weather. UM? Maybe worth it for a public.

TX? Meh.

No one cares about your opinion. Stay on topic or skip the thread.

Bless your heart ❤️

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone will write the letter-those who have been accepted elsewhere that they prefer.

https://www.ivycoach.com/the-ivy-coach-blog/early-decision-early-action/what-to-do-after-university-of-michigan-deferral/

This article states that they don’t release the numbers of deferrals, etc

I am an in-state parent whose kid just got accepted to U of M yesterday. My kid was told by students already matriculated not to give up if deferred and to grind it all the way to the Wait List.

I have looked at all the statistics about deferrals and concluded from the fact pattern that the growth in deferrals has to be tied to the increased uncertainty about yield. "Will you come, out-of-stater, if accepted?" Therefore, as the link suggests, the student definitely should submit some compelling points in the LOCI and definitely get the counselor to call or e-mail the regional admissions officer. That should help. Michigan just IS a safety school for many Metro NYC and DMV kids...it's obvious. And smart kids who can pull off tons of apps are smart enough to customize each app in a way that doesn't reveal that. So probably on the back end there's statistical modeling working against many sincere people.

I do not think people need to use an external paid counseling service. Have the student reflect on what could have been better about their app and make a point or two about it in the LOCI. Is there any way they could get some more "demonstrated interest" logged in the CRM system? Like attend a registered online webinar from the college within the University? I don't know if the student's interest measure is cut off at application date but maybe it's not.

I think it's good to love the school that loves you BUT I've been impressed by determined people I've met who managed to overcome "No"s in their life. And a deferral at Michigan is not even a "No" yet. I had a U of M MBA classmate who shifted her whole adult life (cross-country move, etc.) to come off the waitlist for U of M in July. Tough, committed, decisive...she should have been admitted directly. But we arrived at the same point in the end.

Good luck to you and your children. And do keep in mind that a lot of these schools are similar except for facilities and geography. The basic education provided is going to be roughly comparable.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

So you need to get over it.

Send LOCI and do what you can to show WI it's still your top choice, but then realize it's not likely to happen and get excited about UGA (or his best acceptance )

Follow his lead and don't stress him over it---be the damn adult

I think people here are thinking this kid was added to a waitlist. Or don’t understand what regular decision even means. WI is very likely to happen if he has almost good-enough-for-MI stats.

Michigan defers nearly everyine , very few denials at EA stage.

Not this year apparently and kids with great stats and classes. Maybe it was winning national football championship and it upped the applications. Most everyone we know threw in an EA there and also Wisco and saw similar results there as well.

Not sure what you are talking about, nearly everyone reporting MI results here and on college confidential was deferred.

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“Michigan just IS a safety school for many Metro NYC and DMV kids...it's obvious.”

I’m missing the point of the sentence above by PP. Can you please clarify it for me.