I'm so sad for my kid
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Anonymous
My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin. |
Anonymous
| The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer? |
Anonymous
I know. These schools work so hard to make us love them, and then reject our kids. It can be an emotionally brutal process for parents. But it’s also kind of a blah morning. I’m serious, call a friend or go for a walk or something. Emotions are physical, it’s always easier to process them when you’re in motion. Your kid will wind up having a big adventure in a great place, and in a few hours or days you’ll be ok with it too. Best of luck. |
Anonymous
| The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer? |
Anonymous
| The whole system is a mess and it’s awful for these kids who have worked so hard. The only thing I would say since I spent most of yesterday on college confidential (lol) is that deferred isn’t a no at a lot of these schools. Especially for places like Michigan, and I’m assuming Wisconsin is the same, they are trying to identify the kids that really want to go there and protect yield. So your kid may very well get in during RD. Definitely write a letter of continued interest and submit the latest grades. Best of luck, I know this has been so demoralizing for many kids who have done the work to get into these schools. |
Anonymous
Visit UGA and you’ll see. |
Anonymous
I visited UGA w him and loved. Agree. It's a super cute town and pretty campus (although frankly reminded me of Maryland). DH took him to Madison but loved the lake and the town and hockey vibe. I guess they're super similar. Someone said their academics are on par w TX. Not sure if that's true |
Anonymous
It means not to get your heart set on reaches and instead get just as excited about safeties. Kids get too enamored with one school. Love the safeties just as much and the disappointment won’t sting so badly. |
Anonymous
dp.. my super high stats kid got rejected to the T15 he applied to (CS major). And I mean super high stats from a magnet program. He wanted to go oos. He got deferred at Mich, and got into UMD. He was very upset for a couple of months. Then UM came back, but by then DC decided UMD was fine. He didn't want the cold LOL. He is at UMD now. He told me a few weeks ago during winter break when we had all that snow that he hates walking in the snow. I said then it's a good thing he didn't pick UM. He also has a chance to transfer to GTech if he wants to, but he said no. He likes UMD. He especially likes the 4+1 program, but he had enough credits going into freshman year that he can double major and graduate in 3 years, +1 masters. And he got merit. So, he will end up with 3 degrees all for under $120K. I mean.. not bad. The remainder of the 529 funds will go to his sibling, and we will give him the cash instead, and a car. That also greatly pleases him. I think for DS, the rejection was an ego killer given his super high stats. So, even if your DS goes to UMD or UGA or wherever, I think it will work out. It's a big school, and football is big, but there are so many other things going on. When DS was disappointed, I told him the same thing that I told him when he was going to HS. It is what you make of it. You can either be miserable, or you can seek opportunities, make connections, and choose to be happy. |
Anonymous
According to their Common Data Set, they took 77 off a wait list of 15,076 last year. I wouldn't call that 'many'. https://obp.umich.edu/wp-content/uploads/pubdata/cds/cds_2022-2023_umaa.pdf |
Anonymous
A deferral is not a waitlist! |
Anonymous
Waitlist and Deferral are NOT the same thing. Deferral means these kids will receive another decision in March. There are no published deferral>acceptance rates in CDS. |
Anonymous
Honestly, it is hard to understand how/why any school is a perfect fit. How could Wisc really be so different from another flagship. Is there an industry or company based in Madison or the Midwest that recruits only from Wisc? Is there some niche degree / specialty only offered by Wisc? It is such an unhealthy viewpoint and rarely makes any sense. |
Anonymous
| Deferral does not equal WL. You can get accepted at RD, denied, or moved to WL. |
Anonymous
| Give him a couple days to sulk/be sad and then start getting him excited about UGA. Also have him go visit UMD with an open mind. Maybe he might change his mind. Also the deferrals may change into acceptances (but don’t plan for it). My kid was deferred in EA last year from both Wisconsin and Michigan and got accepted in RD. Good Luck! It is hard to face the rejections, especially multiple in a day |