I'm so sad for my kid

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry but I’m not shedding any tears for anyone who is “so sad” that their kid only has excellent choices instead of every choice he wanted. If this is the worst thing that ever happens to you both you are damned lucky.

Harshly phrased but true. These kids all have excellent choices (mine included).

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Anonymous wrote:He has good options don't get me wrong, but his #1 and 2 were wisconsin and tx. Got deferred to Wisconsin and am expecting a rejection from TX.
(Business major).

Currently his top choice is UGA of one's he's in is UGA. I know it's a bloodbath but the wisconsin one is killing me. Especially because his close friend got in. We visited and loved so much. He even loves the cold lol.

He does currently have straight A's but what else can we do or send? (Was also deferred at Michigan)

Got into UMD but not into. Just a vent. I can't believe we will have no idea where he's going until the spring. So torturous.

Sorry. He could still get into Wisconsin? Know several people who did not get into their current college until regular decision after being deferred.

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Anonymous wrote:He has good options don't get me wrong, but his #1 and 2 were wisconsin and tx. Got deferred to Wisconsin and am expecting a rejection from TX.
(Business major).

Currently his top choice is UGA of one's he's in is UGA. I know it's a bloodbath but the wisconsin one is killing me. Especially because his close friend got in. We visited and loved so much. He even loves the cold lol.

He does currently have straight A's but what else can we do or send? (Was also deferred at Michigan)

Got into UMD but not into. Just a vent. I can't believe we will have no idea where he's going until the spring. So torturous.

Sorry. He could still get into Wisconsin? Know several people who did not get into their current college until regular decision after being deferred.

Most people dont get into WI or MI til RD

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with UMD? It's a good school. OP is feeling miserable for no reason.

He doesn't want to go there. Isn't remotely excited. Likes UGA so it will be fine. Just disappointed about wisco. Don't care about Michigan.

dp.. my super high stats kid got rejected to the T15 he applied to (CS major). And I mean super high stats from a magnet program. He wanted to go oos.

He got deferred at Mich, and got into UMD. He was very upset for a couple of months.

Then UM came back, but by then DC decided UMD was fine. He didn't want the cold LOL. He is at UMD now. He told me a few weeks ago during winter break when we had all that snow that he hates walking in the snow. I said then it's a good thing he didn't pick UM.

He also has a chance to transfer to GTech if he wants to, but he said no. He likes UMD. He especially likes the 4+1 program, but he had enough credits going into freshman year that he can double major and graduate in 3 years, +1 masters. And he got merit. So, he will end up with 3 degrees all for under $120K. I mean.. not bad. The remainder of the 529 funds will go to his sibling, and we will give him the cash instead, and a car. That also greatly pleases him. I think for DS, the rejection was an ego killer given his super high stats.

So, even if your DS goes to UMD or UGA or wherever, I think it will work out. It's a big school, and football is big, but there are so many other things going on.

When DS was disappointed, I told him the same thing that I told him when he was going to HS. It is what you make of it. You can either be miserable, or you can seek opportunities, make connections, and choose to be happy.

Look at it this way: UMD is blessed by your "super high stats" DS's mere presence.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry but I’m not shedding any tears for anyone who is “so sad” that their kid only has excellent choices instead of every choice he wanted. If this is the worst thing that ever happens to you both you are damned lucky.

Agreed. We should find the person the world who has it the worst. That’s the only person we’re allowed to have sympathy for since everyone has it better. There’s a limited amount of empathy we can have; need to conserve it for the truly needy.

Different poster here, and I hear what you're saying, but I still side with the PP. The amount of sadness from people over their kids not getting into Michigan or Wisconsin, when they have other, enviable options--and the kids are perfectly fine--is just emblematic of why our children are so messed up. People, please, cry over something worthy of tears here. Instead, celebrate your children's accomplishments and tell them how proud and happy you are. This is ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with UMD? It's a good school. OP is feeling miserable for no reason.

He doesn't want to go there. Isn't remotely excited. Likes UGA so it will be fine. Just disappointed about wisco. Don't care about Michigan.

dp.. my super high stats kid got rejected to the T15 he applied to (CS major). And I mean super high stats from a magnet program. He wanted to go oos.

He got deferred at Mich, and got into UMD. He was very upset for a couple of months.

Then UM came back, but by then DC decided UMD was fine. He didn't want the cold LOL. He is at UMD now. He told me a few weeks ago during winter break when we had all that snow that he hates walking in the snow. I said then it's a good thing he didn't pick UM.

He also has a chance to transfer to GTech if he wants to, but he said no. He likes UMD. He especially likes the 4+1 program, but he had enough credits going into freshman year that he can double major and graduate in 3 years, +1 masters. And he got merit. So, he will end up with 3 degrees all for under $120K. I mean.. not bad. The remainder of the 529 funds will go to his sibling, and we will give him the cash instead, and a car. That also greatly pleases him. I think for DS, the rejection was an ego killer given his super high stats.

So, even if your DS goes to UMD or UGA or wherever, I think it will work out. It's a big school, and football is big, but there are so many other things going on.

When DS was disappointed, I told him the same thing that I told him when he was going to HS. It is what you make of it. You can either be miserable, or you can seek opportunities, make connections, and choose to be happy.

Wait, what kind of stats did your kid have?

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Anonymous wrote:Let him sulk for a day or two, but then your job is to get him thinking about his amazing options - UGA and UMD and any others.

THIS^^^
When you apply to many schools that are highly rejective, you have to know going in that its a lottery. Great if you win, but pick excellent backups (which you have done) and get excited about those.

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Anonymous wrote:Love your safety!

Wdym?

That you should have picked safeties that you love. It's not really a safety if you wouldn't actually want to attend. So focus on why you picked that school. You have acceptances just not the top ones. So get excited about where you will be picking from.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

So you need to get over it.

Send LOCI and do what you can to show WI it's still your top choice, but then realize it's not likely to happen and get excited about UGA (or his best acceptance )

Follow his lead and don't stress him over it---be the damn adult

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No one understands the process until they actually go through it, OP. For high-achieving HS seniors, being denied admission might be their first true hard experience with rejection. It's hard to watch as a parent, but it all works out in the end.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

So you need to get over it.

Send LOCI and do what you can to show WI it's still your top choice, but then realize it's not likely to happen and get excited about UGA (or his best acceptance )

Follow his lead and don't stress him over it---be the damn adult

I think people here are thinking this kid was added to a waitlist. Or don’t understand what regular decision even means. WI is very likely to happen if he has almost good-enough-for-MI stats.

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

Madison is an awesome school! Have you visited?
It's a beautiful campus in a great college town. Campus wise, I'd pick it anyway over UMD which is not really a "nice campus" and certainly not a nice area.

Many kids love the winters---it's only for 4 years. Life doesn't shut down in Madison for winter

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I’m sad for my kid too. She has some good options but was surprisingly deferred at Wisconsin. I fear that doesn’t bode well for the coming months. She’s not concerned, though (or so it seems), and I wonder whether I am placing too much emphasis on all this.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

So you need to get over it.

Send LOCI and do what you can to show WI it's still your top choice, but then realize it's not likely to happen and get excited about UGA (or his best acceptance )

Follow his lead and don't stress him over it---be the damn adult

I think people here are thinking this kid was added to a waitlist. Or don’t understand what regular decision even means. WI is very likely to happen if he has almost good-enough-for-MI stats.

Michigan defers nearly everyine , very few denials at EA stage.

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Anonymous wrote:Meant he was accepted to UMD which is amazing but he has no interest in it sadly.

Sorry he is disappointed, but he needs to realize he'll do well wherever he goes if he makes the best of it. It's not something to be sad about.