I'm so sad for my kid

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Anonymous wrote:If waitlisted at Wisc, he can probably get admitted if his college advisor calls and says he will definitely come if admitted.

Really? He's deferred now. You mean we have to wait to see if he's waitlisted or can now? His college advisor is clueless. Can the school counselor call?

Ask the school counselor to call or e-mail the regional admissions officer to say that Wisconsin is Larlo's number 1 choice.

This. Plus write a LOCI that says it is his first choice as well.

Family member from public in similar metropolitan area to DMV wrote LOCI to Wisconsin and got in (prior year). Didn't rely on counselor. Add specific details about the "why Wisconsin," including embrace of the cold!

Just a piece of advice, def send a LOCI; do not reference the cold, or the sports or madison, but rather what specific programs and classes or certificates etc are they interested in. HOw will they contribute to the life of the school - what clubs or other activities do they envision participating in?

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Anonymous wrote:If waitlisted at Wisc, he can probably get admitted if his college advisor calls and says he will definitely come if admitted.

Really? He's deferred now. You mean we have to wait to see if he's waitlisted or can now? His college advisor is clueless. Can the school counselor call?

Ask the school counselor to call or e-mail the regional admissions officer to say that Wisconsin is Larlo's number 1 choice.

This. Plus write a LOCI that says it is his first choice as well.

Family member from public in similar metropolitan area to DMV wrote LOCI to Wisconsin and got in (prior year). Didn't rely on counselor. Add specific details about the "why Wisconsin," including embrace of the cold!

Just a piece of advice, def send a LOCI; do not reference the cold, or the sports or madison, but rather what specific programs and classes or certificates etc are they interested in. HOw will they contribute to the life of the school - what clubs or other activities do they envision participating in?

What's your expertise? Not being snarky- genuinely curious

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Anonymous wrote:He has good options don't get me wrong, but his #1 and 2 were wisconsin and tx. Got deferred to Wisconsin and am expecting a rejection from TX.
(Business major).

Currently his top choice is UGA of one's he's in is UGA. I know it's a bloodbath but the wisconsin one is killing me. Especially because his close friend got in. We visited and loved so much. He even loves the cold lol.

He does currently have straight A's but what else can we do or send? (Was also deferred at Michigan)

Got into UMD but not into. Just a vent. I can't believe we will have no idea where he's going until the spring. So torturous.

Just in last few years, several average good students from my circle who attended community college than regional state universities, were hired by IBM, Microsoft, Cisco, American Airlines etc. Just work hard and focus on finding good internships. College admission phase is over, put it out of mind.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sad for my kid too. She has some good options but was surprisingly deferred at Wisconsin. I fear that doesn’t bode well for the coming months. She’s not concerned, though (or so it seems), and I wonder whether I am placing too much emphasis on all this.[i][u]

Yes, yes you are.
If she has some good options then you need to get over it and not make her sad because she disappointed mom.

Sure, the kid can be sad. But mom admitted that the kid isn't concerned, but MOM is turning it into drama. So now a kid who was handling the situation as well as can be expected is going to get sad and upset not because she didn't get into school, but because she let down her mom. That's a crappy parenting move.



Disagree. She can be sad

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sad for my kid too. She has some good options but was surprisingly deferred at Wisconsin. I fear that doesn’t bode well for the coming months. She’s not concerned, though (or so it seems), and I wonder whether I am placing too much emphasis on all this.[i][u]

Yes, yes you are.
If she has some good options then you need to get over it and not make her sad because she disappointed mom.

Sure, the kid can be sad. But mom admitted that the kid isn't concerned, but MOM is turning it into drama. So now a kid who was handling the situation as well as can be expected is going to get sad and upset not because she didn't get into school, but because she let down her mom. That's a crappy parenting move.



Disagree. She can be sad

She can be sad all she wants. But she needs to do it behind closed doors and not let others know, especially her kid! Otherwise it's a crappy parenting move.

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Your kid will realize he dodged a bullet sometime around November when he's carousing with dimez in sundresses in Athens instead of freezing his ball sack off in Madison.

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Anonymous wrote:UGA is better than Wisconsin.

Not if the kid wanted to go to Wisconsin. Please don't say you are relying on a random linear 'rank' for your comment.

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Anonymous wrote:He has good options don't get me wrong, but his #1 and 2 were wisconsin and tx. Got deferred to Wisconsin and am expecting a rejection from TX.
(Business major).

Currently his top choice is UGA of one's he's in is UGA. I know it's a bloodbath but the wisconsin one is killing me. Especially because his close friend got in. We visited and loved so much. He even loves the cold lol.

He does currently have straight A's but what else can we do or send? (Was also deferred at Michigan)

Got into UMD but not into. Just a vent. I can't believe we will have no idea where he's going until the spring. So torturous.

I'm stuck on the "especially because his close friend got in." I know that has to hurt-- totally do the the letter of commitment, etc., but also let him know that he could apply to other UW schools besides MAdision-- I imagine some could even be open enrollment. He may even enjoy starting at a smaller school the first year then transfering to Madison. (Lots of kids do this!) And he could cheer for UW at the big football games etc. in MAdision with his friend.

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

Nothing says coastal like assuming your preferences are the universal standard.

WI is for people who are from - Wisconsin. Most OOS don't want frigid weather. UM? Maybe worth it for a public.

TX? Meh.

I'm not sure why you say "meh" to Texas. Awesome city and one of the fastest growing in the US. It's the live music cap of the Southwest.

I was fortunate to have met great friends there. We all were nobodies back in the day but had a great time. The school is very friendly.

Many years ago while at UT, I made friends with Matthew McConaughey, Jon Hamm, and Renee Zellweger. We were all just kids at the time.

Oddly, we still stay in touch. Even Glen Powell (top gun maverick (hangman) met us in Austin for a night out not long ago. Epic night out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Off topic, but do Larlo and Larla exist anywhere but here?

Yes. And it really sucks to have a kid named Larla and a mother who is named Karen. It never ends. '

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Found this when looking for LOCI advice.
Scaring me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He has good options don't get me wrong, but his #1 and 2 were wisconsin and tx. Got deferred to Wisconsin and am expecting a rejection from TX.
(Business major).

Currently his top choice is UGA of one's he's in is UGA. I know it's a bloodbath but the wisconsin one is killing me. Especially because his close friend got in. We visited and loved so much. He even loves the cold lol.

He does currently have straight A's but what else can we do or send? (Was also deferred at Michigan)

Got into UMD but not into. Just a vent. I can't believe we will have no idea where he's going until the spring. So torturous.

At least your kid has a first choice. This is better than having a kid engulfed by ennui

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Anonymous wrote:Found this when looking for LOCI advice.
Scaring me.

Selective schools are selective. Cast a wide net. Prepare yourself emotionally for the most likely outcome when applying to selective schools (rejection).

[Anonymous]

transferring to Texas as a sophomore is pretty easy.

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Anonymous wrote:If waitlisted at Wisc, he can probably get admitted if his college advisor calls and says he will definitely come if admitted.

Really? He's deferred now. You mean we have to wait to see if he's waitlisted or can now? His college advisor is clueless. Can the school counselor call?

Ask the school counselor to call or e-mail the regional admissions officer to say that Wisconsin is Larlo's number 1 choice.

This. Plus write a LOCI that says it is his first choice as well.

Family member from public in similar metropolitan area to DMV wrote LOCI to Wisconsin and got in (prior year). Didn't rely on counselor. Add specific details about the "why Wisconsin," including embrace of the cold!

Just a piece of advice, def send a LOCI; do not reference the cold, or the sports or madison, but rather what specific programs and classes or certificates etc are they interested in. HOw will they contribute to the life of the school - what clubs or other activities do they envision participating in?

More advice based on close friend of my DS 23 who got in to the B-program after being deferred-- Send in the LOCI and any other achievements since the application. Madison is BIG on the "why Madison" question. Include BOTH specific programs and activities where your student can contribute to the community, especially if they show he has made contact or otherwise knows about them beyond the website. If it fits, no harm in referencing that you are leaning into the cold- some see it as a feature and not a bug