I'm so sad for my kid

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with UMD? It's a good school. OP is feeling miserable for no reason.

He doesn't want to go there. Isn't remotely excited. Likes UGA so it will be fine. Just disappointed about wisco. Don't care about Michigan.

dp.. my super high stats kid got rejected to the T15 he applied to (CS major). And I mean super high stats from a magnet program. He wanted to go oos.

He got deferred at Mich, and got into UMD. He was very upset for a couple of months.

Then UM came back, but by then DC decided UMD was fine. He didn't want the cold LOL. He is at UMD now. He told me a few weeks ago during winter break when we had all that snow that he hates walking in the snow. I said then it's a good thing he didn't pick UM.

He also has a chance to transfer to GTech if he wants to, but he said no. He likes UMD. He especially likes the 4+1 program, but he had enough credits going into freshman year that he can double major and graduate in 3 years, +1 masters. And he got merit. So, he will end up with 3 degrees all for under $120K. I mean.. not bad. The remainder of the 529 funds will go to his sibling, and we will give him the cash instead, and a car. That also greatly pleases him. I think for DS, the rejection was an ego killer given his super high stats.

So, even if your DS goes to UMD or UGA or wherever, I think it will work out. It's a big school, and football is big, but there are so many other things going on.

When DS was disappointed, I told him the same thing that I told him when he was going to HS. It is what you make of it. You can either be miserable, or you can seek opportunities, make connections, and choose to be happy.

I love Posts like this. Where the kid goes to the 2nd choice school and winds up loving it. My kid got into UMD but had some bizarre vision of not being able to escape high school. Unfortunately, turned it down. I was very disappointed. Went to one of the other choices that she was not excited about and loves it now. We said she could try to transfer to one of the schools she didn’t get into initially and she said “ no”. I like where I am! We just want our kids to settle in and be happy. Good luck.

My gosh, the PP's (two posts up) kid probably didn't get into U of M because he had nearly junior status! I might also be tempted to give the slot to a freshman who needs 4 years of school instead of 2 if I were in charge. Anyway, looks like kid did amazing - accomplished his educational goals and is well set up for young adult life. People often underestimate their in-state flagship because our media romanticize "going away for college". That's basically a media trope linked mainly to a subset of nationally-known institutions.

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+1. My instate flagship in the stone age was the only place I could afford and only place I applied. Today, I am grateful I ‘only’ had that choice. I know state school is still the only choice for many.

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Anonymous wrote:“Michigan just IS a safety school for many Metro NYC and DMV kids...it's obvious.”

I’m missing the point of the sentence above by PP. Can you please clarify it for me.

I am PP. My point is that Michigan is a safety school for the Ivy-seekers. And there are a lot of them in Metro NYC and DMV.

So Michigan can't easily tell how many of these 1500+ SAT with extremely high GPA students really want to go to U of M. For a lot of them, it's not going to come in front of any Ivy.

What people on this board may not realize is how concentrated high SAT scores are in certain areas. In effect, people have made their insanely talented kids almost a generic candidate from X place. My friend in Ann Arbor has a generic high stats kid. He applied to 15 schools. Mine applied to 5.

My son, whose highest goal was to get into U of M, went on a summer study abroad trip with a lot of New Yorkers last year. He got an earful of what a safety school Michigan was for them. I'm glad his eyes were opened. And I'm sure the ones who come in the end are excited about it BUT there's definitely a geographic exchange function that might not be happening if Ivy classes were larger.

Let me know if that explains. I welcome out of staters to every school. I just don't like people being snobby to others about school choices. I am the child of Ivy parents but I chose state flagships for myself because I like good value for money. The older I get, the more I see successful people from all tiers of the college ranking hierarchy.

What's also interesting to me is to see how much love DMVers have for Pitt, my undergrad U. Lots of insanely high stat kids applying there early just to know they got in somewhere o.k. I really appreciate that. Pitt was great for me and my family. Even if high stats DMVers don't end up going there, you're helping the university strengthen its applicant pool. So I appreciate that because I know it's a school that does great things for its students and society.

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Michigan OOS is no one’s safety. Much harder to get into OOS than you realize. Like Carolina or UVA.

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Does Mi EA deferral allow LOCI?

It doesn’t look like they want one.

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Anonymous wrote:Does Mi EA deferral allow LOCI?

It doesn’t look like they want one.
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Yes they do
It's a form

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Anonymous wrote:Michigan OOS is no one’s safety. Much harder to get into OOS than you realize. Like Carolina or UVA.

It’s a safety, at our private for perfect 4.0uw and 35-36.

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But not a sep detailed letter with updates on your activities, classes , ECs etc?

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Anonymous wrote:Michigan OOS is no one’s safety. Much harder to get into OOS than you realize. Like Carolina or UVA.

Yes it is a safety for ivy kids per post above.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

So you need to get over it.

Send LOCI and do what you can to show WI it's still your top choice, but then realize it's not likely to happen and get excited about UGA (or his best acceptance )

Follow his lead and don't stress him over it---be the damn adult

I think people here are thinking this kid was added to a waitlist. Or don’t understand what regular decision even means. WI is very likely to happen if he has almost good-enough-for-MI stats.

Michigan defers nearly everyine , very few denials at EA stage.

Not this year apparently and kids with great stats and classes. Maybe it was winning national football championship and it upped the applications. Most everyone we know threw in an EA there and also Wisco and saw similar results there as well.

Not sure what you are talking about, nearly everyone reporting MI results here and on college confidential was deferred.

You do realize there is a world outside DCUM and also not everyone wants to put a denial out there. Carry on.

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I’m sorry, OP. It’s really tough to see your kids disappointed, even when you know they have good choices. If he/she loved Wisconsin I’ll bet they’ll love the other flagships as well. I’ve found that many of them have a very similar culture and feel.

Agree with those who suggested visiting all the admits—even the ones DC may be less excited about. You never know how a school might strike you once you’ve had the opportunity to get on campus.

And good luck with UT! I went there many years ago (also from OOS) and Austin is a great place.

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Anonymous wrote:UGA is better than Wisconsin.

It is sickening that real people think of this in today's world. Even if it just one person, it shows just how much Wisconsin has declined.

Huh? What do you mean??

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Anonymous wrote:UGA is better than Wisconsin.

It is sickening that real people think of this in today's world. Even if it just one person, it shows just how much Wisconsin has declined.

Troll sock puppeting. Did they fire you?

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Anonymous wrote:He has good options don't get me wrong, but his #1 and 2 were wisconsin and tx. Got deferred to Wisconsin and am expecting a rejection from TX.
(Business major).

Currently his top choice is UGA of one's he's in is UGA. I know it's a bloodbath but the wisconsin one is killing me. Especially because his close friend got in. We visited and loved so much. He even loves the cold lol.

He does currently have straight A's but what else can we do or send? (Was also deferred at Michigan)

Got into UMD but not into. Just a vent. I can't believe we will have no idea where he's going until the spring. So torturous.

You do realize that there are kids sitting out there with no acceptances yet, right? Your kid is blessed quit complaining.

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Anonymous wrote:Meant he was accepted to UMD which is amazing but he has no interest in it sadly.

You would be surprised how many in-state kids who get into UMD and have no interest suddenly turn that frown upside down - when they realize how many people didn't get in, how fun the sports program is, that they won't see people from their high school hardly ever.