Halloween and bailing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it so bizarre that people are planning out Halloween trick or treating plans weeks in advance like they are playdates? My kids go in our neighborhood. If they run into friends, they join up and visit houses together. If they don't, they just do their own thing.

I think it’s strange how involved moms are in engineering playdates.

Some of the worst social engineering I’ve seen in my neighborhood has involved trick or treating. It’s not about who the kids want to trick or treat with. It’s about what moms want to hang out together and drink wine out of travel mugs together.

Yup. Wait until high school. It gets worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ If you want to be bold send a reply like “Kind of late to change plans! Can [my kid] join the other group? Don’t want her to be disappointed about having to ToT alone”

If your neighborhood does something, and even if it doesn’t, just do your own thing. I sent something like above once- not the “kind of late” part but something like “bigger group sounds fun-would it be ok if Larlo joined too?” I quickly regretted sending when my asking went from the one parent to others and then to kids that my kid wasn’t invited until mom forced them… at time asked I didn’t think was big deal, but learned lesson hard way.

It shouldn’t be a big deal! It’s walking the neighborhood. I try to be really inclusive for this kind of thing personally. If another parent said something, they gave some issues!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it so bizarre that people are planning out Halloween trick or treating plans weeks in advance like they are playdates? My kids go in our neighborhood. If they run into friends, they join up and visit houses together. If they don't, they just do their own thing.

I think it’s strange how involved moms are in engineering playdates.

Some of the worst social engineering I’ve seen in my neighborhood has involved trick or treating. It’s not about who the kids want to trick or treat with. It’s about what moms want to hang out together and drink wine out of travel mugs together.

I’m not sure if it is social engineering but there is a mom who I find very annoying. Her child is also annoying. My daughter wanted to hang out with two specific girls and I like both moms. Annoying mom reached out but we never made solid plans. If my child specifically asked for that girl, I would have tolerated annoying mom.

[Anonymous]

It was fun

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it so bizarre that people are planning out Halloween trick or treating plans weeks in advance like they are playdates? My kids go in our neighborhood. If they run into friends, they join up and visit houses together. If they don't, they just do their own thing.

I think it’s strange how involved moms are in engineering playdates.

Some of the worst social engineering I’ve seen in my neighborhood has involved trick or treating. It’s not about who the kids want to trick or treat with. It’s about what moms want to hang out together and drink wine out of travel mugs together.

I’m not sure if it is social engineering but there is a mom who I find very annoying. Her child is also annoying. My daughter wanted to hang out with two specific girls and I like both moms. Annoying mom reached out but we never made solid plans. If my child specifically asked for that girl, I would have tolerated annoying mom.

Am I annoying mom?

[Anonymous]

For kids to be included, either the kid has to be well liked or the parents, preferably both. Most of my kids’ friends are kids that my child prefers and wants to hang out. There are very few friends that I may have slightly urged but those friends are not in the close friend group.

[Anonymous]

No one gives a crap.