Drug addict son wants to move back in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird to me how people can turn their child away at only age 25 who is very very sick.

You sound like a lucky soul who hasn’t seen addiction close up. You should bow out rather than spout such nonsense.

Bow out is what all these parents are doing to the children they abandon.

[Anonymous]

It will be the hardest thing you have to do so cut the cord. Don't let him come home. Your problems will be magnified and it will consume you on a daily basis. So, don't do it. You can't fix his problems. Even if you see him suffer, only he can fix his problems.
It will be hard but you will suffer more than him. Why? Because you are still conscious and rational and reasonable. He isn't and will not stop.

Best of luck to you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. It took my parents years to kick my heroin addicted sister out. She was a nightmare for them, drained their retirement funds from legal expenses, and left drugs and paraphernalia in the house. You CANNOT expose your teenage son to that. And FWIW, kicking her out is what it finally took for her to hit rock bottom and get sober. She’s been sober for almost 10 years now with a husband, baby, and is finishing up her degree. I’m 100% sure she’d be dead if they hadn’t finally stopped enabling her.

[Anonymous]

/\ To add, when he’s ready to get clean, he needs to go to a sober living house after rehab. It’s a residential, group home set up where they live for 6-12 months and learn HOW to be a sober person in the world. Getting clean is not enough if he doesn’t learn those skills.

And not letting him move in doesn’t mean cutting him off completely. You can still be in his life and show him love while not giving him money or a place to stay. Family is important United it’s impossible because it gives them connection to the real world and a reason to keep trying.

[Anonymous]

Np here - As someone who knows from personal experience, your son is very likely addicted to heroin. It is literally 100 times worse than oxycodone - you don't just dabble in it - you go through withdrawals after ONE time.
I agree with the previous posters who advised expressing how much you love him ad that you will be supportive if he chooses to enter a program and get clean, but cannot take him in until he does.
Sending loads of prayers to you and your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Np here - As someone who knows from personal experience, your son is very likely addicted to heroin. It is literally 100 times worse than oxycodone - you don't just dabble in it - you go through withdrawals after ONE time.
I agree with the previous posters who advised expressing how much you love him ad that you will be supportive if he chooses to enter a program and get clean, but cannot take him in until he does.
Sending loads of prayers to you and your family.

You can't find heroin - or oxy - anywhere anymore. It's all fentanyl now.

[Anonymous]

Any update? My husband’s 25 year old is on fentanyl. Ruined his health so he has a cocktail of other drugs he takes too. Loves with his mom. He has been trying to get into a rehab, but beds are always full. And the worst part it, he is also hounded by the drug dealers who want him to do things. He gets jumped in public, and extorted for more money. Even if he gets clean in rehab, he can’t escape the culture. No where for him to go, can’t live with us and bring that to my 2 younger kids. Want to help, but throwing money isn’t helping. Mom already drained of her resources.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any update? My husband’s 25 year old is on fentanyl. Ruined his health so he has a cocktail of other drugs he takes too. Loves with his mom. He has been trying to get into a rehab, but beds are always full. And the worst part it, he is also hounded by the drug dealers who want him to do things. He gets jumped in public, and extorted for more money. Even if he gets clean in rehab, he can’t escape the culture. No where for him to go, can’t live with us and bring that to my 2 younger kids. Want to help, but throwing money isn’t helping. Mom already drained of her resources.

Depending on the state you can have him put into rehab unwillingly. Similar to a baker act.

[Anonymous]

Beds open up. Keep trying.

[Anonymous]

Good luck to OP. A challenging path for all - the addict and his family. Wishing you all strength.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 25 year old oxycodone addicted son wants to move back in. He has dabbled in heroin (won’t admit it).
I know because he couch surfed for a while and ended up staying at a neighbor shortly.

I have a 17y/o in HS.

Should I let him stay and for how long. My 25y/o has been doing God knows what since age 19.

Drugs started at 16/17.

He tells me the last time we spoke that he considers his life to be over and no point going back to school or get a job. He’s waiting to just ”kick the bucket since he’s basically almost 30 which means his life is over”. Direct quote from him.

Should I just let him do what he wants and move in?

Please spare me the judging we’ve tried everything.

Absolutely not. Your only priority is your 17 yr old and keeping him off all drugs. I would not even let the older brother anywhere near him.

[Anonymous]

Don't take anyone in that has an addiction to anything. No drugs, no nicotine or alcohol, sex, gambling, porn. Not even work! They don't know how to stop their addiction and they will do anything to feed that addiction.

[Anonymous]

Just want to say, I’m sorry OP. You are in my thoughts. Going through this is probably one of the toughest things for a parent to experience. I have two little baby boys right now and i can’t even begin to imagine this pain of losing your kid to drugs. It’s overwhelming.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. I would let him move back in.