Drug addict son wants to move back in
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Anonymous
Unless they have some sobriety under their belt, it's not. If you are OP or have an addict in your life, please attend a NA meeting. |
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OP here, thank you again.
At 25 he has 60 more years hopefully. But he feels its too late to have a normal life. Once he gets better he feels like even if it gets better he will be ashamed forever. Yes he’s my son , shouldnt have killed him drug addict son. Thank you |
Anonymous
Yup. Letting him live home will bring a storm of drama, fighting, violence, theft, and drugs. Agree about halfway houses. |
Anonymous
It's not. Taking the first step would be acknowledging that he's in trouble and that he needs help. The circumstances mentioned here describe someone looking for an enabler. No one can control an addict unwilling to change. It's sad and it's unfortunate. Particularly these days when there's fentanyl in everything. You can't even find heroin anymore. It's all fent. This particularly person belongs in inpatient rehab, preferably for 90 days. It is remarkable how much people change once they're three months clean. So much of the depression and the anxiety lifts once the brain has had a chance to heal itself. Then the reintroduction to real life needs to happen in a controlled manner, ideally in a sober house. It's not hopeless. There are millions of people that have recovered from addiction. But it has to begin with the addict and a willingness to change. Really, really recommend inpatient rehab here. He'll know he's not alone in this. |
Anonymous
This. Don’t let him move back in. |
Anonymous
| No. No way. Absolutely not. |
Anonymous
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“Oxycodone addicted son … dabbled in heroin”
The best thing you can do for your kid is offer him rehab - is he covered by your health insurance? If so, do the research and find him some rehab programs. It may take awhile to find a bed, so meanwhile get him a psychiatry appointment, at least the psychiatrist can evaluate him for depression, and begin to talk about rehab options. Medical treatment for heroin addiction with subi one is something you should be asking about. I think you have to tell him you want him to be able to live at home again but the path to that is thru rehab and treatment. I disagree with others who say “he has to want to get well”. That is only part of the problem. He has to both want to get well and see that there are pathways he can try to accomplish that. When someone is @ctive addiction, they often can’t figure out how to get into rehab. You say drugs started at 16/17 - you also need to consider the underlying forces - school issues, untreated mental illness, trauma, etc. Are you in individual and family therapy for yourself, the 17 yo and Dad? This is a lot to figure out without professional help. |
Anonymous
| I would not. I dated a guy like your son and feel so sorry for what you must be going through. I would instead try to arrange for rehab and then halfway house. I'd keep him far away from your daughter. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| A lot of cold people on DCUM. The fact that you said 16-17 which is about when you had child 2 tells me that he has some sort of trauma that needs to be addressed. I would not allow him to move in but I would tell him you will move mountains to partner with him if he seeks recovery. I would look into rehab and also half way houses for those just getting through rehab. He may need to live in something like this for a year. I would keep telling him that you love him and gosh 25 is so young. He has his life before him. Also be careful that it comes across that he is the throw away kid and your second is your whole world. Good luck! |
Anonymous
This is too much to lay on the OP. You’re basically saying that if she can’t get him into rehab she’s contributing to his death. That’s disgusting. She can’t make him go to rehab. She also can’t prevent his death by allowing him to move in. |
Anonymous
People who say this sort of thing have never walked in the shoes of those of us who have lived with, raised, loved, and put our hearts and souls into getting help for our kids, only to witness failure after failure and to experience the risks and chaos they bring to everyone they touch. It doesn’t help to engage. Have you seen the Julia Robert’s movie Ben is Back? It is a decent portrayal of the reality of drug addiction. |
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No no no no no no.
Why is he a drug addict? What is his trauma? Are you willing to help him? Do you give him money or otherwise enable him? |
Anonymous
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OP if you decide to let your son move in, make sure to pick up some doses of Narcan and teach yourself, husband and younger son how to administer it.
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Anonymous
Horrible advice. |