MIL visiting, wants me to take PTO to sightsee

[Anonymous]

Where is OP??? There was supposed to be a call last night between DH and MIL and I am feeling very invested in making sure that MIL moves her trip.

[Anonymous]

PP. This is hilarious. I feel like this could be a movie scene with strangers all over waiting to see what happened.

[Anonymous]

Have you had a direct talk with her? Ask her: "MIL, we told you that we aren't available at that time. I can't leave to sight see with you unless we go out in the evening. What are you planning to do all day? I'm just having a really hard time understanding your plan. "

If you work From the spare room, mention that. She'll need to be up and out by a certain time. Explain to her that you need to know for your own peace of mind that she will be happy with this type of visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH needs to tell his mother that she cannot visit at this time and needs to reschedule her trip. It isn't a request.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea your mother in law sounds really unreasonable but I have zero sympathy for the work from homers whose home space has become cramped with work space and can no longer comfortably accommodate guests. If you worked in an office like a normal person you wouldn’t even have to see your MIL. You’d just go to work.

OP here. We are living here temporarily. DH's assignment ends Sept 2024. We do not need a huge house - DH has a housing 'allowance' that he gets for working here and max'ed it out with a 2 bed/2bath apartment in Arlington - we actually own a home in Arizona that my sister is living in while we are in the DC area.

DH will be traveling and you are working. Neither are available for her tourist to DC stuff and you don't have a place for her to sleep. Assume 2nd bedroom is your office and you do not have a guest room. None of this book a room at a library stuff. Maybe there's something specific she wants to see here that time period or it's related to some friends of hers being in town. In that case she can get a hotel in DC or ARL. Take you out to dinner once and the DH also if he's in town.

You owning a house elsewhere isn't relevant.

OP mentioned owning a house elsewhere because someone accused her of being terrible rude for not having enough space to accommodate guests while she worked from home.