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Anonymous wrote:This is my dh too. He has ADHD.
My solution is just to do it myself and he picks up other things. He just cannot do life management tasks. Buy birthday gifts for his parents? He'd be out trying to find something the morning of. One year I left Christmas to him and he was out shopping on Christmas eve rather than spending time with his family and small children. ffs.
So I knew something had to change and I changed myself. I decided I enjoyed emotional labor tasks like buying stuff, scheduling stuff, remembering stuff. I specifically tell dh to do discrete tasks and he does them. It helps that he's very hard working, not lazy and doesn't want to be forgetful. So I schedule the appointments for kids and he takes them. I plan the birthday parties, but he's there cooking and cleaning and hosting when I need him. I do feel like I have to boss him around, but he appreciates it. He asks for "honey do lists" because otherwise he can't figure out what needs done.
It is what it is. He's a wonderful dh, dad and best friend. Thank god he had the foresight to marry a Type A wife.
Yup! This is me too. Its worked well for us in our 32 years of marriage. I became a SAHM after my 2nd kid was born and he is incredibly grateful that I handle the family, finances, kids, relatives, social life, properties, health, education of kids, careers of kids, weddings etc. He on the other hand is a doting DH, loving dad, good provider and cooks all our meals.
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