DH does not take care of any life administration tasks

[Anonymous]

I got sick of the same dynamic in my marriage and eventually divorced.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you can be his mommy or his wife, but if he chooses mommy, he doesn't get his d*ck sucked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’ll probably change if you put out more.

Ha ha exactly. From the sound of OP she never puts out ever. Just complains and complains and complains.

Why would anyone put out for a DH who doesn't do anything? It's so unsexy.

[Anonymous]

Set up a family group chat (for the MIL chats) and a family email account/shared calendar with automated reminders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’ll probably change if you put out more.

Ha ha exactly. From the sound of OP she never puts out ever. Just complains and complains and complains.

Why would anyone put out for a DH who doesn't do anything? It's so unsexy.

Oh just stop. This is entirely on her. If he doesn’t engage with his family or invest his own money then that’s all on him. She’s clearly a control freak. And THAT is super unsexy.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, this is not unusual. Securing life insurance was on his list and it took five years. I asked him to schedule one orthodontist appointment and it’s been two months and rescheduled once.

But of course, he can do the work admin tasks he needs to do.

I have mostly accepted the family admin role. My consolation is that he does more household cleaning.

Why do you think married men live longer than single men - their wives often cook healthier meals, nag them to make that doctor’s appointment, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’ll probably change if you put out more.

Ha ha exactly. From the sound of OP she never puts out ever. Just complains and complains and complains.

Why would anyone put out for a DH who doesn't do anything? It's so unsexy.

Oh just stop. This is entirely on her. If he doesn’t engage with his family or invest his own money then that’s all on him. She’s clearly a control freak. And THAT is super unsexy.

Yes. And if the determinant of one's marital attraction is "responding to birthday party invites," that's pretty grim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’ll probably change if you put out more.

Not OP but making sure we have regular sex is mostly on me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drop the rope with his family members. And especially his friends, WTF.

+1, I don't know why you ever dealt with his friends for him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Drop the rope with his family members. And especially his friends, WTF.

+1, I don't know why you ever dealt with his friends for him

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’ll probably change if you put out more.

Because nothing revs up a woman’s engines faster than a giant man baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, another "my inadequate" DH thread?

Came here to say this. Maybe this can be combined with the identical thread from today?

Maybe if you stopped whining on DCUM (and undoubtedly other places) you’d have more time for administrative tasks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, another "my inadequate" DH thread?

Oh no, another inadequate DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’ll probably change if you put out more.

Go play Xbox. The adults are talking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop doing things. Why are you managing his relationship with his mother?

He doesn't call her so she comes to me. Same with the friends.

So refer them back to him, each and every time. And if it doesn’t happen, that’s his problem.

If it were me, after redirecting them a couple times, I’d stop answering entirely.