Drinks with female colleague

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. My wife has drinks with customers or work colleagues pretty much weekly. She has our entire marriage. I trust but verify (my first wife had multiple affairs). She’s always been truthfull with me.

Also, I can’t think of it being an issue going to drinks with any of my coworkers and I work with a lot of young, attractive people. I just don’t see myself having an interest in doing anything like that.

Good perspective. How do you verify?

[Anonymous]

Man here...I've been on plenty of fun group outings but don't spend one-on-one time with any of my coworkers, male or female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here...I've been on plenty of fun group outings but don't spend one-on-one time with any of my coworkers, male or female.

+1. I find it weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here...I've been on plenty of fun group outings but don't spend one-on-one time with any of my coworkers, male or female.

+1. I find it weird.

I don't spend one on one time with anyone who I suspect could make an allegation against me. Put differently, if I don't trust you, non one on one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here...I've been on plenty of fun group outings but don't spend one-on-one time with any of my coworkers, male or female.

I think I'm in a similar boat. I work remotely and so the only times I see colleagues are in group settings like the holiday party or in settings where there's also clients in the room. My client base is in DC so no overnights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here...I've been on plenty of fun group outings but don't spend one-on-one time with any of my coworkers, male or female.

Yeah people in my office tend to do things in groups/packs. Same with my team. I feel included and social but I don’t think there’s many people that hang out in pairs versus a pack

[Anonymous]

The only people I have known who routinely hung out in an opposite-sex pair at work ended up banging, eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only people I have known who routinely hung out in an opposite-sex pair at work ended up banging, eventually.

Same. Every single time.

[Anonymous]

Both my spouse and I do that. We bother travel some for work and both have work friends. It'd be very weird to refuse to get dinner or drinks with a colleague you're friends with on the road together. Either you're going to cheat or not. I don't think banning my husband from getting drinks with a female colleague would change any outcome.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think this woman would have any interest in your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think this woman would have any interest in your husband?

How many times do people post about affairs where the AP and cheating spouse seem to have nothing in common? Who knows what draws people in? That’s why some affairs are complete shocks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think this woman would have any interest in your husband?

Because she's willing to go have drinks with him alone?

[Anonymous]

No. In fact my husband met with a female colleague for drinks and sushi last night.

I’ve been to her house. I’ve met her husband. Our kids have been to each other’s birthday parties. She’s much more politically savvy than my husband and she’s given him good career advice. Our kids are the same age. They talk about work gossip, but also kids sports and camps.

He works in a very female dominated field and I work in a very male dominated field. I have similar relationships with male colleagues and my husband has never said anything about it. Several of my male colleagues came to our wedding and I’ve met their wives or invited their kids for play dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be jealous she could get him to talk for two hours.

LOL to this. My husband will talk to anyone about anything. I’d be thankful to have someone else talk to him sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. In fact my husband met with a female colleague for drinks and sushi last night.

I’ve been to her house. I’ve met her husband. Our kids have been to each other’s birthday parties. She’s much more politically savvy than my husband and she’s given him good career advice. Our kids are the same age. They talk about work gossip, but also kids sports and camps.

He works in a very female dominated field and I work in a very male dominated field. I have similar relationships with male colleagues and my husband has never said anything about it. Several of my male colleagues came to our wedding and I’ve met their wives or invited their kids for play dates.

I bet you are both ugly.