Drinks with female colleague

[Anonymous]

Would you feel uncomfortable if your spouse went for drinks with a colleague of the opposite sex? Drinks for 2+ hours?

[Anonymous]

Were they Alone the whole time or with work friends? Is she single? Is she same aged or a mentor?

If yes to all 3 then, yeah, I’d be concerned.

[Anonymous]

Are they the only two people going? Then yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you feel uncomfortable if your spouse went for drinks with a colleague of the opposite sex? Drinks for 2+ hours?

You know the situation better than we do. Was it with a group? While away on business? Are they working on a project together? Did you find out about it after the fact? Is her age and attractiveness level in the range of affair-possible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you feel uncomfortable if your spouse went for drinks with a colleague of the opposite sex? Drinks for 2+ hours?

You know the situation better than we do. Was it with a group? While away on business? Are they working on a project together? Did you find out about it after the fact? Is her age and attractiveness level in the range of affair-possible?

Rather are her age and…

[Anonymous]

One drink fine, 2+ hours. Not so comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Alone, same age.

Even if nothing is going on, the appearance of the situation is not good, IMO.

Thanks for the feedback.

[Anonymous]

I think can be fine. Not in my current job, but I’ve had opposite sex colleagues who have become good friends . We’re still friends and we all have small kids now, but we’d all be fine with this if it happened as it did back then.

[Anonymous]

What if she’s married but works for him and is 5-10 years younger?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if she’s married but works for him and is 5-10 years younger?

The colleague could be me. I’ve been married to my wife for several years now. I would have no interest in your husband/my colleague.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if she’s married but works for him and is 5-10 years younger?

The colleague could be me. I’ve been married to my wife for several years now. I would have no interest in your husband/my colleague.

Okay, what if she is straight and attractive?

[Anonymous]

Alone? Not necessary. They should just grab Starbucks during the workday like normal coworkers.

[Anonymous]

No why would I care if he went for drinks for 2hrs with a colleague?

I can’t imagine this stressing someone out.

[Anonymous]

I trust my wife completely. It wouldn't bother me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if she’s married but works for him and is 5-10 years younger?

The colleague could be me. I’ve been married to my wife for several years now. I would have no interest in your husband/my colleague.

Okay, what if she is straight and attractive?

So what if she is? The question is why are you so insecure that you’re asking some anonymous board. Grow up. Either you trust him and the foundation of your marriage or you don’t. It’s just a drink.