How older women react when they see me with younger GF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a lesson you should have learned much younger in life, but here, let me help you.

What you’re suffering from is called Main Character Syndrome. However much you think people care about you, your choices and what you’re doing, divide that by 1,000 and then maybe you’ll start to get close.

You’re welcome.

OP here: Thank you. Good point. But at the same time, some people clearly do care about the choices made by me and men who date even younger women. Many accuse us of of beeing creepy, gross, and even predatory. My point is that some post-menapausal (older) women are (maybe subconscously) more interested in me now. Obviously the women who seem to be more interested in me are not the women who post on DCUM (even though they are professionals, well educated, progressive, upper middle class, etc.).

You are so queer. No woman would be attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible that you’re just projecting confidence and happiness? And that’s why you’re being treated with positive regard?

OP here: This may be right.

But I do remember reading a line in a book by a famous author (once worshipped, now bordering on cancelled) who said that they key to a man getting attractive women was not being attractive but being seen with other attractive women. I read the book when I was in my 20s (when I was young and immature). So this is not a new idea.

Funny that you acknowledge that people in their twenties are immature, and yet you’re in a relationship with one in your fifties.

OP here. I guess my comment was too subtle for you. I was tyring to make fun of the people who say that women in their 20s are immature and can't be serious people. By the way, my GF is in her 30s, not her 20s, and she has a child.

[Anonymous]

OP here: What's with all the anti-gay comments? I'm not gay and I don't see the connection between dating a younger woman and being gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: What's with all the anti-gay comments? I'm not gay and I don't see the connection between dating a younger woman and being gay.

Straight men don’t say or concern themselves with the things you say. And for good measure, they certainly don’t post and peruse dcum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: What's with all the anti-gay comments? I'm not gay and I don't see the connection between dating a younger woman and being gay.

It’s not anti-gay. Just admit that you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I'm a few years over 50. GF is more than 20 years younger.

Based on conversations I've had with women my own age and based on comments here on DCUM, I figured I'd encounter a lot of hostility or negativity when older women saw me with GF. That hasn't happened much. I'm sure some older women are just being polite and really think I'm a disgusting lech.

But...

I've noticed a lot of older women now smile at me, flirt with me, and even ask me out on "not a date" dates. They constantly tell me they want to go out for walks in the park or meals or coffee. It's pretty obvious that they think I'm more attractive because of GF. I'm talking both about women I know pretty well and about women I don't know but meet briefly in public places.

GF is not a bimbo or a sugar baby. She's smart, accomplished and interesting. She's also very attractive. I guess other women assume that I must have something going for me if I can get a woman like GF.

For the first month or so I was with GF, she became angry when I brought up her age. She said I was being condescending when I talked about the age gap. She said she was attracted to me, she knew what she wanted, and I should respect her. She's a serious person. I think this comes across when we are out in public.

Am a woman, and I can absolutely promise you that is NOT the thought that people have. People see a middle aged man with a young 20’s girl and absolutely, 100% assume father / daughter. It doesn’t matter if you LOOK like her; I don’t look like my middle aged dad either and neither do any of my friends I can think of. These women think it’s sweet you’re spending time with your daughter.

And if they were to find out what’s going on, I PROMISE you, “oh wow, dating someone half his age? Hemust be such a CATCH!” is not the mindset. I assume there is a fundamental flaw or shortcoming in your personality…which is being proven here by your incessant posting about this and refusal to see that the simplest explanation is the most obvious one.

So much anger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm a few years over 50. GF is more than 20 years younger.

Based on conversations I've had with women my own age and based on comments here on DCUM, I figured I'd encounter a lot of hostility or negativity when older women saw me with GF. That hasn't happened much. I'm sure some older women are just being polite and really think I'm a disgusting lech.

But...

I've noticed a lot of older women now smile at me, flirt with me, and even ask me out on "not a date" dates. They constantly tell me they want to go out for walks in the park or meals or coffee. It's pretty obvious that they think I'm more attractive because of GF. I'm talking both about women I know pretty well and about women I don't know but meet briefly in public places.

GF is not a bimbo or a sugar baby. She's smart, accomplished and interesting. She's also very attractive. I guess other women assume that I must have something going for me if I can get a woman like GF.

For the first month or so I was with GF, she became angry when I brought up her age. She said I was being condescending when I talked about the age gap. She said she was attracted to me, she knew what she wanted, and I should respect her. She's a serious person. I think this comes across when we are out in public.

Am a woman, and I can absolutely promise you that is NOT the thought that people have. People see a middle aged man with a young 20’s girl and absolutely, 100% assume father / daughter. It doesn’t matter if you LOOK like her; I don’t look like my middle aged dad either and neither do any of my friends I can think of. These women think it’s sweet you’re spending time with your daughter.

And if they were to find out what’s going on, I PROMISE you, “oh wow, dating someone half his age? Hemust be such a CATCH!” is not the mindset. I assume there is a fundamental flaw or shortcoming in your personality…which is being proven here by your incessant posting about this and refusal to see that the simplest explanation is the most obvious one.

So much anger.

No, you just are embarrassed that you got served.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible that you’re just projecting confidence and happiness? And that’s why you’re being treated with positive regard?

OP here: This may be right.

But I do remember reading a line in a book by a famous author (once worshipped, now bordering on cancelled) who said that they key to a man getting attractive women was not being attractive but being seen with other attractive women. I read the book when I was in my 20s (when I was young and immature). So this is not a new idea.

Funny that you acknowledge that people in their twenties are immature, and yet you’re in a relationship with one in your fifties.

OP here. I guess my comment was too subtle for you. I was tyring to make fun of the people who say that women in their 20s are immature and can't be serious people. By the way, my GF is in her 30s, not her 20s, and she has a child.

How old is your boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Eww I am 24 and my dad is 58.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they think she is his daughter, maybe not. I always notice May/December couples as they stand out. The women tend to look a bit dated: they will be wearing high heels and tight white pants while other women their age are wearing trendy trainers and cropped, loose trousers. Always with long hair and a full face of make-up. The men are far more dressed up than the average father with at least one element that is trying to be trendy: a linen blazer or a Robert Graham type shirt, slip on loafers, etc. He will be looking around as a flex to see who is checking him out with his hot chick. It is not uncommon for the man to be white and the woman to be another ethnicity.

[Anonymous]

I’m a 50 year old woman and I am definitely not checking out any guy over the age of maybe 37. After almost 40 years of this sh-t, I am so over men. I’ll still check out the hot ones (not middle aged men) but I’m definitely not asking someone for a stroll in the park! Basically unless you’re the guy from outlander, Bridgetrton or this Italian sitcom I just watched….you can take yourself for that walk.

[Anonymous]

43 year old woman here. When I see a match like yours, I assume the man has money or the woman has daddy issues. The oldest I ever dated was 12 years when I was 20. He was 32, and it lasted about a month. My parents freaked out, and when I broke up with him, I realized what I found attractive was he was established and could take me on vacations and buy me clothes. Other than that, he was an "old man" to me, which I can now clearly see.

[Anonymous]

They probably think its adorable that you are spending so much quality time with your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Maybe they think she is his daughter, maybe not. I always notice May/December couples as they stand out. The women tend to look a bit dated: they will be wearing high heels and tight white pants while other women their age are wearing trendy trainers and cropped, loose trousers. Always with long hair and a full face of make-up. The men are far more dressed up than the average father with at least one element that is trying to be trendy: a linen blazer or a Robert Graham type shirt, slip on loafers, etc. He will be looking around as a flex to see who is checking him out with his hot chick. It is not uncommon for the man to be white and the woman to be another ethnicity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Maybe they think she is his daughter, maybe not. I always notice May/December couples as they stand out. The women tend to look a bit dated: they will be wearing high heels and tight white pants while other women their age are wearing trendy trainers and cropped, loose trousers. Always with long hair and a full face of make-up. The men are far more dressed up than the average father with at least one element that is trying to be trendy: a linen blazer or a Robert Graham type shirt, slip on loafers, etc. He will be looking around as a flex to see who is checking him out with his hot chick. It is not uncommon for the man to be white and the woman to be another ethnicity.